Ask Me Help Desk - Can someone be forced to give up their parental rights?

The equivalent of asking what to do about a mosquito bite on WebMD and being answered with "You're probably a bad person, that mosquito bite might be cancerous."

Since this is online, I am aware that this site is full of severely insecure people that have nothing better to do than to try to let other people down as a means to feel better about their emotionally poor selves. Which is why I will not disclose the many reasons my daughter's mother is a horrible person. I just feel so awful that SHE is the one there for her right now and not me.

With that said, nothing anyone says to me over the safety and anonymity of the internet will affect my feelings about myself.
I'm an amazing, positive person that can't be let down, and I can't wait until my daughter is able to experience me and my love for her.

I have all I need. Thank you for your responses, everyone.

I agreed to pay childsupport, with no contest because at the beginning of all this, me and the mother were on great terms and I was spending a lot of time with my daughter. That was also when I got the lawyer, to make sure the payments were as low as possible because I had just gotten out of high school and started college (the mother was also fine with this at the time.)
It wasn't until later, when after a petty disagreement, she said she didn't want me seeing my daughter anymore. And then, about 6 months later I found out she was married and had moved somewhere via an article in a newspaper. I guess I was just too young and dumb to realize I could use my lawyer to force visitation. I've been too worried about finishing school so I can show my daughter how successful I've become and that I can support her. I'm still young and dumb, but I'm working on that! ;)

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Originally Posted by DuquetteRoxx

I agreed to pay childsupport, with no contest because at the beginning of all this, me and the mother were on great terms and I was spending a lot of time with my daughter. That was also when I got the lawyer, to make sure the payments were as low as possible ...

You have probably figured this out by now, but:

Big mistake on the part of you and the lawyer to not at the same time agree to specific visitation rights.

First, you came here asking for advice. We give advice to the best of our abilities based on the information we are provided as well as our knowledge of the law. If someone tells you the sky is green when all your knowledge and experience tells you its blue, you are going to question that person.

We get loads of questions from people who give false information or don't tell us the whole story because they don't want to face the truth. Frequently the truth comes to light as we try to get more info.

Yes we have questioned what you have told us about support because it goes totally against what we have learned about the support process. Despite our misgivings about that we have tried to help you. And in answer you attempt to insult us.

The law is very often not something that we can give a yes or no answer to. You started asking if your rights could be forcibly terminated to allow the mother's husband to adopt. In that initial post you mentioned nothing about the mother running away. You did call her psychotic and unstable without proving any back up for labeling her so. With each post you revealed a little more info, some of it not fitting with our knowledge and experience. So we questioned it.

As for the Amber alert, as AK said you would not have gotten in trouble. In fact, Amber alerts have been used in parental kidnapping cases.

You say you were too young and dumb to realize your attorney could force visitation, but that's why you have an attorney to advise you about things you don't know. Your attorney should have advised you of all these things.

So, do you want us to help you or do you want to just moan about all the mistakes you have made and give up on your daughter? Are you going to stop insulting us to make you feel better or what?

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Originally Posted by DuquetteRoxx

The equivalent of asking what to do about a mosquito bite on WebMD and being answered with "You're probably a bad person, that mosquito bite might be cancerous."

Since this is online, I am aware that this site is full of severely insecure people that have nothing better to do than to try to let other people down as a means to feel better about their emotionally poor selves. Which is why I will not disclose the many reasons why my daughter's mother is a horrible person. I just feel so awful that SHE is the one there for her right now and not me.

With that said, nothing anyone says to me over the safety and anonymity of the internet will affect my feelings about myself.
I'm an amazing, positive person that can't be let down, and I can't wait until my daughter is able to experience me and my love for her.

I have all I need. Thank you for your responses, everyone.

"We" may be "severely insecure people that have nothing better to do than to try to let other people down as a means to feel better about their emotionally poor selves" but "we" don't let years go by without seeing our children and, as I said, "we" would have sent out an Amber Alert. By the time you are able to demonstrate what an amazing positive person you are your daughter may well be too old to caqre - or want to be involved.

Oh, and you sure did let your daughter down.

Did you ever explain why your call under the Amber Alert law when your child was missing would have gotten you arrested? I believe I mentioned that several posts ago.