I agree with you, it's highly unethical. However, adoptive parents sometimes don't even tell their children they are adopted. As an adoptive parent, I find such a thing unthinkable, but there it is.

PRESUMED FATHER

If any of the following are true, a man is presumed to be the father of
A child, unless he or the mother proves otherwise to a court:

* he was married to the mother when the child was conceived or born,
Although some states do not consider a man to be a presumed father
If the couple has separated
* he attempted to marry the mother (even if the marriage was not valid)
And the child was conceived or born during the "marriage"
* he married the mother after the birth and agreed either to have his
Name on the birth certificate or to support the child, or
* he welcomed the child into his home and openly held the child out as
His own.
He married the mother after the birth and agreed either to have his
Name on the birth certificate or to support the child-that is the most important here.

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Originally Posted by LadyB

I agree with you, it's highly unethical. However, adoptive parents sometimes don't even tell their children they are adopted. As an adoptive parent, I find such a thing unthinkable, but there it is.

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A lot of adoptive/or other/parents think that the present security of the family is more important than the questionable advantages of knowing the truth.Many people think that the parenthood is more than genes.Ethical or unethical-it is another question but in my opinion we cannot blame this parents who do not want to disclose 'THE TRUTH"