I'm 13 and I will like to be emo since I have no life at all. The only problem is I have a school strict code. So if anyone can help me I would really appreciate it. Thanks for anyone who gives me advice.

What does emo mean?

TJ, emo today is the same as goth in our day. It's short for "emotional." At least that's what my 11 year old told me not long ago.

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TJ, emo today is the same as goth in our day. It's short for "emotional." At least that's what my 11 year old told me not long ago.

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Thanks... I'm falling behind the times!

If you have a strict dress code, then you must follow it. Why do you believe your life will be better dressing that way?

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If you have a strict dress code, then you must follow it. Why do you believe your life will be better dressing that way?

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I don't believe it

If you don't believe your life would be better dressing depressing, then why do you want to do it?

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Originally Posted by Alexink

I don't believe it

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So what benefit would dressing emo give you?

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So what benefit would dressing emo give you?

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So I can figure out who I am.

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Originally Posted by Alexink

So I can figure out who I am.

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How will that help?

I get to know who I am. That's why.

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I get to know who I am. Thats why.

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You can get to know who you are by following the dress code and working hard in school.

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I get to know who I am. Thats why.

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You're going to get in trouble, and you'll find out that by breaking the rules. Is that what you want?

It doesn't matter to me.

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It doesn't matter to me.

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What do you want to do when you grow up?

I don't know.

You are only 13, you don't need to know what you want to be when you grow up yet, but you need to start thinking about it.

Being emo doesn't define who you are. Who you are is in your mind, not your clothes.

If clothes define people, I would have multiple personalities!

What's so good about emo that you want so bad?

This is both sad and funny. I was a teen in the 60s, and I went from setting my short hair in curlers with a little bow at the front to letting it grow long and in my face. The principal called me in to his office to ask why! This was before the Beatles, wow. And dress codes meant girls had to wear dresses, and boys couldn't wear bluejeans, and so on.

Alexink, I think I hear you, whatever you are going through. Our outward appearance is one way we tell the world who we are. Figure out some way that you can 'be yourself' on the way home from school and out of school. And learn how to write, to express yourself in words, or song, or art, as well as dress. Tell us a little about yourself here. Even if you don't know 'who you are' write anything.

I see defiance here - rather than acting out I believe "Alix" intends to "dress out."

Same with purple hair and so forth. It's all about getting in the face of authority.

Alix, what else is going on?

EDIT: I see OP being rejected or ignored by classmates, and now I do believe this is "in your face" dressing. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...ol-707429.html

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EDIT: I see OP being rejected or ignored by classmates, and now I do believe this is "in your face" dressing. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...ol-707429.html

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Even negative attention is something, especially when you can't get positive attention from anyone, i.e. fellow classmates or authority figures.

- and I agree. It's for the attention, any attention.

Rejection brings out the anger in some.

If dressing emo is really so important to you, do it after school and on weekends. One thing you have to learn in life is that no matter what you want, there are certain rules you have to follow. At school it's a dress code. When you get a job you'll have a dress code too. It's all to prepare you for being a grownup.

In other words, you can dress emo on your time, but when you're in school you have to follow their rules, and you should have enough respect to do so.

And I'd throw in a note about the opinion of the parents, too.

And if the OP is this unhappy in middle school he really needs to speak to someone - a counsellor, a clergyperson, a relative, a Physician.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

And I'd throw in a note about the opinion of the parents, too.

And if the OP is this unhappy in middle school he really needs to speak to someone - a counsellor, a clergyperson, a relative, a Physician.

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I agree.

The teen years are tough, much tougher than it was for our generation. Bullying is at an all time high, and teens are at an all time low. Talking to someone is the best course of action, before this accelerates.