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Hi, me and this girl, amanda who I happen to really like went on a date Sunday night and we had a great time. For out 2nd date she wants to go out this Tuesday and I don't know if it's a good idea cause its pretty close to our first date.
I don't want to say the wrong thing because I really like this girl and she told me that she really likes me to and that she wants me as her boyfriend A.S.A.P.
Any answer will be thanked!!
By the way, I'm 15 and she is 14 and were both freshman in high school.
Are you still on winter break the rest of this week? Tuesday IS New Year's Day. Is there a movie you two might want to see (and fight the crowds), or maybe just spend time at someone's house and watch a DVD and eat microwaved popcorn? Otherwise, certainly she could wait for the weekend. Two days between dates is pushing it a little. You'll get tired of each other after the first week! Tell her you want to savor the first date for a few more days.
My personal advice is to slow down. It seems like you are both eager to be in this relationship with each other. Since you said it was "close" to the first date, that seems like you might feel that things are going too fast. It's never wrong to listen to yourself.
I would spend some more time getting to know her, and try to figure out a schedule you are both comfortable with.
Let me ask you "What do you consider the purpose of dating to be at your age?"
Is it to find a lifetime partner? Well, I'll let you tell me...
Relax a little, you guys already had a first date... I think the second should come up like not forced. Like let things go naturally... maybe if you see her somewhere or something, you could ask her to go out... otherwise I think you guys might end up overwhelming each other too soon. Sometimes time and patience are your best friends.
Dang dude.. I glad that you had a great time...
And second date already?. isnt it a little bit too fast.. .
But it OK... as long as you feel comfertable about it then it OK... but if you don't feel so... tell her that you want the date like next week or something... you don't want to rush things
I really like her and all but the it's a little to quick for me, and in my opinion, I only want to be in a relationship because its someone that you can trust with everything, tell anything to, spend time with, have fun around by being yourself and not having to fake anything, and its someone who likes you for who you are.
And yes I am still on winter break for the rest of this week
I do agree with the others above that to go out on a "date" so soon after the first one is probably not a good idea. However, it is winter break. Maybe there is an activity that you could do as a group with some of your buds while you have the time since you have this break from school?
Where I live, there is a lot of snow. Do you have snow where you are? If you do have snow, then maybe you could organize a sledding or even ice skating party?
If you don't have snow, then this is still a good time to organize some sort of group activity. You could have fun with Amanda and also others, without making it so much like you are on a date. Doing things like that helps to slow things down as far as yours being a serious relationship too soon.
Nah, sadly there's no snow in Florida, haha man do I hate it here I would love to be in New York but that's not going to happen for a long time. Most of my friends are away on vacation and don't get back till like the 3rd or 4th
Thanks for that one, I told her that I wanted to savor the first date and that we were moving a bit fast for me and thankfully she understood. Thanks!Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
Females just LOVE it when their men tell them that they want to savor something! Men must learn that we females are big on emotional stuff and want to hear them buy into that too.Quote:
Originally Posted by schwartzyms
I'm glad it worked! (I bet she is sitting down right now staring out the window and dreamily thinking, "Oh, my! He's SAVORing our being together! Ooooooooooohhhhhhhhh! I really like him a lot.")
Haha I hope so to, she tells me that she really likes me every once in a while and its nice to hear cause I say it right back! HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYBODY!!
I appreciate your answer tremendously! I will keep that in mind as my son grows a little older... right now he is 10 and dating is not something he wants to do... He clearly says when he is older...Quote:
Originally Posted by schwartzyms
Anyway, my brother's philosophy with his 7 kids is that the purpose of dating is to find a life time partner, and if they are not ready to make that kind of commitment, then they don't have a reason to date. I was kind of hesitant to accept that philosophy, and now with your answer, I know why.
Enjoy, and have a great new year!
In my opinion the purpose of dating is really to have fun and find the kind of person you like to be around. Maybe you like someone funny, someone serious, someone tall, someone short, maybe someone with experience, maybe without experience. I'm only 15 so I don't have much on this subject, I just know that everyone has a different opinion on it.
Have a great new year too.
I also have a question, when is a good time to go for the first kiss?
First kiss: You've walked her to her front door. The two of you have been chatting about the movie and about the fun you've had. She thanks you for a nice time. You chuckle and tell her the pleasure was all yours. She smiles. The conversation stops. She looks down at her feet. You put your fingers under her chin and gently raise her face so she is looking at you. You tell her how lovely she is. She sighs softly and closes her eyes. You move your hand so it briefly caresses the side of her face then immediately move your hand to the middle of her back, pulling her upper body a bit forward as you lean over to lightly brush her closed lips with yours.
The rest is up to you.
And that would be about the time the porch light comes on, she slaps you, her dad loads his shotgun, and the entire high school jumps up from behind the bushes to see if you wet yourself...
Just kidding, and good luck.
I would love to do that but I can't. I'm only 15 and don't have a license and don't receive one for another year. Plus, I don't need my dad to see me do that. Especially cause when I get back to the car he's going to be annoying me about it the whole way home. Is there another time that would work?
