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Originally Posted by Densam1982

You all are not giving legal advice, you are giving opinions! I understand if there is nothing we can do about this, but, don't run him into the dirt for not knowing what to do about the matter. Yes he messed up because he didn't fight it, I never denied that now did I? Maybe I would be more respectful if people would just stop being so hateful. I get what I give and that is it. The reason I posted the I don't want your two sense just actual black and whit legal advice was because of your hateful remarks on the last thread this8384. That is why I closed it.

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Opinions based on cases law and fact are advice. And again, this is a site where people give advice for FREE. If you don't want peoples advice pay someone and tell HIM what advice he can give you.

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Originally Posted by Densam1982

You all are not giving legal advice, you are giving opinions! I understand if there is nothing we can do about this, but, don't run him into the dirt for not knowing what to do about the matter. Yes he messed up because he didn't fight it, I never denied that now did I? Maybe I would be more respectful if people would just stop being so hateful. I get what I give and that is it. The reason I posted the I don't want your two sense just actual black and whit legal advice was because of your hateful remarks on the last thread this8384. That is why I closed it.

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I have to admit, this one had me laughing. My "hateful remarks"? Is that supposed to be a joke? And fyi, you didn't close anything. You just started a new thread, rather than correcting what you didn't post originally.

You have gotten legal advice; your problem is that you don't like it. Just because you don't like it doesn't mean it's wrong. It's certainly not inaccurate.

You cannot do anything about the back support; no way, no how. Your husband should have been asking for advice when he first got ordered to pay support, not wait until his wife decided to start arguments on an advice board.

Ok - here is some advice.

1) get used to paying child support
2) get used to "baggage", although most people would be happy to have a child
3) stop being so self righteous - this is the internet... you get what you put into it.
4) if you are concerned with your tax return, you file Form 8379 as the "Injured Spouse" which will allow you to keep your portion of the refund. Your tax professional should be able to handle that.
5) you might have 3 kids. Your husband has 4... and that 4th is entitled to support also. He has been supporting your 3... sorry for them that he is late on dealing with his 4th.
6) adjust your tax withholdings so you aren't getting such a large return.

There... 6 sound pieces of advice.

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Originally Posted by stevetcg

Ok - here is some advice.

1) get used to paying child support
2) get used to "baggage", although most people would be happy to have a child
3) stop being so self righteous - this is the internet... you get what you put into it.
4) if you are concerned with your tax return, you file Form 8379 as the "Injured Spouse" which will allow you to keep your portion of the refund. Your tax professional should be able to handle that.
5) you might have 3 kids. Your husband has 4... and that 4th is entitled to support also. He has been supporting your 3... sorry for them that he is late on dealing with his 4th.
6) adjust your tax withholdings so you arent getting such a large return.

There... 6 sound pieces of advice.

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Or is that 6 sound pieces of opinion? According to the OP, nobody on this site has any idea what the law is.

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Originally Posted by this8384

Or is that 6 sound pieces of opinion? According to the OP, nobody on this site has any idea what the law is.

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I would disagree with myself if I could. :)

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I would disagree with myself if I could. :)

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Well I would disagree with you too, but apparently all I'm capable of is "posting nasty comments" :)

Don't you love it when people beg for legal advice, get it, and then complain that it's wrong after admitting that they don't know the law themselves?

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Originally Posted by Densam1982

LOL, once again someone is assuming I was calling the child baggage. Did I say his child is baggage? Nope, don't believe I did. I talk to her all the time. By "baggage" I am referring to the financial mess that my husband, and his ex created. She shouldn't have waited 5 years to file child support either. It's not like she dealt with this the right way from the start either. Not saying he is all right either, in fact, never said that. And filing injured spouse costs 400 out of my pocket today that I don't have! And I would have to wait 6 months to get it back. Rather her just get the money for the next 2 years and pay it off so they will quit taking money every year.

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Ok - so you don't want opinions OR advice... what is it that you actually want?

As for the baggage issue... that's how it reads. You cannot fault anyone for how we interpret it. I appoligize if I jumped to a conclusion based on what I read, but in absence of anything to the contrary, that's what I had to work with.

What the mother should or shouldn't do is not our concern. If you hate her, start a blog. This is a legal board for legal discussions. Sucks that it hurts your family now, but she is doing what she is entitled to do. She dealt with it in a way that worked for her, as is her right. The fact that it affects you is not her problem. If it is such a huge issue, get a divorce and then it won't be your problem anymore either.

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Originally Posted by this8384

Well I would disagree with you too, but apparently all I'm capable of is "posting nasty comments" :)

Don't you love it when people beg for legal advice, get it, and then complain that it's wrong after admitting that they don't know the law themselves?

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There are so many things I love about this thread that I don't even know where to start. :)

I'm still not understanding what the argument is. She doesn't seem to think he should have to pay back support. I guess she's not realizing that this is his legal obligation, whether he knew about it or not; it costs money to raise a child and he needs to help.
She says she understands that, but then argues that it's not fair... I'm really confused by this whole situation!

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I'm still not understanding what the argument is. She doesn't seem to think he should have to pay back support. I guess she's not realizing that this is his legal obligation, whether he knew about it or not; it costs money to raise a child and he needs to help.
She says she understands that, but then argues that it's not fair....I'm really confused by this whole situation!

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From what I understand the OP is angry that her husband couldn't be bothered to show up to his court date and got served with a default judgement and since apparently being P.Od at him doesn't do it for her, she comes here to be P.O'd at us instead.

The poster is not wanting to hear the truth, not wanting to hear what needed to be done and needs to stop being so hateful if they are ever going to get real help. They are attacking the very peeople that are givig them real legal advice, because it is not what they want to hear.

No wonder they may not have an attorney, since they would not want to hear the truth from them either,

This little time of feeling sorry for oneself is over,

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