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Originally Posted by Jay16

Jee....JV just punched me back down:(

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I am not JV-I am GV-my first name is George:p
Jay,I really hope you will have good luck and success... but I know how strange can be judge's decisions... believe me-I have been working in this area for 15 years... :)

Jay16 it will not "destroy all"... I do think it's important you sit down and talk to your wife about it all. Or sit down with yourself and think about all the pro's and con's... is getting out of a monthly child support payment really worth never having a relationship with your son?? Is that something you want to teach you son or your own children, to not own up to their responsibilities? Are you willing to risk your son knocking at your door 6 years from now and asking why you weren't there?

And you have to realize too... we are looking at the worst case senerio... your ex hasn't come after you for child support in 12 years... maybe this will all turn out totally different... again, I don't think anything can be a "deal breaker" when it involves meeting you son.

Scottgem.. I know what you saying but at that time we were just two inmature people. Basically she got pregnant, freaked and ran to her parents for support, forgetting I was the other part of the equation, no matter how much I tried at that time to convince her to stay and work it out. It was just a very sad conclusion for me back then.

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Originally Posted by macksmom

Jay16 it will not "destroy all"

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Really?What about if the judge orders Jay to pay 144 months support /month support is about 20 % of income/for 3 to 6 months and after that if he does not pay the whole sum he will be send to spend some time in jail?:confused: :confused:

By the way guys... sorry for start to get personal. I'm getting out of the topic.:o

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Originally Posted by Jay16

By the way guys...sorry for start to get personal. I'm getting out of the topic.:o

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Jay-your question is not personal only... Your question refers to the law.:)

GV.. I wish I had two heads like you, it would help me decide.:p

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Originally Posted by GV70

Really?What about if the judge orders Jay to pay 144 months support /month support is about 20 % of income/for 3 to 6 months and after that if he does not pay the whole sum he will be send to spend some time in jail?:confused: :confused:

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These are all the "what if's"... from personally being in a child support agreement and having multiple problems with non-payment I know they can only take a certain percentage of his income and no more, they have to allow "x%" of his income for his own living... based on the amount of back support the order will be adjusted to pay "x" amount over the original amount to catch up the arreage. As long as the order is followed no time will be spent in jail. My daughters father will be paying well past her 18th birthday to catch up his back child support.

I totally disagree that Jay pursuing a relationship with his son will "destroy all".

... and I feel myself OBLIGATED to say all good and bad things.

... as I did... I informed him about the possible outcomes of the mother being able to deny him seeing his son because as of right now he has no parental rights; I informed him about the possible outcome of having to get an attorney, get a DNA test, and get visitation; I informed him about the possible outcome of having to pay back child support for the last 12 years...

With all the "possible outcomes" I believe the relationship he should have with his son outwieghs any of those possibilities... and I don't believe any of those possibilities will "destroy all".

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Originally Posted by macksmom

These are all the "what if's"......from personally being in a child support agreement and having multiple problems with non-payment I know they can only take a certain percentage of his income and no more, they have to allow "x%" of his income for his own living....based on the amount of back support the order will be adjusted to pay "x" amount over the original amount to catch up the arreage. As long as the order is followed no time will be spent in jail. My daughters father will be paying well past her 18th birthday to catch up his back child support.

I totally disagree that Jay pursuing a relationship with his son will "destroy all".

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Sorry but you are far away of the Family law.You HAVE TO understand that there is NO time limittation for child support awarded and also there is NO limitations for collecting of this support.

There are a lot of examples where court imposed back child support for 18 years... and these arreages have to be paid up to 3 years

And you forget one IMPORTANT thing

The new husband is able to prove that he was the primary"financial' caretaker

In this way ha has ALL RIGHTS to ask for reimbursement for all his expences if Jay is trying to establish his paternity

The law requires that the parents are responsible... and I am prety sure he will winn a trial

Unfortunately I am not going to keep arguing with you GV so you can comeback with a post that is 5 sentences long and separate them into 5 different posts.

Good luck Jay... I hope it all works out for you! :)

AND FINALLY-I am not againstJay,he has my acclamations.

But I feel obligated myself to inform him what will be able to happen.That is all.

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Originally Posted by macksmom

Unfortunately I am not going to keep arguing with you GV so you can comeback with a post that is 5 sentences long and separate them into 5 different post

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I have a very bad internet connectionNow I am located in East Europe:p