OK so the guy who I've been crushing on and who's always picking on me and flirtin w me now knows that I like him. When my friend asked him who he liked "he said no one" and then she told him that I liked him but even though he knows that I like he still flirts with me and then the other day he comes up to me and hugs me and says something like "u never talk 2 me anymore..ur like avoiding me or somethin."I mean I guess you could say that was kind of tru,but that was because I didn't know how 2 act around him.so what should I do?

Well go for it ask him face to face or make the first move oh yh would you be able to help me is 11 yrs age difference too much

Ask him what face to face?if he likes me?and to answer your question, I don't think age matters,but sometimes it can get in the way,but I mean if you y'all feel y'all have a genuine connection,then age should matter.but it also depends on how old you are now and how old they are because sometimes being too young and being in a relationship w someone 11 years old than you is too big of a difference.hope I helped.

It seems like he likes you. Guys like to pick on girls and fool around with them and play fight with them because they can make physical contact while doing so. If he asked you why you're distant after you found out he said he doesn't like anyone then I guess it means he wasn't telling the truth when he said "no one". The only way to find out is to ask him, if you're too shy then I'll try to give you examples on how to open up the subject, but if you're not that shy and you're able to ask him, what are you waiting for ? :P

yea I do tend to get shy around guys.. especially if I like them so I'm going to need sum examples on how 2 open up to the subject

All right, if you're shy then I guess the best thing is to smile to him (I've learned smiling is the best way to communicate and show you're interested and start up conversations). When he comes around and talks to you show you're interested to hear what he has to say. If by chance you end up alone together, try to take advantage. Ask him about his tests or favorite music, whether he likes bowling, skating, surfing, whatever. Try to talk about an event or activity you can do together in the future. If there is a concert this weekend or the next, talk about it, he might end up asking you to go to the concert with him. If he doesn't ask you out to one of the activities you talked about but you feel that he would like to but is also shy to ask, go like "I'm heading to ___ with a couple of friends, want to come along?" Show the group thing, its not as embarrassing as asking him out on a date but you can still manage to meet him outside of school where you can get to know him better. I hope I helped. If there are any more questions I'd try and love to help.
Goodluck!

Today was our last day for christmas break and he walked w me all the way from my class to my bus.from my class to the stairs he had his arm around me and I put my arm around him too.then he walked me 2 my bus and got on my bus said hey to a few people and then I gave him his christmas present and card and then he hugged me twice and then got off.does that mean anything?

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today was our last day for christmas break and he walked w me all the way from my class to my bus.from my class to the stairs he had his arm around me n i put my arm around him too.then he walked me 2 my bus n got on my bus said hey 2 a few ppl n then i have his his christmas present n card n then hugged he me twice n then got off.does that mean anything?

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Walking with you was a good sign, he could've gone with his friends or talked to someone else but he stayed with you and wanted to spend his last few minutes in school before the break with you other than anyone else. (and I'm pretty sure he wasn't doing it for the gift ;P ) Is there any party or gathering happening during this break? Will there be any chance you might meet him? Does he have your number? How old are you? A little more details would be helpful.
To be honest he reminds me of a really nice guy I know, and these signs are really good. However, he also reminds me of another guy who keeps getting me so confused and turned out to be no good (unfortunatly, I'm still not completely cured from the hurt, and he still manages to get me so confused) So be careful, don't get too carried away, he may be doing these things but thinking of you only as a friend. You can never know if he loves you unless he says it, and I think you're on the right track to finding out.
Please let us know what happens.

agree with silent all the way.. pplz tense to get confused with this stuff really easy so be careful and I hope it turn out good...

as a nice guy I know that we don't mess around with this stuff... b.c I know that if I do it will only end up hurting the girls... and from what you been saying about him... (he seem like a nice guy ) ^^>...

lol.. I just don't know is that us nice guy way to nice ? Or that you girls have the magic to make us never want to hurt you guys and just want to protect you... I hope you catch my drift

lol.. well what I am trying to say is why don't give it a try?? ^^


sorry... my english is not really good so.. hahahaha I hope it help

There's nothing going on over break that I know of.but I'm sixteen and yes he has my number I gave it to him in his christmas card that I gave to him.

did he call you or text you yet ? If yes then ^^ you know what going on...

even he not calling.. why don't you call him ?and like hey how it going.. doing anything tomorrow ? >.stuff like that... start the conversation... ^^

No he hasn't called or texted me yet,but I don't know if I should call him though. I mean I do have his number though my friend gave it to me,but I don't know.

don't be shy ^^... just call him... tell you something... I am a nice guy also.. and like I told you I think that he is a nice guy too... and us nice guy always tense to be shy around girls.. especially the girls we like... we really want to call them but we can't cause we don't know what to say ^^...

so why not give it a chance and see how it go... if you like him that much... then it wouldn't be a problem ^^

I guess you should wait for him to call, if he didn't over christmas and didn't give you a gift and you feel like it, ask him why he didn't. I guess as they say: "the ball is in his court now" so just wait and see what he may do. If he doesn't, there is nothing wrong with you trying again.
Goodluck

Maybe I'll call him, but if I can't bring myself 2 do it,then a simple text shouldn't hurt. But silentbreeze 2 answer your question,he is getting me a present,he's going to give me it the next time I c him.

