Ask Me Help Desk - My daughters dads lawyer also represented his ex wife in their divorce.

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Originally Posted by Alty

I'm going to give you even more advice. Like it or not, not everyone believes in God. So bringing up "I work for God" really doesn't make a difference. Judy's post is valid. If everyone worked for free, I agree it would be better world, but sadly, that's not realistic. If you want a roof over your head, food on the table, education, and more, than you can't work for free. Suggesting that people that work for money, expect to be paid for their services, are insulting, is not right.

I feel for you. Here's the thing. You came here expecting an easy fix, and easy answer, and that's not reality. Your issues are going to cost you money, because you need a lawyer, and finding one that will take your case pro bono, well, you'd have more luck playing the lottery. We sympathize with your financial situation, we're sorry that you can't afford a lawyer, but that's the only advice we can give. We're not here to give you money. Trust me, I'm not financially secure either. I can't afford a lawyer. I get it. But it seems like you're expecting someone on this site to fix everything, and that's just not possible. We can't fix your financial situation. We can only give you advice on what to do. If you can't afford to do it, then sorry. There's nothing anyone on this site can do about that.

A lawyer can help you with that. We can't. You posted a question here on how to proceed. You were given advice. From your posts, it seems that you either came here to vent about the unfair treatment of you and your daughter, or vent about not being able to afford to get this settled, but you didn't post for actual advice. You were given advice. If you can't afford to follow that advice, or refuse to take that advice, then there's really nothing we can do. Did you post here hoping someone would say "Oh, you poor dear, how much should I make the check out to?"
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Again, I'm sorry that you're facing all of this.

What were you expecting from this site? That's the question I'm asking. What did you think we could do to help? You've really been given the only advice, the only help, anyone on this site can offer. It's up to you what to do with it, and I can only wish you the best of luck.

How dare you speak for everyone on this forum? Why are you saying "we" my intentions were not to bixtch or vent and I never once asked ANYONE for free services or advice. I definatley wouldn't be on a free site scouting for a free lawyer or money! How dare you suggest that?
You should be ashamed for suggesting I am here for A HANDOUT! Yes I am without funds due to agreeing to be a stay
At home mom so her father could build his business and I worked at home for 3 yrs for his and my daughters future because we were not married I ended up with a rental he put us
Into while I was getting building permits and searching deeds and water lines and all the work that people pay lawyers for I did it all while taking care of our house bills and little girl. I realize it was my choice to agree to such a risky situation. I gave up my dreams and put all my effort into our family and future I didn't expect to catch my daughters father buying prostitutes and buying cocaine! Ww were a family I thought I could trust in his promises to myself and daughter...
My ? Was how can I make sure my daughter is safe and stable and in a healthy loving environment and what does shared parental rights mean as far as his responsibility for transportation and doctors and all that goes with being a parent? And do I just forget all that matters becauae I don't have money? Are you saying to keep my daughter safe I NEED to have a lawyer and money? So are you saying I have to let it go and pray my daughters safe and doesn't get hurt by her fathers activities and lack of responsibilties? I just got my answer.
To keep my child safe and to get the lawyer and father to get me a title as ordered and to follow the judges decision and order I need money? That's really sad that we can't protect our rights and children because of money. I cameherecauae it's a free site and aren't you given free advuce and your time? Not everybody thinks like you say. I think there are people en here who help and others are just obviously wanting to prove they know the law. You sound like a very self riteous person and you act like your defending lawyers and yourself I'm not attacking lawyers jyst stating facts Ty

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Originally Posted by AK lawyer

Was she to do something, or did the judge order her client to do something?

In the former case she could be sanctioned perhaps.
In the latter case he could be held in contempt of court
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Yes she signed the amended agreement and he did not the judge signed as well and she agreed to getting the title to me herself and she came up with the idea of his sister dropping child off and doing the pick ups and it waa for my protection and now ahes saying she meant his sister will come with him to ,make sure there's no issues the judge asked if I agree and I stated as long as she's nice and doesn't start arguing w me in front of my child and that I was afraid of the father so it made sense now his sisters (both) cone with the father so wheres myprotection. Thank you for not slamming me

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Are you saying to keep my daughter safe I NEED to have a lawyer and money? So are you saying I have to let it go and pray my daughters safe and doesn't get hurt by her fathers activities and lack of responsibilties? I just got my answer.
To keep my child safe and to get the lawyer and father to get me a title as ordered and to follow the judges decision and order I need money?

Yes, to protect your legal rights, you need a lawyer, and lawyers cost money. That's exactly what I'm saying.

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That's really sad that we can't protect our rights and children because of money.

It is sad, but it's also reality. Just because you don't think it's fair, and I don't think it's fair, doesn't change anything. You can whine about how sad and unfair it is, all you want. Unless you can get a lawyer that will take on your case for free, you'll have to pay, and paying means money. That's reality, and that's life.

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I cameherecauae it's a free site and aren't you given free advuce and your time?

