I think I can sum it up like this Jacobsmommy...

The court does not care one little bit what you want and what is convenient for you. It cares what is fair to the father and what is best for the kids.

It does not seem like you moving out of state is either fair for the father OR best for the kids.

I am considering at this point to take this agreement and shove it down his throat.. I just received a phone call from him screaming drunk telling me that my baby (HIS CHILD) stole his wallet and he wants me to bring him down there NOW . Keep in mind that he is not supposed to consume alcohol around my kids and my son just left his house an hour ago. Sometimes I wish I could just take them away permanently.He doesn't deserve them.

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Originally Posted by Jacobsmommy123

I am considering at this point to take this agreement and shove it down his throat .. I jsut recieved a phone call from him screaming drunk telling me that my baby (HIS CHILD) stole his wallet and he wants me to bring him down there NOW . keep in mind that he is not supposed to consume alcohol around my kids and my son jsut left his house an hour ago. Sometimes I wish I could just take them away permanently.He doesnt deserve them.

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Be that as it may...

Keep this in mind... fighting with the father is counterproductive. If he is angry with you he will be much less likely to give you what you want.

Thanks for all your advice.. I really appriciate it.

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Originally Posted by Jacobsmommy123

I am considering at this point to take this agreement and shove it down his throat .. I jsut recieved a phone call from him screaming drunk telling me that my baby (HIS CHILD) stole his wallet and he wants me to bring him down there NOW . keep in mind that he is not supposed to consume alcohol around my kids and my son jsut left his house an hour ago. Sometimes I wish I could just take them away permanently.He doesnt deserve them.

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Here's my problem - I believe this is the fourth thread you've opened on this subject. You pretty much have ignored all the advice, posted some of the info and moved on to another thread. Personally, I'm exhausted.

If he is a DANGER to the children, go to Court and prove it. I don't know - maybe he got drunk between the time your son left his house and now. Maybe he drank when your son was there. I don't know. Nobody knows.

Again - go to Court and PROVE your accusations. Have a Court appointed professional interview everyone - you, him, the children - and make recommendations to the Court. If he doesn't "deserve" your children get an Order that he can't see your children.

You keep saying "my" in reference to the children - good, bad or indifferent they are also HIS children.

I started 100% on your side - now I simply can't understand how/why you are spending so much time and energy on an agreement which even if your husband (somehow) signs the Court is NEVER going to put into place. If the children are in danger, do something, do something to protect them.

It is time to combine ALL of the threads. I'm sorry you are upset; I'm sorry you are going through this BUT you are spinning your wheels and wasting time and energy.

Do something productive!

Threads merged. Please don't keep starting new threads for the same issue.