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I saw him today it was good to be with him even if it was just for an hour .I can't believe how needy I am I will run him off soon I know it but how do I stop being so overbearing? Wanting answers to everything now I so hate this about me

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I saw him today it was good to be with him even if it was just for an hour .I can't believe how needy I am I will run him off soon I know it but how do I stop being so overbearing? wanting answers to everything now I so hate this about me

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This may help

The Needy Woman: A Man's Worst Nightmare - Blogcritics Culture - 62k -

I know I hate it I want to stop ! Even though I know I am like this why can't I stop it ?

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I know I hate it I want to stop ! even though I know I am like this why can't I stop it ?

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Love makes us do stupid things.. me included. . I think if you were secure that there is going to be a marriage, you wouldn't be this way. With things up in the air you are feeling lonely and stressed. Leave him alone for a couple of days. Tell him you're fine but you need some time to think about yourself.

Don't mention marriage or moving. I don't feel this is game playing. Both of you need to get back to where you were when you first started dating. Give it time and give him time and yourself time. Whatever is going to be , will be... I'm sorry you're going through this.:)



Here is another site.

http://www.ehow.com/how_4717590_stop-being-needy.html - 84k

He isn't needy at all he has all the support and love he needs at his finger tips his family .I myself have my children and close friends who do feel that part of me . I do need reassured often and he is upfront with me he is that kind of guy that he feel uncomfortable talking about feelings .I am needy is all kinds of ways . I don't know if there would ever be a man who could fill my needs. I am upfront with men I have dated and with him that I am needy and it's OK with them at 1st but I guess it becomes a big problem down the line . I don't know what to do

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He isnt needy at all he has all the support and love he needs at his finger tips his family .I myself have my children and close friends who do feel that part of me . I do need reassured often and he is upfront with me he is that kind of guy that he feel uncomfortable talking about feelings .I am needy is all kinds of ways . I dont know if there would ever be a man who could fill my needs. I am upfront with men I have dated and with him that I am needy and it's ok with them at 1st but I guess it becomes a big problem down the line . I dont know what to do

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Read the ways to change this behaviour and try to follow it. It will be hard.. but as I was told once a long time ago... "it ain't no mountain to a climber" which means all the things you've gone through should make this a just a little hill you have to get over.

A couple of counseling sessions may be of help to you. Help you to ease this anxiety you are feeling right now. I think it is because this wedding was postponed.
You may not want to hear this, but I think that was a very needy move, it was so quick and I don't think he wanted to do it that fast but you were a bit pushy (the neediness thing again) Like your posting the engagement of face book. He was not ready for that yet either.

Like KitKat22 said, take a step back, relax in this new relationship. Don't even focus on the engagement. Relax in the relationship.
Try the counseling. Sometimes talking something through with someone helps, gives you a different perspective.

I wish you well.

You can do it! Be String!

Soooooooooooo I guess he desided to do the NC today so I did text him around 4 saying hey what's up?
Nothing... Around 5:30 called the cell left message ask if everything was OK to please text or give me a call I was concerned .
An hour later I get a text it said I'm OK out riding by myself clearing my mind and thinking of everything call you n the morning .


I hate how this feels and My heart is hurting . And I am so scared .

Wait until he calls you before you get all anxious.

Easy for you to say :(
Wish it was easy for me to do

"Be still, and know that I am God." - Psalm 46:10

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"Be still, and know that I am God." - Psalm 46:10

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I'm thinking of you!

I can do everything through him who gives me strength.
Philippians 4:13

You will get through this, no matter the outcome.

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I can do everything through him who gives me strength.
Philippians 4:13

You will get through this, no matter the outcome.

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"Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is eay, and my burden is light.. .
Matthew: 28-30

Thanks girls now you made me cry lol..
I have hit my knees today in prayer over this something I hardly ever do .I ask for God to work here rather it's the out come I want or whatever just to find peace . For him and for me. If letting him go and find that love he can't live without or to let me go heal from the love of my life.. Or just maybe Join us as one.

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Thanks girls now you made me cry lol..
I have hit my knees today in prayer over this something I hardly ever do .I ask for God to work here rather it's the out come I want or whatever just to find peace . for him and for me. If letting him go and find that love he can't live without or to let me go heal from the love of my life..Or just maybe Join us as one.

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Good for you. Tears are the language God understands.

Well he has heard me all day then

You are going to get through this.
There is always a plan but sometimes we try and rush things along.
My favorite passage is :
Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart. Psalms 37:4
He knows our desires and needs. When you don't know the plan, trust his heart.
I wish you well.