I read this 10 times, and I still have no idea what you mean. Yes, you came here because it's a free site, and our advice is free. The solution to your problem though, is not always free. Our advice is, but what you have to do to solve your problem, isn't.

The part I don't understand is " arent you given free advuce and your time". I post on this site because I choose to. I can ask questions, just like you. In fact, I just asked a legal question myself, and guess what? I have to pay in order to fix it, just like you do. So yes, I am given free advice. My time, I give my time on this site for free, and my advice as well. If that's what you're trying to say, I don't see how that matters in your case.

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Not everybody thinks like you say. I think there are people en here who help and others are just obviously wanting to prove they know the law.

You really don't get it, do you? We did help you. We gave the only valid advice we could, based on what you wrote, or what we could understand of what you wrote (which admittedly wasn't much). The fact is, this is a legal issue. You asked a legal question. If you just wanted to vent about the injustices you face, just wanted someone to say "That jerk, you poor thing, I feel for you" then why did you post in the legal forum? You posted in a forum that is law based. So of course you're going to get legal advice, or as you say "they know the law."

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You sound like a very self riteous person and you act like your defending lawyers and yourself I'm not attacking lawyers jyst stating facts Ty

Defending lawyers? LMAO! Thanks! I needed the laugh. I despise lawyers! I'm with you! I don't think people should suffer because they can't afford to hire a lawyer to fix their legal issues. But that's not reality, especially not in your case. Trust me, if there was a way for you to fix the mess you're in without legal help, I'd tell you. You can attack lawyers all you want, I've never met one that won't screw you for everything he/she can. Sadly, unless you know the law, and can defend yourself, you'll need a lawyer. Lawyers don't work for free.

So, the question is, did you come here for legal advice (that's a fair assumption seeing as you posted this in the law forum, family law to be exact) or did you come here to vent and get sympathy and attack anyone that didn't tell you what you want to hear?

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Originally Posted by Alty

I'm going to give you even more advice. Like it or not, not everyone believes in God. So bringing up "I work for God" really doesn't make a difference. Judy's post is valid. If everyone worked for free, I agree it would be better world, but sadly, that's not realistic. If you want a roof over your head, food on the table, education, and more, than you can't work for free. Suggesting that people that work for money, expect to be paid.

I feel for you. Here's the thing. You came here expecting an easy fix, and easy answer, and that's not reality. Your issues are going to cost you money, because you need a lawyer, and finding one that will take your case pro bono, well, you'd have more luck playing the lottery. We sympathize with your financial situation, we're sorry that you can't afford a lawyer, but that's the only advice we can give. We're not here to give you money. Trust me, I'm not financially secure either. I can't afford a lawyer. I get it. But it seems like you're expecting someone on this site to fix everything, and that's just not possible. We can't fix your financial situation. We can only give you advice on what to do. If you can't afford to do it, then sorry. There's nothing anyone on this site can do about that.

A lawyer can help you with that. We can't. You posted a question here on how to proceed. You were given advice. From your posts, it seems that you either came here to vent about the unfair treatment of you and your daughter, or vent about not being able to afford to get this settled, but you didn't post for actual advice. You were given advice. If you can't afford to follow that advice, or refuse to take that advice, then there's really nothing we can do. Did you post here hoping someone would say "Oh, you poor dear, how much should I make the check out to?"
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Again, I'm sorry that you're facing all of this.

What were you expecting from this site? That's the question I'm asking. What did you think we could do to help? You've really been given the only advice, the only help, anyone on this site can offer. It's up to you what to do with it, and I can only wish you the best of luck.

I still can't believe you assumed I was expecting a handout or sympathy by the way what's a Pet expert? Forgive my ignorance does
T mean yr an expert of some sort? Serious?

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Originally Posted by hisloss2

I still can't beleive you assumed i was expecting a handout or sympathy btw whats a Pet expert? Forgive my ignorance does
t mean yr an expert of some sort? Serious?

I never assumed you were expecting a handout, that was your assumption. I only said that legal representation would cost you money, that it wouldn't be free like you want it to be, and that you've been given the only advice that anyone can offer, based on everything you've written that was decipherable.

You're the one that was outraged that it would cost you money to fix this, and even more outraged that the only advice you were given was to seek legal council, which wouldn't be free. Read back.

Since you obviously only want to start a fight with me, I'll unsubscribe from this thread. If you want to discuss my expertise, start a new thread in the proper forum.

Good luck, and good bye. I'm out. You may want to remember that everyone posting on your thread, is doing it for free, so a little bit of respect for that, and a lot less whining and anger, will go a long way. Just a tip.

Bye now.

It's time to close this - OP wants to vent, not get advice. Once the insults and God start flying the legal questions have been answered.

This is another example when I don't understand why "responses" are allowed to stand, also an example of why the OP is losing. With a temper and mindset like hers the OP has absolutely no chance.

And, yes, I'm defending any Attorney who was forced to deal with this person.

As I believe is the case with anyone who knows everything she should represent herself.