Dying husband and his family doesn't seem to care unless its convenient!
Hello. This is my first time posting here. I am looking for some opinions from people other than family members regarding this situation:
My husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer 3 years ago and was not given long to live. At that time, his family called, sent cards but nothing more than that. He has a mother, 2 sisters and a father as well as many aunts, uncles and cousins.
In the past 3 years he has gone through numerous treatments and surgeries. His father has seen him once, one of his sisters - 0 and the other sister 1 or 2 times. His mother has seen him maybe a handful of times, even though she has visited the area numerous amounts of times.
About a month ago - my husband was told that he had only a few weeks to a couple of months to live. His mother happened to be in the area and we met on conveyed the information as well as my husbands last requests.
I am concerned that when he passes - that at the wake - his family will become the grieving spectacle that you only see on TV.
At the time of this meeting - we spoke about visiting and spending time with my husband. From that point, she never came to see him again and has called twice. His one sister offered to come visit - as if she was doing us a favor - this is the one that has not come to see him in 3 years.
The other sister - well my husband was told 3 years ago that he had 6 months to live if the chemo didn't work wedding date after we got the news for the same time frame. Not earlier so her brother could be there - :eek:
She just sent us an email asking us when we go away on vacation to the beach so she could come see us.
Is she kidding - my vacation with my husband and oh - yeah - we have 2 sons ages 6 and 4 - and she wants to invite herself on our vacation?? That is not a vacation!!
I wrote her an email back pretty much saying that if she wants to visit her brother she can do it at any time but not when we are having time together. Besides the fact that we do not know if he is even going to be alive at that time!!
Ok - thank you for letting me vent - please feel free to ask me questions or make comments!!
My question is - what would you do in this situation?