Anyone experience with meeting someone after talking to them for months? The aniticipation?
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Anyone experience with meeting someone after talking to them for months? The aniticipation?
If they have been honest, then it will be like meeting someone you seem to have known for years.
If they have not been honest it will be a disappointment
I talked to my husband for probably close to a month online before we met up. I was so nervous. We decided to go to steak n shake when I got off work one night since I work late. We each got a shake but we sat there talking for about 4 hours.
Talked for about a year and a half, online and by phone, had a few visits in person, and now married. Plenty of anticipation, but you can get to know someone pretty well when all you have is talking... :)
As Fr_Chuck said, if they are honest you will still have some anxiety meeting for the first time in person, but it will also be quite comfortable.
I met my current boyfriend online... he came to my job and we met there. So far we've had a pretty nice relationship.
Just curious... did you guys utilize the online dating sites? And if so, which ones did you find to be the most helpful?
I agree with the others
They say there are many successful marriages through the internet.
I don't think it is any much different than meeting people in real life.
Real life people can lie and con you just as much as the internet ones.
I had a wonderful marriage and divorce from the internet, too bad there is not a internet divorce site.
No matter what, even after years, often people are not truly honest, but at times it is only when hard times come, that a persons true virtues come out.
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Originally Posted by kctiger
I didn't... met my husband just by chance, but I know a few people who have. Others have met through chat rooms or message boards designed for specific hobbies or interests as well.
Thanks everyone we were due to meet in a week but he just told me he is getting back with his ex. We were talking for about 3 months EVERYDAY just about a week ago things seemed different...
Lame... I thought it was strange for him to move quickly to I love you before even meeting
Sigh... where are the genuine people?
Definitely not in the chat rooms. Most of them are players.Quote:
Originally Posted by manga
This guy could have not even had a wife and wanted to role play with you.
Then when he was done with it claim getting back with an ex as a convenient excuse.
Funny thing is we ONCE didn't even talk about sex just two hours before he said he was going back with his ex he said he didn't want to loose me and when I texted him back that I didn't want to either for as long as he wants it. So within 2 hours he made up his mind? He probably was thinking and he also said he didn't know how to tell me. THIS IS SOO FRIGGIN lame! 3 and a half months of talking man did I do a number on him to mis his xQuote:
Originally Posted by N0help4u
I think a lot of chat rooms people just want to toy with your emotions.
We met off a site no chatroom we did vdeo chats texting and callingQuote:
Originally Posted by N0help4u
They are shallow because they want to talk sex and claim they love you but what do they base the love on?
And who knows how many people they are telling the same thing to?
I really think while they are chatting with you they are carrying on the same conversations with others and then often they go for the one who is sluttiest. If you sound too average for them then you 'lose'
Count it a win for you though.
I was just using the chat rooms as an example because they seem to be the worst.
You can find the type any where even the street.
He really came off genuine he had a myspace thathad a pic of me up basically had me in it saying he wanted to meet me and everything I guess he's THAT good huh?Quote:
Originally Posted by N0help4u
Sometimes I think it could be a case of cold feet.
They think they want to meet somebody on the internet but when it comes down to it they chicken out.
At any rate whatever his reasoning you have to live with his decision to break it off and anybody else you talk with on the internet take what they say with a grain of salt.
Usually you can get a pretty quick read on someone by what they start asking you, what they joke about, where they tend to try and lead the conversation, etc.. Genuine people are certainly out there, but there are certainly those who just want to have a good time, and some who will take as far as they can.
I definitely agree with Doug the more genuine people will talk about work and their daily life issues. When they keep asking things of a sexual nature or insisting they love you and want you generally they are playing you.
When I used to go on the I-M's and guys would ask me sexual questions I would answer them with silly replies. They got the hint that they weren't going to get me into the sextxting. Some would get mad that I wasted THEIR time others would laugh and tell me they enjoyed talking to me anyway.
Yes, I used to date a lot "online" and is where I meet my now "ex"
But most of the ladies I talked to, said the same thing, about 1/2 of the guys they talked to never showed up for a real meeting.
And of the 1/2 that showed up about 1/2 of them turned out to be married and just looking for some sex on the side and often had several girlfriends and were using several email addressses and screen names.
I have started doing some dating again but to be honest many turned out to be nut cases ( or perhaps they though that of me)
Did it seem any different when you transitioned from the web to in person?Quote:
Originally Posted by ZoeMarie
Sooo we're still going to meet. He didn't really have a good answer about talking to his ex other than she phrased the text message for him that he was getting back with her. I guess we'll see..
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Originally Posted by manga
For me it was a little surreal at first, but then I traveled to the UK to meet in person... :) Felt right at home though, and quite comfortable with him and his two daughters. I think we were a little anxious at first... would the other person be the same, would it be awkward for some reason, but after the initial meeting at the airport, it was fine... :)
Somehow I think your better off not meeting this guy. It'll save you a lot of drama in the long run.
You've to be extra cautious when meeting people online. Watch out for people that saids they love you when they never met you. Watch out for getting emotion attach to guys and them getting emotional attach to you.
This guy is talking about getting back with his ex one minute then confessing his love for you a minute later or before. These are a lot of red flags to me.
The meeting someone online is really no different than meeting them at Home Depo, you have no idea who they are, don't know if they are telling the truth or not and have to learn each other.
But if they are not over their "ex" they are not ready to date yet.
I agree Fr_Chuck... if they are still involved with or getting over an ex, odds are it is a rebound relationship. Better to wait until they are truly "free" to start a new relationship.
so we met and I have to say it was a pretty amazing experience. He is however trying to make up for what he texted me... The way he explained to me was his doubts and how I may have not been real about everything. His X and him didn't really get together she had told him to text me about them getting back together, but they no longer talk anymore since he's been talking to me again. Yes I know what I am risking knowing what he had done. But really is coming off genuine and is trying to talk to me at all his available free time he can get to trust him again. His constant reassurance whenever I bring it up he doesn't get annoyed just really wanting me to believe him. Not in a persuasive way just when I feel I have an issue with it again or doubt he'll do something like that again he has no problem talking to me about it. All I can say is he REALLY wants to be with me.
Glad the meeting went well for you... :)
It did, but in a good way.Quote:
Originally Posted by manga
Awesome! I wish you two the best of luck... me and my online lover are doing great as well!
All I can say is that, if your meeting someone you have met online, I recommend that you meet several times at a public place... do not take him back to your home and do not go to his home... don't be one of those people that say " i know him, he wouldnt do anything to me. hes a really nice guy"... it only takes one bad experience to make an impact on the rest of your life... don't be a "statistic"... be safe about it and play it cool until you know this person well and make sure that this person is not giving you a false sense of security... use your brain... and then get a second opinion from your heart...
I have experience with several online dating sites. The best are those you pay for. I've dated very nice men from online sites. I talk with them a few times before a meeting. Yahoo Personals J-Date.com and Match.com have all worked for me.
The worst online sites, in my experience, are the free ones like Plenty of Fish. The men on there are pretty shady and lack manners - and also job, quite often. Lol You get what you pay for. I tried free sites, but have always ended them after learning I was hearing a load of lies, or writing to a paroled ex-convict, or someone with bi-polar disease. Be careful on all sites, but especially on free ones.
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