Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck
Ok, you can't seem to understand, law is not fair, it is legal, it has nothing, not a single thing to do with right and wrong, get that silly idea outof your head.
It is only what you can prove in court. An the judge is the "god" in the court room. And he has the right to decide what evidence he will accept and what he will not. He is suppose to follow set guidelines but in family court there is alot more open to accept or not accept various evidence.
And this is how it works, they submit evidence and if you can prove it incorrect it will not be used. If they do not provide the evidence you want, you have to file a motion in court to have it redid, if not it will be accepted, it is not the judge that will just throw it out, it has to be either just inot proper or the other side has to object.
Also you can't appeal just because you don't like what the judge decides. There has to be specific grounds to appeal basied on NY law of appeals.
So you don't like the truth sorry, without an attorney, going against someone with an attorney, esp in family court you have almost no chance at all of winning without an attorney, that is just it, they will know what motions to file to tie it up and they will know what to serve that you won't answer properly.
As for as child support, there should be a min about that you can get no matter what. So how and why you are not getting support, was there specific orders of support requested ?? Again it is not automaticly given you have to file specific motions to get the child support, and it is not automaticly part of a divorce procedure.
And so you don't want to pay 1500 a month alimony, sorry if the judge rules it, and you don't have a reason to appeal, you will pay, sorry getting mad about it does not help, in fact that is what the other side wants you to do, since when you get mad you stop thinking and normally do more to help thier side.