Also I just recently got in contact with my biological father for the first time in 10 years my plan as of right now is to go live with him in Arkansas he has no clue what is currently going on because eva told him before all of this to back off and well he is clueless to the situation and I spoke to him this morning and ill have to call him back in 4 hours because he is at work. After I talk to him I will probably talk to eva about the emancipation and things can get worked out that way because she realizes that I refuse to live with them but she just wants me to be safe

You can only go live with him if your parents allow it,

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You can only go live with him if your parents allow it,

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I know. They just want me to be somewhere safe. I have been calling around for the past hour to talk to authorities about my situation and I just got off the phone with the juvenile bureau and I will have to give them a call back and expain to them what my plans are and that I couldn't make it to court and why and I was told by my youth pastor neighbor that I need to make that call and I asked if I even could make that call and she said not only can I but I need to also.

Your bio father needs to be fully informed about what is going on.

Why don't you call the juvenile authorities in your city and explain to them everything you have shared with us. You need a responsible adult's help right now.

Is there a runaway shelter you can go to in Tulsa? They would have the people or access to the people that could help you.

Also there will need to be legal paperwork giving him some legal custody, guardianship or something, if not parents can merely change their minds anytime

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Your bio father needs to be fully informed about what is going on.

Why don't you call the juvenile authorities in your city and explain to them everything you have shared with us. You need a responsible adult's help right now.

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Just got off the phone with many and now I'm about to call the bureau back

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Also there will need to be legal paperwork giving him some legal custody, guardianship or something, if not parents can merely change thier minds anytime

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Right thank you for informing me of that :)

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Is there a runaway shelter you can go to in Tulsa? They would have the people or access to the people that could help you.

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Tried that already they wouldn't take me because they were running low and I have a safe place to go already

I just want to say kelsolette21 that I am so sorry that you are going through this. I am so naïve to the world although we all probably know that people live like this and hear about it from time to time you are the soldier braving the storm. I want to extend my prayers and my best wishes to you as you continue your struggle and growth process. I also want to ask you to ask for help and take it from organization or from a group that is qualified to assist children in these situations. I want to remind you that life is long God willing and now is your time to worry solely about growing up and learning about life. You have choices and sometimes those choices get cloudy because of desperation and necessity, however life choices have consequences and you can minimize the damage by getting help now. God Bless you sweetie. Please be safe!

The legal answer - and this is a legal board - is that you are going to have to go wherever the Court sends you and under whatever circumstances the Court sends you there. When you get wherever "there" is you can continue to look for a better place, a safer place. Do you have an adult you can talk to - a relative, a teacher, a counselor?

It is important that you not let where you've been define where you're going so that you will be an adult with emotional baggage, certainly, but without emotional baggage that holds you back.

At 14 you can take responsibility for your own safety, protect your own personal limits, make your own phone calls for help.

And you just may have to do that.

Everyone will be thinking about you so if you could come back and let us know you're all right it would be appreciated.