Then the father HAS to go to court and have HIS rights enforced, he doesn't just decide to do nothing or walk away.

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Steve, a review is where your income and expense are reported. The other is called like a payment coupon and it has the amount that is paid every month and then below that it has a place where 50 dollars is added to it for arrears that he has.

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Thanks... cause you know... I didn't know ANYTHING about family law. /sarcasm

So because YOU (personally... not your husband) didn't see the paperwork, it was never sent. There is no possibility that he didn't show/tell you about it. Its all the court's fault. With all 3 families.

Like I said before - we can argue this all day, but its not going to change the fact that the ONLY thing that can be done is your husband needs to go back to all 3 courts and file for modification. There ARE no other options.

FR_Chuck, We just moved a few months ago its not like we have lived here for years. I am saying when we lived in Tn we got the two the when we were suppose to the other kid he has never seen before and I don't know the truth around that sitituation.

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He got his children every weekend that he was suppose towhen we lived in the state they live in. The moms will never give him a break because they hate the fact we got married and have a child of our own.

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Why should they give him a break? Because he is obviously such a winning guy?

Must be wise to spend all your time educating us on your situation when you don't know the truth of the situation.

Maybe it's time to have a sit down with your lying husband and find out just where he has been letting these situations slide.

No I get the mail because I am unemployed I got laid off he works from six thirty in the morning to eight at night so there is no possible way I didn't see it. And again I am not arguing with you some things I just don't think you understand as well as some I don't understand what you are saying

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FR_Chuck, We just moved a few months ago its not like we ahve lived here for years. i am saying when we lived in Tn we got the two the when we were suppose to the other kid he has never seen before and i dont know the truth around that sitituation.

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Listen, I'm not trying to be mean here... but I suspect that there is A LOT about all of this that you don't actually know the truth of.

I appreciate that you are trying to make a better life for your child... but he has 3 more that he is responsible for. And all the arguing in the world isn't going to change that.

How do you know that they had it mailed to that address?

They are not in contact with you, then how would they know the correct address with which to send it.

They could have also mailed it to him at his work, since that address they would have because of child support.

Well we receive things from child support at this address and two he just started a new job today so it was not sent else where thsts how I know

Does all the kids even live in TN? If not, you can't go by the law where you live you have to go by the law in which the child resides.

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Well we recieve things from child support at this address and two he just started a new job today so it was not sent else where thsts how i know

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Ok then - if he really didn't receive the paperwork, he needs to go back to court and have the judgment reversed due to improper service. The mother will then file the same paperwork again.

Yaeh they all live in TN

Well we go back to TN in May so he needs to take care of it then cause we can't afford to drive to Tn every month

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Well we go back to TN in May so he needs to take care of it then cause we can't afford to drive to Tn every month

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Um... the court doesn't care what your schedule is like. He will very likely need to go back there half a dozen times... for EACH child that he wants to modify support for.

More if the mother's are vindictive.

Good luck with that.

Seems like if it was calculated so incorrectly you would find a way to ensure that it was handled properly.

Well I guess what every takes to get things right I am just tired of him being run over by everyone and not knowing himself what to do I am just here to try and help him and support him with everything he needs help with. He is 30 years old and his parents treat him like his 10 I am just here to help with all of this not boss him around.

Just one of the supports need to be modified the others are acutlly done right

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Well i guess what every takes to get things right i am just tired of him being run over by everyone and not knowing himself what to do i am just here to try and help him and support him with everything he needs help with. He is 30 years old and his parents treat him like his 10 i am just here to help with all of this not boss him around.

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Not for nothing, but having someone boss him around might be what he needs. He doesn't seem capable of handling things himself.

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Just one of the supports need to be modified the others are acutlly done right

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Or one is done right and the other two are wrong. That IS a possibility.

All I'm saying is that they ALL need to be revisited.

His parents treat him like he is ten because that is what his behavior shows...

If he steps up and matures then he may see some relief from that.

Well thank you for your advise even though I am little hard headed with some of it. I guess we need to request it to be modified and go from there. THANK YOU

No you just don't understand they agree that the child support is done correctly it has nothing to do with that its just how they are and it doesn't help our issues at all it just becomes more problems

I mean not done correctly

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Steve, a review is where your income and expense are reported. The other is called like a payment coupon and it has the amount that is paid every month and then below that it has a place where 50 dollars is added to it for arrears that he has.

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Well this tells me that at some point he fell behind.

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Well thank you for your advise even though i am little hard headed with some of it. I guess we need to request it to be modified and go from there. THANK YOU

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OK, lets cut to the chase here.
Since this is a Law forum, lets stopp ragging on the father, who is not posting here. Whether he should be a better father to his earlier children belongs in another forum.

So lets go back to the original request about terminating rights. I think you now understand that that isn't going to happen. Even in the unlikely event it did happen, it wouldn't affect the support he owes. So lets drop that issue.

If you feel that his child support is being deducted unfairly, then you need to first learn the rules for child support in TN. You then need to go back to court and ask for a modification if the rules are not being followed. And, if you are disputing that the rules are being followed, I strongly suggest getting an attorney on your side.