Ask Me Help Desk - My Husband is Dying

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Originally Posted by denice

well he is stable right now. he is happy stoned and plays on the computor alot. i have learned to fix it alot. he is very unaware of what is going on. no time concept but he has quite falling for right now. we have moved in with my brother and his wife. we were all going to take a trip to fl. but jerry can no longer ride. he gets so seasick. so the kids are going to try to come up. my son has two altistic children. pretty bad. so we shall see. but at least i can go to the store now and walk around outside. thank you all for being there it really does help. i read everything. and my sister is safe too which helps me. please all keep in touch if you can. it is all so nice thank you denice

Denice, thanks for the update. Sounds like things have settled a bit, at least you are coping with all that is going on it sounds like (although I know it is difficult) and family is involved, that is good. Has the doctor tried the patches for seasickness (Motion Sickness)? He probably has. I just thought of it because a man I know was not able to talk, unaware he was drooling. He has Parkinsons and Dementia. The doctor said, let's try this patch... walla... started talking, stopped drooling. Just an amazing difference and not something one would think would make a difference. I hope your husband's doctor is very proactive in searching for ways to help you and him to make the very best of this time. Keep us posted. It is always good to get an update. Thanks much! :)

Denice,
Thanks for the update. I hope it gets better for you, we are all here to talk to, wish I could say that it would get easier, but I am afraid it will get worse before it gets better.

Just try to hang in there and keep your sanity.

Shirley

It is great that you are listening attentively to him. You should assure him that everything is going to be fine and he should not worry about leaving you behind. Talk about the wonderful times you two had spent together in the past. Death is inevitable but the survivor should do his/her best to make the last moments as comfortable as possible.
You should tell your sons and other relatives. It is important that they engage in this process. Your husband will feel a lot better hearing from his children and other relatives. I pray for you.