Any lawyer that tries to file what you say should just take up their shingle and try a new occupation.
Your wanting to put the cart before the horse and expecting to get somewhere. Until he doesn't show you can't ask for a continuance. The affidavits are evidence and don't need to be filed until time of hearing or trial. At the hearing when the other party doesn't show he can make the requests as part of the pleading for continuance.
You go to court. Judge asks where the defendant is. You make your plea as why service never occurred and why it should be done in another fashion. The problem is that a TRO is very specific on how it must be handled and the rules that apply. You have stripped him of rights without representation. That is why there is a hearing on the matter so quickly. And I hope that your lawyer has explained to you that its not permanent in the sense of lasting forever. It lasts for 2 1/2 years. And can be renewed.
You either need to make a choice or move along. And if you do select another lawyer be prepared to bring lots of money. As your case is not open and shut so quickly.

