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  • Aug 6, 2007, 10:28 AM
    LIZ2007
    Why doesn't he pick up my phone calls?
    I went out with this real cool guy... At first he didn't seem like my type of guy... so weird... He isn't that good looking but something about him made me feel great...

    We went out to a movie and when he dropped me off we kissed... I tought it had gone great... although I kept playing hard to get I eventually gave in to the kiss...

    I really had a great time but its been about 5 days since the date and haven't rcvd a call from him yet...

    My friends say he probably is dating someone else... what should I do??

    Should I just wait for his call??

    Or should I just give up??
  • Aug 6, 2007, 10:29 AM
    J_9
    Time to just give up. If he calls GREAT, if he doesn't well you don't have much invested in the relationship, actually there isn't a relationship yet, so time to say you had a great date and move on.
  • Aug 6, 2007, 10:46 AM
    tormanatort
    Go to his house and see for yourself
  • Aug 6, 2007, 10:53 AM
    J_9
    From my understanding this was just one date. By continuously calling him, and worse yet, going to his house, you are being WAY too needy.

    Men don't like that.

    He hasn't answered your calls, stop calling give him time to call you back. Whatever you do DO NOT go over to his house. You are probably scaring the pants off him by calling.

    Leave him alone, give him a chance to call you. If he does great, if he doesn't it was just one date, not a relationship.
  • Aug 6, 2007, 12:16 PM
    renia
    Well I don't understand why u think it was all right wait by the phone all day like some love sick puppy... more fish in the sea... anyway just relax and
  • Aug 6, 2007, 12:22 PM
    GlindaofOz
    If a guy doesn't call within 72 hours its time to move on after a first date.
  • Aug 6, 2007, 01:43 PM
    LIZ2007
    I actually have called him and we have quick conversations... yesterday he said let me call you back... who knows... but about going to his house... no I haven't...

    I just feel like he probably didn't like me...

    But then again he was the one who took initiative and ask for a kiss...
  • Aug 6, 2007, 01:48 PM
    J_9
    Leave him alone now. Let him call you. If he doesn't so what, it's not a relationship yet or anything.

    Don't be needy, clingy, men don't like that.
  • Aug 6, 2007, 02:08 PM
    nicespringgirl
    DON'T CALL, U will scare him away.
  • Aug 6, 2007, 02:14 PM
    kristynn
    Go find yourself another date who has some basic knowledge on dating etiquette and bothers to give you a call after a first date.

    Don't call him, don't go to his house and most of all, don't wait for the phone to ring, hoping it's him. He's not worth it.

    Too bad his mama didn't teach him some useful good manners.
  • Aug 6, 2007, 06:30 PM
    kristynn
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by kristynn
    Comments on this post
    LIZ2007 agrees: BECAUSE I ACTUALLY FELT LIKE HE COULD HAVE ATLEAST CALL AND SAID HE HAD A NICE TIME......
    Liz,
    That's exactly what I meant when I said he doesn't have good manners.
    He definitiely should've called you!
  • Aug 6, 2007, 07:13 PM
    J_9
    Quote:
    LIZ2007 agrees: BECAUSE I ACTUALLY FELT LIKE HE COULD HAVE At least CALL AND SAID HE HAD A NICE TIME...
    Yes, he should have, but he didn't so don't dwell on it. It's not like you two have been together for years. It was only one date for crying out loud. Not everyone has good manners.
  • Aug 6, 2007, 10:30 PM
    Looking_for_the_one
    Don't call him anymore, no matter what. Men are hunters. They like the chase. If he wants u he will call u. Don't be too available and that would look needy to him. I would put him behind you and find someone else to date. If he then calls be polite but let him think u don't remember him, make him remind u who he is. Remember if he wants to be with you he will call YOU.
  • Aug 6, 2007, 11:06 PM
    Pook_Myster
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Looking_for_the_one
    If he then calls be polite but let him think u dont remember him, make him remind u who he is. Remember if he wants to be with you he will call YOU.
    I would suggest not playing games - be true to who you are, go on about your business, and if he calls then congrats for you... if he doesn't then fate would have it that it wasn't meant to be...
  • Aug 7, 2007, 08:42 AM
    LIZ2007
    He Called Lastnight!!

    Yeah He Called And Said Hey What's Up... like Nothing... after 5 Minutes Of A Quick Conversation He Then Said Let Me Call You Back...

    He Called Back And We Talked Then Once Again He Said Let Me Call You Back...

    He Then Called Me Back But I Didn't Answer!!

    What Do You Think??
  • Aug 7, 2007, 09:15 AM
    J_9
    First, please turn off your caps. Makes it look like you are yelling at us.

    You did good. You don't want to appear too anxious or too needy. You have to have a life too.
  • Aug 7, 2007, 09:49 AM
    LIZ2007
    He called and I soon as I heard my cell phone ring I put it on silence and let it ring... I really like this guy but I don't want to seem needy either...

