My girlfriend and I don't have same sex drive
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My girlfriend and I have been together over a year (we are both 21). In the first few months, sex was happening at least once a day, which was the level my sex drive is satisfied with. Then it dropped to once a week, for the past 3-4 months its been once every 2-3 weeks. We love each other very much and are extremely compatible in so many other ways. I have clearly communicated with her my needs, and she understands and wants to make our biological sex drives more in sync so that I am not always left frustrated.
How can we become more compatible? I have tried being more OK with having sex just 2 times a week (which is difficult for me), but that is too much for her. She is "too tired".
Girlfriend secretly wants multiple partners
My girlfriend of 1 year, (we are 22), is studying abroad in Spain for a semester.
We both promised to not cheat on each other and I am visiting her during the middle of the semester to make things easier.
We are 1 month into the semester and I asked her "what if I was totally ok with you hooking up with another man while in Spain would you?" she said "yes, as long as it didn't hurt me".
My question is, does this mean that deep down she doesn't want to be in a monogamous relationship?
Here is how I feel, even if my girlfriend was OK with me hooking up, I wouldn't have any desire to because I only want to be sexually active with ONLY the 1 person who I am dating.
It seems that she wants to be with only me, but wishes that I was chill about letting her hookup. But because I'm not chill about it, she chooses not to because she doesn't want to hurt me.
Girlfriend Study Abroad, broke up with me...
We are both seniors at university. We have been dating for 15 months. The last 2 she has spent studying abroad in Spain. Our relationship was beautiful. Not only did we have amazing sex with an incredible emotional connection.. But we also made each others live much better (i.e.. We helped each other cut back on drugs/partying and become more successful in school).
Last December (3 months ago) she told me that she wants to follow me after I graduate and go to Med School/physicians assistant school. She said "I see you in my long term future". We had talked about kids, family, marriage as all possibilities of the future. However, for 6 weeks before she left, she started partying a little bit more and getting more drunk downtown. She showed lots of immature signs when she was drunk (running in the street, dancing with other guys).. And we had a long talk about our expectations for her partying in Spain. She said "I am only going to party once or twice, I promise".
Then when she got there, she started partying the nightlife a lot. I told her that I was concerned she might slip back into old habits, and she said "don't worry babe, just trust me, I love you and I would never cheat on you"... So I decided to not be so controlling and just trust her... Over this past weekend, she told me she was going to go clubbing until 6am, and she promised she would call me when she got home... I said. "ok baby, I trust you, have a fun time"... That call never came. She called me the next day and told me she got drunk, went home with a stranger she met, and they had sex...
I told her that I would give her a 2nd chance if she stopped getting drunk or going clubbing until she had my trust back,. She accepted at first, but Skyped me this morning to say that she is breaking up with me. And that she doesn't love me anymore. How can someone fall out of love that fast? Was I too controlling? Or not controlling enough? I can't get over her, I am missing her so much right now. And she doesn't even seem to care at all. She barely even cried.
I feel torn to pieces. I'm not going to take her back if she comes back to me.. But how can I get over her? I'm so deep in love with her. And a month ago, she said she was so so so deeply in love with me and her love was growing so fast.