Entire story merged, please keep all questions regarding the same issue in the same thread.

I just wanted to see how many people out there took a risk and it worked
Out for them. Or also if they took the risk and it didn't work. Did you
Learn something from it. Please share your story.. It could be any risk..

I think just about eveyone out there has taken risks of some sort or another in their lives. Sometimes things work out and sometimes they don't. :)

This quote by Leo F. Buscaglia says it all:

“The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing, and becomes nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn and feel and change and grow and love and live.”

Clipping your toe nails is a risk, so define what type of risk are you talking about.

I know you don't want to hear about my stocks tanking do you??

Any time there is a risk in front of me one phrase goes through my mind "Scared money don't make none." I always go for the risk. I took a big risk of losing my best friend of 10 years by telling her I was in love with her. We are married now. "SCARED MONEY DON'T MAKE NONE"

I love taking risks to see what I can accomplish. Sometimes I'll take risks even if I KNOW I can't accomplish it to perfection, but I at least want to see how well I can do. :)

I have taken various risks during the coarse of my life, each time they have gone against me.

I now listen to what my inner self... (intuition).. tells me and act accordingly.

It seems to work every time.

I just starting talking to this guy online. I have a really good feeling about
This.

We chatted for about 3 hours.. HE said he enjoyed
Talking to me.. I told him I would send him a picture.. he gave me his email.
Well I sent it but never heard back.. a couple times I go online and noticed
That he checked my profile.. then sometimes when he is on I am on.
My question is if he is online at the same I am. Should I say hi to
See if he got my picture.. I might have wrote the wrong email.. or maybe
He never received it... What do you think

U don't give a lot of information like, how old are you? How did you start talking? How long have you been talking to him? Lots of things to take into consideration

I'm not a fan of online relationships-I much prefer the good old meeting somebody face to face and take it from there.

Do you know who this guy is?

And how did you meet him?

Most of the time I go with my gut instincts, but sometimes you really need to think things through, and I think this is one of those times.

Do you really know anything about this fellow? He could be a really great guy, but then again he could be a rapist/serial killer. Even a rapist/serial killer can come across as a really nice guy... until you actually meet up with him.

Be very very careful.

Online relationships can work, but to be successful, they must have the face-to-face element. Online relationships should be viewed as Long Distance Relationships... LDR's have the face-to-face time, even though those involved live separate.

I fully agree with the above posters; you must be careful. Don't rush into anything. Don't think you're "falling in love" with this person, because all you're doing is getting to know what they are telling you. There can be an element of amazing honesty in an online/LDR relationship; but, there is also the potential of serious misled affection for someone who is simply telling you what you want to hear.

My advice to you is to be honest, but to be very guarded. Get to know the person, ask leading questions, figure out what makes them happy/sad/upset/etc, but know that you are in control of your own emotions. You have to be very honest with yourself.

Keep talking to the person, but be careful.

I met my ex online and we were together for 3 years. She would drive 9 hours to see me and after about 2 months she moved in with me. They can work but it can be challenging. You have to really get to know someone before you move in with them. If this person is local, I say talk to him for a while and talk on the phone and when you feel the time is right, meet in a PUBLIC place. There are a lot of crazys out there.

Dear Maria2222,
What type of photo was this? Just a normal picture of how you look and what-not or was it more? Also prior to this picture sending did he normally always message you before you said something to him. Not to be insulting but when a guy sees a picture of a girl that he doesn't feel too attracted to he might pull away from himself from you, I think in this situation that you just message him like you never sent the picture, keep things how they were.

Some of this may depend on the content of the 3 hour chat the two of you had. Was this a normal getting to know you chat or was it something insightful and/or more that any other chat?
When you see him on line, message him and just ask if the email address you have for him is correct and that will break the ice for your next conversation where you can ask if he got the pic and what his opinion was.

How old are you ?

Maria, just ignore that man. You said you 2 chated for 3 hours, he liked the conversation you 2 had, then he gave you his email, then you sent him your pic, after you sent it, he didn't reply to you even when the 2 of you are online. If he didn't receive the pic he would message you and say hi, did you sent the pic. He received it believe me and his being shallow. Don't take it to heart, but beauty is judge by the beholders eyes. He might not see you attractive to his eyes, but to other guys you are attractive. His being shallow and for him to just ignore you like that, that's being an a**h**. Don't waist anymore of your time and give your attention to a guy that deserve it. Sorry if I insulted you in any way, But some girls see me very attractive, and some doesn't see me attractive, But it doesn't bother me.

maria2222, just don't put too much worry into it. Im sure there are a lot more guys on the dating site to find.
Look at it this way, you sent your picture and he didn't respond back afetr that. Well, now you know you don't have to waste any more time with that one.
Good luck to you!

sabrewolfe yes it does make him an a hole! He goes and says he had a nice talk with her, then once he got her pic he just ignores her not even saying a word just leaving her in the dust. I mean if that was me and if I don't see a girl attractive to my eyes I won't just ignore her, ill say hi when I see her and talk for a bit and let her know that I only see her as a good friend to talk to. But instead he just ignore her like he never new her. That hurts and yea it makes him an A hole for doing that. Very shallow, I mean what he thinks his to good for her now that's why he can't even say hi and be friends? But hey that's just my opinion and I know I would be mad if someone did that to me.

