While I do agree, I don't see how this could have gone any other way.

This couldn't have been placed in the mental health forum, only because the OP didn't ask for help for her child, she asked for help to get rid of her child by reversing the adoption.

Yes, the child has issues. Yes, we may have been able to help, or at least lead the OP in the right direction. But the OP never asked for that sort of help. The OP specifically asked how to reverse the adoption she legally went after 14 years ago. She only asked how to legally severe her ties to this child.

If she had asked for help with the issues the child is displaying, this thread would never have gone the way it did. In other words, the thread took the turn it did because of the OP and her question.

We can only answer the questions placed before us. We can't offer mental help to a child when someone doesn't ask for that help, and we can't be expected to say nothing when that person only asks how to get rid of a child she no longer wants because of mental issues.

In other words, we weren't attacking, we were stating the obvious. The only part that could be construed as an attack is that we were all unanimous in how we felt. But who wouldn't be? Who wouldn't be upset, angry even, that someone would ask how to give up a 14 year old child, instead of asking how to help that 14 year old child?

Probably much of this conversation is out of order and unnecessary but I don't see a question about how to help this child.

I see a question about how to reverse an adoption and get out from under.

If children born to drug addicted mothers are in danger of wanting to kill their families, attempting to strangle siblings, pushing parents down staircases, then adoption agencies should "warn" prospective parents. I'm not saying to warehouse children born to drug addicted mothers. I'm saying to at least provide counselling to prospective parents.

Sad all the way around.