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maybe i'll call him, but if i can't bring myself 2 do it,then a simple text shouldnt hurt. but silentbreeze 2 answer ur question,he is getting me a present,hes gonna give me it the next time i c him.

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Well then I guess you can figure out how he feels the next time you see him. Like how he presents the gift, what he says, how he acts... etc. If you feel like calling him, do so, if you are too shy, a message is not a bad idea at all.

My friends keep telling me that I should call him, but I still dk,because I wouldn't know what 2 say and then one of my friends said that I should 3-way him with another one of my friends.do you think that would be a good idea?because I mean I do want to try 2 hang out w him over break to you know c how we interact w each other outside of school you know. And also because there's this really good movie out that I want to c n I want to know if he would want to c it w me

Forget the 3 way stuff, and no messages through friends, but you can ask for his number and start there. That would show your interested, and he does like you, and going slow and getting comfortable with him will take care of the shyness. I know your friends gave you his number, but asking him is a good icebreaker, and you can also ask his plans for break.

I think I've finally worked up the nerve to call him.I think I'm going to call him on Wednesday that way it won't interfere w his christmas.as I said in my previous posts I want to c if he would want to hang out w me before we go back to school.should I ask him if he wants it to be a group thing or just the two of us and would that make it a date if its the two of us?

Maybe asking him out just the two of you will make him think it's a date. If you are willing to take the risk, why not? But know you might not get and okay. Personally I think its better to go out with a group the first time, as I said before.
Call him on Wednesday and see how it goes.
Goodluck

Yea I changed my mind and think its better to do it as a group thing.but I don't know what we should all do?is going to the movies a good idea?or somewhere where we could all hang out and talk a better one?

I think going somewhere you can all hang out and talk would be better, leave the movie for the next time, or you can go to dinner and a movie . You can go bowling, you can go to the beach as well. You can go to the mall, a nearby place for dinner, anything you guys like. I advice you to go to an activity then dinner.
Goodluck!

OK so I called him but he didn't answer so I left him a voicemail,so now he has 2 call me bak.I hope he does.until then.. all I can do is wait.

OK so today one of my bestfriends comes up 2 n tells me that she has something 2 tell me.apparently she talked to the guy and I guess she asked him why he didn't call me back and then she told me that he was on punishment, so that's y he didn't call me back.and then right before 7th period when I was talking 2 my friends,someone puts their hands over my eyes and I put my hand over theirs and I'm like "whos this?" and then I turn around and its him.so then we hug and he says that I got you your present and I was like you did and I was like what is it,n he was all like wouldn't u like 2 know and I was like I would that's y I asked and he was like its in my locker and I was like wheres your locker and he said his athletic locker and he said hed get it before the end of the day and I told him that I was staying after school anyway 4 drivers ed so you can just give it to me then and he said OK.so I was waiting after school with some friends and he comes up and gives me my gift and he was like you have 2 read the card first and the card said "hey,merry christmas and a happy new year.you are fun to be around and to talk to so i bought this gift for you.you call me bighead ima call you small head. no matter what size our heads are great minds think alike ("gift") then he signed it love (his name) n said "my sig. is better than yours ha ha! Lol


So as you can probably tell from this I'm still very confused about this whole situation.does any of this new info plus what you already know about this situation mean anything.and I still would like 2 hang out with him soon,maybe the weekend since I'm off.so should I ask him if he would want to do something in person or over the phone and once again should it be just us or a group of people but I don't know if anybody else would be able 2 come or not I mean would that be a good idea,since we didn't get 2 hang out over break?

What's so confusing? He likes you enough to buy you a gift. Be patient and see if he calls. Understand he has a schedule too. It may be best to talk on the phone, and get to know each other. But let him lead, to see if he is serious.

Hey girl,
Well I think he likes you a lot, but I'm not sure if it goes further, I may be wrong though. You can never know with guys :p But him giving you a gift is a good sign, if he thinks of you as a friend he would've just said thanks, but because he gave you a gift it means it may be more. However, wait, don't call, its hard I know, but try not to. While in school, while hanging out, drop hints you are free this weekend... say you would like to go to ___ that its been a while since you've been there... hopefully he'll get the message. But don't say it straight forward since you already did on the phone...
Goodluck, keep posting!