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maria, just ignore that man. You said you 2 chated for 3 hours, he liked the conversation you 2 had, then he gave you his email, then you sent him your pic, after you sent it, he didnt reply to you even when the 2 of you are online. If he didnt receive the pic he would message you and say hi, did you sent the pic. He received it believe me and his being shallow. Dont take it to heart, but beauty is judge by the beholders eyes. He might not see you attractive to his eyes, but to other guys you are attractive. His being shallow and for him to just ignore you like that, thats being an a**h**. Dont waist anymore of your time and give your attention to a guy that deserve it. Sorry if i insulted you in any way, But some girls see me very attractive, and some doesnt see me attractive, But it doesnt bother me.

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Your not allowed to use Text style chat on this website just remember that

Don't put too much energie in this.
Why not just go and say hello when he's online.So you will see if he answers or not.If not you just live your life and if yes you'll be happy!
Good luck.

I have a blind date next week.. and I hear the guy has a really nice smile..
Do you consider guys with nice smiles good looking attractive..

Even if a guy isn't good looking, he can have a nice smile.

Lol sounds like they said he has a nice smile like that is the only thing nice about him.

How did they tell you? Were they excited to say he had a nice smile, di they seem impressed, or were they hesitant?

I could have easily taken that way wrong. I hope your date is not a total catastrophy. At least you know he has nice teeth probably.:rolleyes:

Do I think a nice smile can make someone attractive? YES. Point in case, Cameron Diaz has the most awesome smile in the world! Angelina Jolee has a great smile with the most full kissable lips ever. Otherwise Angelina wouldn't really be anything all that special. Julia Roberts smile can melt your heart. Alissa Milano has a crappy smile, but she makes up for it in being generally hot all over. I don't really notice smiles on men, with the exception of Jim Carry in The Mask because it was animated. Gosh that movie was fun to watch when it came out. How great would it be to... Never mind, that's way off subject. Hey, did I just start with a character from the Mask and end with one for the Mask? That's too funny.

But back to the topic, a nice smile can go a long way, but if the package behind the smile isn't at least all right, it can be wasted.

I love to be around people that smile.

A smile attracts you to a person, but doesn't necessarily make them attractive/handsome. You'll just have to go out on the date to find out!

Enjoy the date,he may have a great personality to match the smile!

What happened to the online guy??

Threads merged again

I have been chatting with this guy online for about 6 weeks.. We usually
Chat 2 or three times a week. Actually the first time we chatted it was a nice conversation.. than we didn't chat for two weeks well the last month
We chatted longer.. Well this week I have not chatted with him all week.I
Noticed he was on the other day but I wasn't. He told me he really liked
Chatting with me and I told him the same.. he appears to me very
Skeptical.. So I was wondering what should I think about us not chatting for awhile.. Wanted some opinion...

The Internet is a vast sea of people and he may be chatting up so many people he loses track!

Some people spend hours a day chatting,maybe just looking for a nice conversation and some are looking for romance and some are looking just to hook-up.Some are looking to woo you away from your money!

Maybe he was looking for something he did not feel you were willing to give.

Be careful out there,predators are not just child molesters but also people who are looking for someone who has money,who are naïve and he may have been one of those predators.

Of course he seemed nice and he very well may be but there are also users who make a living out of scamming people.

Be on guard and know that there are many many more fish in the big pond!
Find a new chat buddy :)

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In the other thread, you were asked how old you are and didn't respond. I will ask again: How old are you?

How did you meet this guy?

From what you have written here and in the other thread, I don't think this is a relationship as much as a possible acquaintanceship that you are trying to make more than it is.

I would talk to him when your paths cross, but I wouldn't go out of my way to talk to him. Get out and meet new people. Face to face is a great way to get non-verbal clues as to what a person is really saying.

I agree with Artlady, this stranger may have his own motives for being online and they may not match yours, so by no means make this into a dramatic soap opera. And never assume someone's words mean anything, because when you do, you will be hurt because, it doesn't mean the same to them as it does you.

If you can't enjoy the chats without drama, then you need different chat buddies, or some real life people to hang around.