The dreaded I need some space out of nowhere.
Hi all,
So I took the advice from my last "relationship" experience I got on here and applied it to this girl I was dating. (Get to know the girl and no sex involved for a bit) We starting dating at the end of September. On our first date, I took her on a picnic. I cooked, laid out a blanket, we sat by the lake and we had a great time.
We made out a bit, had great conversation, and even had a few inside jokes already. We texted all that week, both saying we had a great time and we're looking forward to seeing each other again. We made plans for the next week and she decided she would come over and I would cook her dinner.
We had another amazing time. We slow danced, lied down together for hours, talked and laughed. We made out for awhile. It was really nice. We texted each other all that week as well. Complimenting each other, flirting, talking about our day, and saying we can't wait to see each other again. Calling each other beautiful and handsome. Saying the good mornings and goodnights.
She called and said "Lets do something festive". I said that sounds great, like what? She said "Lets carve pumpkins" I said that sounds perfect to me. I'll come to you since you came to me last time. She said "Perfect". The next few days we were both talking about it and getting excited about it.
The day before it was suppose to happen she texted and said "Hey, would you rather go see a movie instead?" I said "Why, I thought we were carving pumpkins?"
She said "Well I think we need more time for that, that's something we can do on the weekend. We can do that this weekend, she said. I said "Ok, cool"
There wasn't any good moves playing so we ended up doing mini golf at night.
We had the whole course to ourselves. It was a beautiful night. She was VERY flirty! Constantly touching me, smiling, kissing me, we kissed a lot and made out in between holes. It was great. I told her I really liked her and I like the feeling I get being around her and that she makes me smile. She said "Awwww, babe, I feel the same way. That makes me so happy".
We ended the night with some kisses and she said she was going to come over my place either Saturday or Sunday for pumpkin carving. She had a fundraising event Friday night and said she had to help clean up Saturday. I said "Ok, well just let me know". She said 'Ok"
Yesterday she was VERY short and distant. I text her around 3pm and said "Hey, some of my friends want to go out tonight so let me know if you're coming over today" She said "Today isn't going to work, I've been cleaning all day. I said "Ok, well let me know what time you want to shoot for tomorrow. I hope your day is going well"
She texted back later and said "I want to spend the day with my family tomorrow. I hope you understand". I replied "Is something wrong", because I had a bad gut feeling....
She replied "I just need some space". She didn't even want to talk on the phone about it. So we just texted. It was kind of annoying. Basically she said she just needs some space for now and didn't really give a reason.
I'm really confused because it came out of nowhere. I mean obviously I'll give her her space, but is it over? If it's not, should I even consider starting something up with this girl again?
I mean I took the whole sex equation out of it and got to know her and we had great times.
I'm just really confused...
Thanks for reading this. Everyone on here is great and it's a great thing how people help everyone out. :)