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  • Feb 28, 2011, 02:13 AM
    Jstar00000
    Comment on redhed35's post
    I have but my parents yell and me saying it's silly.. I guess it is but knowing that Doesn't help the fact that it hurts... councilor I have for the bullying part but not for this the truth is I'm scared of her for some reason
  • Feb 28, 2011, 02:14 AM
    Jstar00000
    Comment on redhed35's post
    Thanks so much for the help and kind words
  • Feb 28, 2011, 06:32 AM
    redhed35

    Some people can seem so busy that from the outside looking in it looks like their the last person you think you could talk too, the counsellor is trained to know how to spot and tackle the problems your having, give it a go, all you need to a pinch of courage to get the ball rolling.

    Your friend probably did not know what to say, she may have been a little frightened by what you said, once she has time to process she may be the friend you hope she is.

    As for your parents, tackle that one again, maybe the parent you feel closest too, or an aunt or grandparent.

    An older generation can sometimes surprise you, you never know who will help you and have your back unless they know.
  • Mar 29, 2011, 11:58 PM
    Jstar00000
    Doubts on love
    Even though a girl has a low self esteem will a guy still fall in love with her
  • Mar 30, 2011, 12:20 AM
    amicon

    Is this a general question?
    If so,yes,some guys will.
  • Mar 30, 2011, 11:47 AM
    talaniman

    Yes guys can fall for a girl with low self esteem, but your personal issues may get in the way and cause problems, unless you talk to someone that can guide you in the right directions for yourself. You have to be in love with yourself first, and be doing good things for yourself, before you can share love with another, and really enjoy it.

    Got someone to help you with your confidence, and self esteem??
  • Mar 30, 2011, 10:33 PM
    Jstar00000
    Comment on talaniman's post
    I have my friend but my worries overide her help and I feel bad for it she doesn't know how to help me anymore and I'm afraid this self esteem problem will ruin our friendship, I don't want to lose her as a friend!!
  • Mar 31, 2011, 07:52 AM
    talaniman

    I would suggest to first find out what your worries are, and why you worry about it, instead of finding ways to resolve those worries and keep them in perspective.

    One thing I can say from reading your posts, are a lack of balance and guidance, as in having a mentor, or someone you look up to, that's more experienced, and accomplished in ways you admire. You also have to have physical outlets to direct your energies outward, and not inward, and you would be surprised at the change that would make on your thinking, as happy, busy people have little time to worry about things that can be resolved with a plan, and some actions.

    Once you get that balance and direction, you will learn about yourself, and build a life that you enjoy, and grow, and be to busy to worry about the things you cannot control, and develop some rather good habits, and coping strategies, that will lead to skills you will use forever.

    The sooner you start down such a path, the sooner you start seeing things get better.

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