Girlfriend's sexual past hard to swallow.
I'm an indonesian, and am living in indonesia, and I have a problem that I can't really share with my fellow Indonesian friends (since they're all so "traditional" and thick-headed). We don't have a lot of pre-marital sex here, and this is a problem, because my GF DOES have a sexual past. I'm trying my best to accept her, but I'm losing my grip..
I knew my girlfriend has had 4 sexually active relationships before she met me, and I was ready to accept that before going into a relationship with her. It wasn't easy, since I was a virgin (still am) and all that, but I loved her, and it made me stronger. However, while answering some stupid sex survey together with her on the web I found out a little bit more about her, and I was shocked. The question was "how many sexual partners have you had this year?" and she answered... 6. I mean, HOLY, didn't she have like, FOUR BOYFRIENDS? Who the heck were these two other guys??
She was honest, and I really appreciated that. See, she knew the awful possibilities she was about to get into by typing in that number six, and she was betting on my understanding. (I do have a history of being a really understanding guy)
But I really wasn't prepared for what I was about to hear.
She said those two other 'friends' "raped" her.
But when I asked her if she's still 'friends' with those two, she answered an utterly convulting "yes".
I'd told her to cut ties with those two, and she's given me her yes, so it's not the problem.
The problem is, how do I deal with the fact that my girlfriend's the type to be okay staying friends with her rapists? I mean, she's nice and sweet and all that, but what kind of a girl am I really dealing with here? And the more I thought about it, the more I realised that deep down I wasn't really able to accept all of her sexual histories - I'd overestimated myself.
I want to stay in love with her, but with all these doubts running in my mind, I really don't know what to do.
Please, any advice are appreciated.