It's driving me nuts - when will he stop being distant?
Ok so first off, I know I have already writteN a lot of related posts, but if anything you guys all help to give me peace of mind when I wake up confused again! As I've said in my prior posts the guy I am dating has been distant the past week. He has a lot of stress right now w/ family, work etc. But how long will this distance thing last? It's driving me nuts! Especially because we have talked before about how weekends are great times to hang out because there is more time etc, and haven't heard from him this weekend. He usually always sends a little text if we are out doing our own things on Friday or calls me Saturday morning but nope - nothing! How can a girl not start to take that personally? It makes me feel like I have done something to screw what we had going of 3 months, up. I'm starting to think that maybe it's not just that he needs space but that I did something wrong like get upset the other night when he was trying to deal with some of his guy sh-t(damn PMS).
I haven't been contacting him, and last night I went out and did my own thing, Sunday I made plans with friends - but do I just not contact him at all and hope he comes around? Or is it okay to call him in a few days if I haven't heard from him and ask him to dinner my treat or something? Keep in mind I sent him a text saying that I'm here when he wants to do something to take his mind off things.
When will this end?
Met a great guy.but he's not single. But soon will be?
I went out the other night, and met a great guy. He was the bartender at an empty hotel bar, I happened to stop in at for a drink after a business meeting. Instantly I was attracted to him, and while we got to know each other, I thought to myself I think I'm going to ask him if he's single and leave him my number. Well, we ended up leaving the bar when he got off work at 10p and went down the street to grab another drink. We had an instant connection of some sort and when the topic if dating came up... bamb, he got this look on his face. He was going through a breakup, moving out from his soon to be ex, and in all honesty, part of me was so dissapointed - timing is never to my luck! But I was trying to be the "cool" girl, and just enjoy his company and the night. I think if he were totally single, he would have definitely been more into it. Well, he didn't have a phone on him that night, and so he wanted to give me his #. So hear I sit, really wanting to see if there might really be something between us, but a) he's not single right now but trying to get out of his current situation and b) spent an amazing night with this guy and his friend who came and joined us, and don't want that to be the last time I see him. But I also don't want to be in the middle of anything messy. He was honest with me, which I appreciated, but at the same time I keep wondering if maybe he felt something too? Should I give it a week and casually call him? I wouldn't want to be his re-bound by any means, but life is too short not to see if maybe something is there right? I know this probably sounds like he's an , but he was the perfect gentleman, cool guy, I could tell he was on the outs of the situation. Ahhh!
I'm 27 by the way... he was 29. Ugh timing.