Will you ever be alone with her?
Really sounds like the classic movie/soap opera. Very ideal but unfortunately doesn't happen too often. In my opinion a first kiss should be when you guys know each other better... it should be when you are already dying to give one or ready to... and spontaneous not planned. It's something that should just come right at the moment. Something mutual. But that's just my opinion.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
That was pretty much how my first kiss went. I can still feel it a thousand years later.Quote:
Originally Posted by METERRE
Go ahead. I really don't see where you have anything to lose.
I don't know when we will be, if we hang out at her house the door will always be open, and at my house the door will only be open if my mom is home because my dad trusts me.
What makes it a strange statement? I'm not saying this in a mean way at all, I'm just curious.
If you mean strange in a way that she just wants sex or something, I'm not into that at this age, don't get me wrong I want to do it, but doing it at this age is just plain stupid because there's a 5% chance that a condom won't work and that 5% could happen to you at anytime and that means that you just screwed up your life at a very young age
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Originally Posted by schwartzyms
I don't really mean she wants sex. There's probably nothing wrong with it considering her age. It's just strange to me 'cause no way in heck would I ever say that or even think it just from a first date. Maybe it's just my old age and my tendency to be suspicious of people. Just forget I said that, it was a stupid thought.
Haha OK, it really wasn't a stupid thought. A lot of people think like that. Everyone has there own opinion on certain things.
You sound like a person who thinks things out carefully and thoughtfully. I commend you for wanting to wait. As far as the kiss, one of the kisses I received that has stayed with me was when I was 15, went out with a guy two years older so was nervous. It was a group party in the evening outside. I did not kiss guys on the first date because to me a kiss was so special. Toward the end of the evening, he was just holding my hand and kissed me on the cheek. We ended up dating for almost four years, never did consummate the love because of my convictions to wait until marriage but sure enjoyed the holding, kissing and such. He was respectful of that even though he wanted to go further.Quote:
Originally Posted by schwartzyms
The sensuality of the kiss has been done away with it seems with relationships moving so fast. To me there is nothing so sensual as a time when you feel the breath of the one you care about on your cheek as he leans in and gently touches his lips to yours in a sweet and caring kiss, gentle but firm, pulling you toward him. "Airbrused kisses" as I like to call them where the lips barely touch for a bit then end in a sweet deep kiss are remembered long after for me. There is plenty of time for the passioate kissing that moves into another area.
Best of luck as you continue to make good choices for your life. :)
Thanks
Were going to the beach when it starts to get dark out. I can't wait for us to have some alone time to just talk and be together. I really like this girl and I want to be with her for a long time. I want to make the first kiss memorable but I don't even know how to kiss.
Tomorrow we are going*
So instead of the beach we are going to go bowling, but we have no idea what to do afterwards.
Any suggestions?
Go somewhere to eat? To get ice cream? To a big mall?
Well she asked if I wanted to go to a fire that were parents and grandpa and cousins and sister are going to be at and I don't know if I should
I want to spend time with her but I don't know if I'm ready to spend time with her and her family, and plus I'm a really shy person
A fire?
Like bon fire
You sound like a very fun person. Go to the fire and print in black marker and wear a name tag that's says "I'm shy - be gentle" with a smiley face on it or some such thing. Her family will think you are so cute and adorable.
Seriously? Haha I will so do that
I'm nervous about being asked questions by her dad. Do you know any questions that are commonly asked?
Lemmee see --
"How's school?"
"What classes do you have?"
"Have you thought about what you want to do after high school?"
"Do you have any pets?"
"What's your favorite sport?"
"What's your favorite team?"
'Who's your favorite player?"
"What's your favorite make and model of car?"
"Who would you vote for for president if you could vote?" (tricky one)
"Are you planning to marry my daughter?"
Here's a fabuous site I just came across a few minutes ago. It helps with all sorts of questions and problems in relationships and dating including how to unhook a bra one-handed --
Relationships how to articles from wikiHow
Here are a few "meeting her father" pointers from that site --
- Smile a lot and laugh at jokes that are told. Ask the father questions and engage him in conversation. People love to talk about themselves, so act interested in what he has to say! Also, ask questions about your girlfriend. Fathers are proud and love to see that their children are admired and cared for. Do not dominate the conversation entirely. Talk about yourself, but make sure it is a two-way conversation. You are learning about each other.
- Speak respectfully of your own parents and family when discussing them. It shows that you have respect for your elders and that you maintain a loving relationship with them.
- Keep your cool. If the father's personality clashes with yours and you dislike being around him, don't forget that he raised the girl you love and grin and bear it. If your relationship lasts, he will always be a part of your life. Be as polite as possible.
- Thank him (and the mom) verbally after the party or dinner or picnic or get-together and send a thank you note by mail when you get home. People love getting thank you notes; it is a thoughtful gesture.
- After the meeting, make sure to tell him that it was a pleasure meeting him and you look forward to seeing him again in the future!
Thanks a lot!
There's always the father's question of... What are your intentions with my daughter?
And...
Have you heard about my gun collection?
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