Custody and Child Support
I have some questions regarding custody and child support.
My ex-fiance (never married) and I broke up after he got arrested for domestic violence. He did not get convicted of this but I did get a restraining order against him, protecting myself and our son. He assaulted me while I was holding our child putting both myself and our child in danger.
I have since dropped the restraining order but we are still figuring out what to do about custody. He has refused to sit down with me and make a parenting plan. He just tells me that he wants visitation of our son whenever he is not working, which I do not think is fair since he only works 2 to 3 days per week. That would not allow me any time with him, since the days he wouldn't have him, I would be at work. Right now I am allowing him to see him (with me present) pretty much anytime he wants. I am not a big fan of this since I am having to cancel plans to accommodate what he wants. As of right now he does not have any rights to see our son, because he hasn't gone to court to establish parental rights.
He is now telling me that he doesn't want us to go to court at all to get custody sorted out. I would assume that he doesn't want to do this because he now realizes that once sorted out he will have to start paying child support. I want to have a formal parenting plan and also have formal residential custody (which he doesn't want me to get, because of the child support thing), but I do not want to deal with arguing with him in order to get this.
What should I do? Should I take him to court or will this just make things get messy?
A few background details: He does not have a place to live right now (he is staying with a friend who is kicking him out at the end of the month, and his credit score is too low to rent an apartment), he is on probation with his job for stealing and the case is under investigation so he still may be fired, We live in Kansas.