Hi... I have a brief story and would like some advice.
About 10 years ago, I hooked up at a party with my friends brother. I was about 18.. he was 16. After that, we both developed crushes on each other, but nothing ever happened because he was afraid of his sister and I was leaving for school.
Being that I am very close with his sister, we would see each other on occasion. I have met and have been around his girlfriends... and there has never been any akward tension. Back in November, I went by their house because my girlfriend was in town. That same week, I needed to ask my girlfriend a question about her brothers friend that a friend of mine new. She gave me her brothers email and told me to ask him... which I did. He was so happy to hear from me and at that time kept pestering to hang out. I had a boyfriend at this time but the relationship was rocky which he knew about. We did hang out... watched a movie... a few weeks later he took me to my birthday party in the city as my date since my boyfriend was traveling. We were both developing some kind of feelings. He would send me poems he would write... and keep pestering me to hang out with him. After a while, I knew this was wrong as I was trying to make things work with my boyfriend and therefore stopped communication with him. We did not speak for about 8 months. Occasionally we would exchange emails like "hi, how are you" but that was it.
I recently saw him at my friends party at his house. The entire time he would come around me, would ask if I wanted or needed anything, would come by me and slide his hand across my waist, sat and watched a movie with me... etc... I left that night. The next day he emails me to see if I had a good time... in which I respond. He starts saying that we should hang out... He tells me that he would like that but he's not looking for anything... however, if the right girl came around then he would see what to do... I explained to him that I was not into the friends with benefits thing. He has known me since he was 12 so I know he knows how I am... and he has respect for me. We both understood each other and yet went out anyway. I am separated from my boyfriend at the time... Everything went well. After dinner, we go back to his house.. I whind up talking to his mom for an hour... and I get ready to leave. He starts nuzzling over to me... hugging me... and then tries to kiss me which I stop because I didn't want feelings involved. I left... With that he text me that maybe I should stay away... I text back, "if you say so, but you would be the lucky one.. too bad the feelings aren't mutual"... With that I figure I'm not going to hear from him again... next morning... another email... next thing you know... we have a dinner date the following wed. It wound up being his mothers birthday that day so I was invited to the house for cake and dinner... I wound up going out later to a movie with him and his brother which I was not going to go. He made sure I was taken care of at the house with everything... I made a lot of the moves... at the movies.. I put my head on his shoulder.. and he put his hand on my leg and kept it there the whole time.
We were just talking on email before making plans for Friday night...
My curiosity is... is this guy interested in me? I mean... it's very hard to tell... Why tell me to stay away and everything else, yet want to be around me... why cross over the friends line when he knew what I stood for... I don't want to ask him questions and pressure him but just want to get some insight. I like him a lot... and there is something definitely between us... I don't know if it's because of his sister... or the fact I shot him down the last time or what it is... but at one point he was telling me that I never know what is meant to be... I find it very odd that he keeps coming in and out of my life for the past 10 years... and mostly this year. Any insight on what this guy might possibly be thinking would be great :) Thanks
