Here is where I am coming from and I can't do all states, but I do know it has been done.

Relinquishment usually occurs as adoption plans are being made. However, relinquishment is sometimes sought where the likelihood of adoption is remote, as where the other parent does not want to relinquish his or her parental rights. If a proposed relinquishment of parental rights is not in contemplation of adoption, under §32A-5-24(C) the court may not allow the relinquishment unless it finds that:

Good cause exists;
CYFD has made reasonable efforts to preserve the family; and
Relinquishment is in the child's best interest.
A parent who relinquishes under this subsection remains financially responsible for the child and the court may order the parent to pay the reasonable costs of the child's support and may use the child support guidelines. §32A-5-24(C).

JudyKayTee agrees: Wow - flies in the face of everything I've ever seen happen. Very informative, certainly changes what I've always believed. Do you have anything from NYS?

Yes,I have some:) :) :)

You can go and sign away your rights. Also if she did die you could give the child up for adoption and never see that child again. If she get married and the guy wants to adopt and you want to sign over your full prental rights you won't half to pay. Also NO parrents is responsible for their kids college money. Same as you can not force a kid to go to school. I know this for a fact I have friends who have given up their rights to pepole in their family and out side of their family as well. They are in NO way obligated to pay anything once it is final (they are responsible for suport up until the date as final.) I would go to a lawyer and tell them you won't to give up rights. Once the rights are given up though that is it. Also I have a friend was adopted at around 4. Her biological Mom in this case didn't want her anymore, gave up her rights and never saw her or paid a dime. So their are ways out depending on your state. Good luck hope that helps. Also I want to say you are doing a lot more then most guys who do not want a child you are paying child suport and that says a lot.