My new partner wants to adopt my 2 children neither of whom have a father listed on their birth certificates neither of the fathers have ever had any kind of relationship with them and csa could not find either of the men I thought were the fathers my daughter is almost 9 years old now and my son is nearly 3 their fathers have never been around as they are actually unknown by myself that may make me sound like a terrible person but all I want is the best for my children regardless of who their fathers may or may not be my new partner is the best dad they could have and we just want it to be legal is it possible for his name to be put on their birth certificates at all?

So you hire an attorney to prepare the paperwork. An attempt will still have to be made to contact the possible fathers to get their permission. Its possible you may be able to use CSA's efforts as proof.

The attorney will also tell you what requirements you need to fulfill. For example, most states require an actual marriage before allowing a step-parent adoption.

what permission could the possible fathers need to give?
am still waiting for my divorce to be finalised before I remarry but thanks for the advice will certainly check with my solicitors x

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Originally Posted by titchround84

what permission could the possible fathers need to give ??

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Before a court allows an adoption, both parents have to agree to it. This is because, in an adoption, the bio parent is transferring all their rights and responsibilities to the adoptive parent. Therefore the court will want to make sure the bio parent agrees to it.

The law does make provision for absentee or unknown parents. Your solicitor can explain what that process is for you.

Thanks for that will get in touch with my solicitors and get more advice from them x

Your saying step father and also your saying partner? Are you married or not?

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Originally Posted by califdadof3

Your saying step father and also your saying partner? Are you married or not?

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She said she is waiting for the divorce (from the actual father of the children, evidently) to be final. So, it appears, she is married to the bio-father and engaged to the prospective adoptive father/ "new partner".

Yes, depending on the exact area, normally they may want or need you to be with the new "partner" at least a year and normally also be married to them.

And it works a lot easier if the bio father will give permission to adopt the kids. The courts will have specific requirements on the search you will be required to do if their location is not know.

Even though not listed they have rights that have to be signed over.