Ask Me Help Desk - 5 year age difference.

5 year age difference.

Ok so there's this guy who's 18 and I am 23. Is it OK for me to have a crush on and possibly date someone who's 5 years younger? Hes so good looking

No, not because of the 5 years, that is nothing, it is because you have to ask. You have a personal doubt and it bothers you or you would not ask this question.

So it will always worry you. Until you are OK with it and do not worry about what anyone would say, then it will not work.

Some people will not want it or think it is wrong, some people will find fault in anything

No if both of you are adults. And since you both are adults, it does not matter, legally fine.

You do not date a guy because he is good looking.

The legal answer is that there is no legal problem.

He may be younger in years but you are interested in him because "he's so good looking" so I suspect you're on the same maturity level.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

The legal answer is that there is no legal problem.
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There is no question at all.

Not only don't I think there's a question, I don't see there's a problem - but here we are on the legal forum.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

You do not date a guy because he is good looking.

I Know Hes Also Really Nice And Respectful

Hello a:

You're BOTH adults..

excon

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Originally Posted by excon

Hello a:

You're BOTH adults..

excon

OK so I wouldn't get in trouble

I removed your most recent post since it started a new thread on this same topic. Please post your comments and questions in this thread that you already have going.

How about starting a conversation with him.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

I removed your most recent post since it started a new thread on this same topic. Please post your comments and questions in this thread that you already have going.

How about starting a conversation with him.

Ok what would be a good convorsation starter

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Originally Posted by aspenchic23

Ok what would be a good convorsation starter

"What's your favorite kind of pizza?"
"Which is your favorite sport?"
"Do you have any pets?"
"Which food do you hate the most?"

You're 23 and you don't know if a teenager, someone you are really good friends with, is flirting with you? I'm wondering why a young lady your age would want to date a boy that age. Girls generally mature faster than boys, so I'm not understanding this. Why don't you just ask him.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

"What's your favorite kind of pizza?"
"Which is your favorite sport?"
"Do you have any pets?"
"Which food do you hate the most?"

I Know he has a dog he plays football and bball and right now Lacrosse

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

You're 23 and you don't know if a teenager, someone you are really good friends with, is flirting with you? I'm wondering why a young lady your age would want to date a boy that age. Girls generally mature faster than boys, so I'm not understanding this. Why don't you just ask him.

I Know he Likes me

He thinks I Am Awesome he's always there for me

Well if you know he likes you what is the problem? You said you don't know if he's flirting with you? He is 18 so you could date him although I don't know why you would want to date an 18 year old. What makes you think you would get in trouble? I suppose if you took him out drinking or gave him alcohol, that would.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Well if you know he likes you what is the problem? You said you don't know if he's flirting with you? He is 18 so you could date him although I don't know why you would want to date an 18 year old. What makes you think you would get in trouble? I suppose if you took him out drinking or gave him alcohol, that would.

I Would never let him drink I Have always been a little guy crazy and guys that are my age are either taken or creepers

Does he live at home, is he in high school? How would his parents feel? If he is in High School, that would be kind of weird. Would you go to prom with him, or are you just looking to have fun and not date?

He is a senior in High school his parents are awesome I would go if I had the option but I can't because I have a dance show that night

He hates dark choclate

I don't see any reason why you would get in trouble. If you want to date him, do it.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

I don't see any reason why you would get in trouble. If you want to date him, do it.

OK

Why dose love have to be so complicaited Same guy I want to date him I just dono how his parents would feel And I don't want to make them mad

Threads merged

There is something here that is not right - something very wrong, in fact.

Either OP is not the age she states OR there is some other issue.

Spidey senses tingling.

I agree Judy. A 23 year old should be finished with college and beginning her career path. While the 18 year old is still in high school and just learning to be an adult.

Maybe the 23 year old cannot relate to people her age?

The spelling is atrocious (12 year old level, if that) and I just don't understand a 23-year old not wanting to make his parents "mad," and one of the things she knows about him is he likes chocolate.

Something not right -

And he's "so good looking!"

I'm wondering if the OP is 13 and the person she is interested in is 18.

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Originally Posted by J_9

I agree Judy. A 23 year old should be finished with college and beginning her career path. While the 18 year old is still in high school and just learning to be an adult.

Maybe the 23 year old cannot relate to people her age?

I Am Almost finished

Thank you for the unnecessary reddie. >removed<

So, you are almost finished. Good for you. I can pretty much guarantee that this boy is interested in your because you are older than him and he can brag that he has an older woman. If you are indeed 23.

Are you planning on going to prom with him?

In fact I Am 23 he hasn't asked me yet And I have a dance show that weekend

Again, thanks for the reddie for merging your threads. This was done for continuity so that you had one subject in one thread rather than have the same question scattered throughout the site.

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Originally Posted by aspenchic23

I Am Almost finished

I started in 2008 and its 2013

You say you are worried about his parents, you also said they are nice. Why don't you ask them how they feel about dating the 18 year old son?
I'm still trying to figure out why a 23 year old woman would want to date a guy in high school.

I can tell you I wouldn't want a 23 year old dating my 18 year old. Yes, I have an 18 year old.

Whoops, my 18 year old is now 19, so I wouldn't want my 19 year old dating a 24 year old. Same age gap.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

The spelling is atrocious (12 year old level, if that) and I just don't understand a 23-year old not wanting to make his parents "mad," and one of the things she knows about him is he likes chocolate.

Something not right -

His parents are super nice and good friends of mine so that is why I Wouldn't want to make them mad

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His parents are supper nice

Supper is what you eat at 5. Super is a very good or pleasant. And you are a college student?

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

You say you are worried about his parents, you also said they are nice. Why don't you ask them how they feel about dating the 18 year old son?
I'm still trying to figure out why a 23 year old woman would want to date a guy in high school.

Thanks

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Originally Posted by aspenchic23

His parents are supper nice and good friends of mine so that is why I Wouldn't want to make them mad

C'mon now. We won't hold it against you, but please admit your real age. We know you are not 23. We really do want to help you.

No My birthday Is June 27th 1989 the fact is I Am 23

Then there is some other problem here - a college student who thinks "dose" and "infact" are words? As I figure it she's in her 5th year of college - ?

I'm not buying it.

And then there are the undeserved reddies -

I Do Have some learning disability so I would Like it if you would stop bashing me in the head