I don't think it will come to that Pat. I think that by you taking back control, she may just see you in a different light and want you even more.

Those conversations are tough, but necessary I guess, it only makes you stronger right?

Haha well, being optimistic is a good thing, but since she got back from California yesterday morning she hasn't contacted me yet. But then again, she hasn't been online or whatever, so we'll see.

I'm no longer stressing about this, as I've realized that if anything, meeting this girl has boosted my confidence in women a bit, and has taught me a little about the rules of dating someone new. I've already benefitted from this, even if she never talks to me again.

With that attitude Pat, you will definitely land on your feet, no matter what she throws at you. Good for you.

Well I guess not all is lost. Yesterday night she sent me a little message on Facebook just saying how she's back from home, etc. I didn't respond.

You guys think I should write one back tomorrow? Or just wait a while until she contacts me again?

Id be waiting a while.
You don't want to appear as though you are 'too available' to her. Those were her words.
Well now your busy with other things.
I'm sure she isn't going anywhere with anyone else so why not just wait a little and let her think. And if she does well you know she wasn't worth it anyway!

Give her the space she is asking for!

Oh crap, she just IMed me and she knows I'm online.

I'm just making some small talk with her now and I'm going to end it.

Here's the convo:

Her: hey there... how are you doing?
Me: I'm good, you?
Her: swamped...
Her: but good
Me: how was you weekend?
Her: great... I got to see lots of family and friends..
Her: the wedding was awesome... I just didn't get any time to study really
Me: haha well that's to be expected
Her: but it was nice to be home...
Her: I haven't done that since I graduated and I won't be able to see fresno people during christmas break
Me: did your parents cook you any special meals?
Her: they all tend to scatter
Her: of couse... I got my fave the night I came in
Me: and what's that
Her: sirloin tips w/ ice and broccoli
Me: oh really
Her: yep... one of my all time faves
Me: I would have thought it to be something fancie
Me: like veal medalions o something in a glaze
Her: why would you think that?
Me: no reason, it's just that steak tips, ice, and broccoli is something I actually eat quite often, so I don't see it as being special
Her: how long does it take you to make?
Me: I don't make it... I have my boy anthony grill the steak tips for me
Her: yeah... you are missing out
Me: yeah I haven't had steak tips in a while
Me: I usually cut anthony's hair, and he pays me with meat
Her: lol
Me: did you go to karate tonight
Her: no... my ankle still hurts and I'm swamped with work
Me: when and how did you injure it?
Her: last week in sparring I rolled it and reinjued it fom this summer
Me: well some time off will be good... my injuries are finally gone
Me: no more shoulder pain, and my knee is better too
Her: that's good
Her: bb... have to restart comp


She signed off before I could end the conversation. I just put up my away message and I'm done talking to her for the night. She's prob testing me to see if I'll still be on here waiting for her to come back... lol.

Your busy, got to go. Things to do, people to see.

She sent me a text message just as I was about to go to bed and told me her comp was flaking on her and she said "sweet dreams"... I sent her one back and called it a night. I'm not going to talk to her at all today.

I'm going to keep sort of a journal type thing here, as I see if I can turn things around. Maybe people can learn from my experience.

You keep saying your not going to talk... but that's way too much text and IMing?

Stop it!

Get a hold of yourself. Way too available to this gal - STILL!

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Originally Posted by Wildcat21

You keep saying your not going to talk....but that's way too much text and IMing?

Stop it!

Get a hold of yourself. Way too avaialble to this gal - STILL!

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Really? I hadn't talked to her since last Thursday... it had almost been a week without contact...

That conversation was only 5 min long...

If you think I should be even less available, I'll do it then. No contact this whole weekend.

I didn't realize that. Ok.

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Originally Posted by Wildcat21

I didn't realize that. Ok.

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Haha yeah, I was going to say... lol.

I think as long as I keep it to 2-3 short convos a week I'll be fine. I'm just glad that I didn't mess this up completely.

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Originally Posted by PatBateman

Ok, so I've been seeing this girl for about a month now and we really have great chemistry. In the beginning (my earlier posts) she wanted to hook up with me. It all began when she asked me to go home with her one night after we both attended a party, and I basically refused her advances 3-4 times and treated her with respect.

Well, as time went on, and we went on more and more dates, she confessed to me that she has feelings for me now and really likes me. That's good, because I like her alot too. So, this past weekend, I was ready for sex, because I felt comfortable around her and after a month of getting to know her, I felt that it would be OK. So I tell her this when we're messing around on Sat night and she says no!!!!

I was like, "huh?"

She told me that now it's different because she has feelings for me and she doesn't want to get hurt. This doesn't make any sense because she obviously had no problems hooking up with 2 guys before me, and now I go out of my way and am better and nicer than the other guys and I can't get sex?

Someone please explain whats going on here.

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Just let her come back to you,when she was chasin you could get what you wasn't but when you stop her chasin she gets a little confused so keep her chasin you then ul get what you want though she may turn out to be a lapdog! An that isn't good either