    I have a feeling this guy is probably seeing someone and he apparently calls me only when he's alone... so weird!!
  • Aug 8, 2007, 06:37 AM
    MayMsredrose
    HI.. why do not make the first move and call him... general talk... just to be able to know if he is interested to date you or not?
  • Aug 8, 2007, 09:02 AM
    LIZ2007
    I called yesterday twice and he didn't pick up his phone... :confused:

    Honestly I don't know its so weird...

    I don't know if he liked me or not!

    What can be a good reason for him not to call...
  • Aug 8, 2007, 09:46 AM
    J_9
    Quote:
    What can be a good reason for him not to call...
    1) It could be that he has a life.

    2) He may be dating other women.

    3) You two are NOT exclusive in this relationship.

    4) It was only one date for heaven's sake.

    Just sit back and let him call you. I think this is a little bit of Déjà vu for me... Don't appear to be needy.

    Give it a week, maybe two, if he doesn't call, he's not interested. On the other hand, you continue to call him, he may think you are beginning to stalk him after only one date.
  • Aug 8, 2007, 09:47 AM
    LIZ2007
    You are so right...

    Anyway I deleted his number from my cell phone...

    I don't want to be temted to call...

    But if he calls I'll let you guys know
  • Aug 8, 2007, 12:35 PM
    talaniman
    Assuming will drive you crazy so try not to. Try to keep your life in perspective, and be happy without him. If its meant to be you will hook up, so keep expectations realistic, as you are both essentially strangers.
  • Aug 9, 2007, 02:11 PM
    LIZ2007
    Wow... we've been texting each other lately and I figure out that all he probably wants is a booty call...

    He's always telling me how he wants to lay in bed w/ me...

    And we've only gone out once...

    I really like this guy... but I don't know what to do...

    I want him like that too but Im scared I might fall for him...
  • Aug 9, 2007, 02:25 PM
    J_9
    He's using you. Plain and simple. Kick him to the curb.
  • Aug 10, 2007, 02:48 PM
    LIZ2007
    I got back with my ex and Im still talking to this guy... I don't want to let my boyfriend go but Im attracted to this one guy... what should I do...

    I think all this guy wants from me is a booty call... and I probably want the same from him... but I'm so bad... I don't want to let go of my boyfriend... and either stop talking to this guy...

    What should I do...

    Im so tempted my by this guy...

    But Im in LOVE with my boyfriend...

    Only that our relationship is not fun anymore...

    What do you advice me
  • Aug 10, 2007, 05:11 PM
    nicespringgirl
    Can you do without a boyfriend or you must have a boyfriend?
  • Aug 10, 2007, 10:35 PM
    talaniman
    Maybe you should leave them both alone, and find your own happiness, as neither seems to be making you happy enough to be faithful.
  • Aug 11, 2007, 06:53 AM
    J_9
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by LIZ2007
    I got back with my ex and Im still talking to this guy....I dont want to let my boyfriend go but Im attracted to this one guy...what should I do..............
    You don't want to let go of your boyfriend, but I am sure he'll let go of you when he finds out about this.

    Quote:
    Originally Posted by LIZ2007
    I think all this guy wants from me is a booty call........and I probably want the same from him.....
    Make sure you use condoms, you wouldn't want to get a disease of one sort or another. Worse yet, what if you give the disease to your boyfriend, then he'll know for sure that you don't love him like you say you do.

    Quote:
    Originally Posted by LIZ2007
    but im so bad....
    Yup, I'll have to agree.

    Quote:
    Originally Posted by LIZ2007
    i dont want to let go of my boyfriend
    Then get rid of the other dude.

    Quote:
    Originally Posted by LIZ2007
    and either stop talking to this guy............
    Then get rid of your boyfriend.

    Quote:
    Originally Posted by LIZ2007
    what should I do.....
    Get rid of them both and get healthy before you have any relationship.

    Quote:
    Originally Posted by LIZ2007
    ..Im so tempted my by this guy....

    But Im in LOVE with my boyfriend....
    You are not, and I stress the word NOT in love with your boyfriend if you are tempted by this other person. If you were in love you would not be tempted.
  • Aug 12, 2007, 08:48 PM
    lindso4316
    Ok this is what you should do! Well first I should tell you something about being plane hard to get well if you are trying to be plane hard to get then he will never like you because he will think everything went terrible. So first of all you should apologize. Because he is probbly feeling like he gave you the most terrible date and that is why you should apologize .
  • Aug 13, 2007, 04:25 AM
    J_9
    Lindso, please read this, as to how the comments feature is supposed to work. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/feedba...ure-24951.html

    Quote:
    lindso4316 disagrees: this awnswer is not helpful because who ever is giving the advice frist of all dosne't even know her boyfriend and second of all he is cridisizing him for know rezone!!
    It's pretty obvious you did not read Liz's OTHER thread talking about her and her boyfriend and whether she should cheat on him.

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