I think I'm going to wait until we go back to school Monday and ask him when he's off punishment and then c if he would like 2 do something when he's off punsishment because one of my bestfriends thinks he's not off punishment yet

OK so for the past few days I haven't really gotten to talk to him as much as I usually do.but yesterday me and sum friends were in the hall on labtops because they wouldn't working the class and his class is right beside mine. At one pt he comes out the room and you know when you hear a door open or whatever you look and I saw him and our eyes met for a few seconds and then I looked away and kept on doing my work. And then my friend sitting beside me was like what was that,I was like what,she was like you didn't say anything to him and I was all like what am I supposed to do and she was like wave and I was like I don't know and she said he was looking at me but I didn't c him. Then today at lunch when I was sitting down, my same friend said that he was looking at me again when he was walking with this girl who I think is his cousin, but again I didn't c him do it.does that mean anything?should I give him eye contact when I do c him.cuz like sometimes we'll both be in the hall way but talking to other people but be facing each other and we'll both like look over towards the other even though we're talking and listening to other people

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ok so for the past few days i havent really gotten to talk 2 him as much as i usually do.but yesterday me n sum friends were in the hall on labtops because they wouldnt workin the class n his class is right beside mine. at one pt he comes out the room n u kno when u hear a door open or whatever u look n i saw him n our eyes met for a few seconds n then i looked away n kept on doin my work. and then my friend sittin beside me was like what was that,i was like what,she was like u didnt say anything to him n i was all like what am i supposed to do and she was like wave n i was like idk n she said he was lookin at me but i didnt c him. then today at lunch when i was sitting down, my same friend said that he was lookin at me again when he was walkin with this girl who i think is his cousin, but again i didnt c him do it.does that mean anything?should i give him eye contact when i do c him.cuz like sometimes we'll both b in the hall way but talkin to other ppl but be facing eachother n we'll both like look over towards the other even tho we're talkin n listening to other ppl

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Yeah give him eye contact, show him you know he's around and still care for him. If he tried to talk to you but you didn’t give him a lot of attention I think you better wave or say hi the next time you see him. But if both of you haven’t gotten the chance to talk then you are not obligated to start talking, yeah smile when he looks at you, show him you notice him, and you still remember his existence :p , I mean you still care for him and see how it goes.

So I should give him eye contact even if I'm talking 2 someone else because I think that might seem kind of rude.so what your saying is that when I do c him looking at me that I should smile at him and give him eye contact but how long is too long of looking?I mean I pay attention to him when I am talking to him. Like today when I walked into class,I guess he had been playing with water and I went to hug him and he wiped water all over my neck and stuff he was like I know your clean or something but I'm going to bathe you in this water or something like that,then he walked behind me and hugged me from behind so that his face was touching mine.I mean I thought it was kind of cute,but I mean am I ovethinking this,or does this mean anything?because like I said when my best friend told him that I liked him and asked him who he liked and he said " no one" but yet now he does all this stuff and is apparently staring at me,I mean you wouldn't just do all that to someone if you didn't like them right?

You don't know what to do, and neither does he. Someone has to end this stalemate. Do it. Your already talking and hugging, just ask why is he doing it.

I mean I guess you could say your right, because most of the time I don't know what to say to him and so I just take it as it comes.but your saying that I should flat out ask him why he acts the way he does around me and why he stares at me?

If you want you can ask him, of course not flat out then he'll wonder if it is bothering you. I understood you wrong, you guys are talking now... well then I guess if you want to you can ask him what he thinks of you. Don't go like why do you and why don't you, I don't think guys like girls who over analyze things, I don't think they understand its in our nature! :P Anyway, ask him casually, when you two are alone and comfortable, what he thinks of you. Does this sound okay? Any other questions I'm here! :D

I'd like so say something though...
The things he is doing to you right now as you said are really cute and girls tend to fall for them, all I'm saying is that things can go wrong and you might jeopardize what you have now... just be careful with the choice of words. Goodluck! Keep posting!

I agree approach is everything, to forward may scare him, since your talking what is your own take on this, does he flirt and compliment you? What do you talk about? Does he appear comfortable?

To answer your question talaniman,he doesn't really compliment me but he does he flirt w him and picks on me and stuff like that and just the overall way he acts.cuz every time he does something when I'm w my friends my one friend is always like y'all need to stop flirting but in a joking way.yea he appears comfortable, because I mean he's like friends with a lot of people and he has a lot of friends who are girls but he doesn't act the way he does with me as he does with them

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What makes you special? Just asking, and no desrespect, Just trying to get a picture of his motives, because if he shows females a lot of attention and hasn't hooked up he may just like you as a friend. And that changes things, as a lot of female friends means he is not shy, and would have expressed his interests, and you would know he is courting you, to use an old school word. That's why my question is what makes you different?

I mean I don't know what makes me special,ud have 2 ask him but he doesn't show them attention like that but you know he talks to them or whatever,I mean they're his friends so why wouldn't he talk to them but he doesn't like flirt w them like that.

I'm old school, and think a man should express himself, and take the chance of rejection, if he is that interested. Most young guys are afraid of rejection so are reluctant to overly pursue a female, so tell him you like him, and then back off, and see if he comes to you.
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I don't see a problem in asking him in the ways I suggested earlier. If there are any questions about the approach shoot. Personally I think he likes you... guys pick on the girls they like and they play fight and hit you to make physical connection and break the boundaries. I say go with it, but back off afterwards and see if he comes to you and how he acts afterwards, show him you are interested, but not pushy, you definitely don't want him if he doesn't feel the same way.