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Originally Posted by rob-n-tx

Ok, I'm in a simular situation. All who've made judgmental comments, I think you should get to walk in those shoes to have any validity to what you say. My wife lost her vision and suffered a brain injury 11 years ago. She can function at some levels, but she certainly isn't the companion I married 23 years ago.

As far as in sickness & health goes, is it reasonable to expect or require someone to give up any hope of happiness and a normal life in support of a companion that would, without modern medical help, already be dead?

I think Betty can only find her answer and peace in her own heart.

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I think you have done a wonderful job. I hope you find time for yourself and you have someone to stay with her so you can also have a life. Taking care of a loved one has to be balanced, so you have a life also. If you do not, you will become less positive and that is not good for either of you. I have seen the caretaker go through as much pain as the disabled person. The pain may not be the same, but it is pain. This can create problems with your health and then you are not in a good position to help either of you.

If you read my earlier post you can see what a friend of mine did. He had a good life.