Well I could do with some advice here if possible, Ive been dating a girl for a month or so. So far its been awsome we both look forward to seeing one another, chat on the phone etc.
The last date went went on was great until the end of the evening when she started to tell me about her ex boyfriend. Basically they split up and he was crushed, his brother attempted suicide 7 months before over his relationship ending, this was same time she wanted to split and she wanted to end it then but felt bad if she did. So she stayed in an unhappy relationship with him until she could take no more. They have been split for a year now. They have had a few bits of contact since mainly with him not being able to take being just friends with her. But she hasn't heard from him in a while until the morning of our last date. He basically sent her a letter pouring his heart out to her, which she said has got to her a bit. She said in no uncertain terms to me that she has no interest in going back with him but wants to let him down gently without it being to hard on him and her because she hates hurting people because she gets very upset herself, and that he is a friend and that's all and now she has to do it all over again.
She said she wanted to tell me about it in case I thought she was being funny or something along them lines. Now to me if a girl starts asking for a little space I kind of think she wants to end things. So I asked her if she did want to see me again because I'm a straight person and I prefer straight answers not excuses and I don't wish to be messed about, she said yes but lets not make any plans until I sort this out in the next few days.
We made out for a while after this then she went home, she sent me a text saying she got home and she hoped it was cool and no worries or anything and she will speak to me soon.
The next day we spoke and the subject came up of him in which she stated that she needs to fix this now, and that she is not at a point yet with me to be exclusive in which I told her I'm the same also but I do like her and would like to see her again,she replied with we will meet up again but she wants to deal with this now, and its better now than if we both are attatched to one another. She also read the letter out to me in which I didn't ask her to do. And said it was her way of asking for a litle space and that she felt pressure when I asked do you want to see me again.
I didn't mean for it to put pressure on her but I also in turn didn't want to hear an excuse if she wanted to end it which she understood.
She said she isn't wasting my time and she is at a point in life where she would like a boyfriend again and that she is genuine and an honest person.
She finished the chat with that she has to shoot and we will speak soon.
Any input on on this will be great! Sorry its long.