Ask Me Help Desk - Real love

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

What an idiotic thing to do!

I know, I just cannot throw him out of my head, after sex I hope I will not like him so much, and he even more will dislike me:( So we will eventually forget about each other

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Originally Posted by Klaipeda

Hi guys, I like the guy for some time now, and we cannot not argue whenerver we communicate with him. I just feel that I cannot talk to him anymore without being accused by him that I constantly nagging him about something...i tired of trying to build up the needed relationship and give it a time to build up...I just tyred.Because he is constantly angry with me...I like him a lot and just was witholding sex for the future ...This evening was too much for me, he was angry again with me and I just decided most crazy thing,- to ruin the unseccesfull relationship by having sex with him. It will be the end for him being constantly angry with me as he will leave me after sex..
Does someone has something to say?

Yeah, why are you so mad at yourself?

And what if a baby results? And much self respect will you have for yourself afterwards?

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

And what if a baby results? And much self respect will you have for yourself afterwards?

Becareful when thing about that, you don't want to stress yourself out too much, or you will find it hard to think at all.

Do you love yourself? If so, why, and do you think that you deserve this, or something else?

Do you have confidence issues? DO you think you are or are not pretty?

You have to find where this is coming form and you can do that, if you need help, counselers can help with that, or e here can help with that too. Though to a lesser extent.

Please do take care of yourself. I wish you well.

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Originally Posted by Nestorian

Yeah, why are you so mad at your self??

Because I can't forget about him:(

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

And what if a baby results? And much self respect will you have for yourself afterwards?

I lost self respect when I ofered it to him... I just want to finish everything quicker...

Love you all guys, I do apreciate your support!

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Originally Posted by Klaipeda

because I can't forget about him:(

Hmmm, yes it may seem that way, but as Yoda and Luke had to say,

LUKE:"I don't believe it!!"

YODA:"that is why you fail."

If you tell yourself, " I can't for get him, then you simply wont."

If you don't do things that put you near him or remind you of him, eventually, as pain sakingly slow as it is some times, we start to move on. Find a different reason to be happy. Also, I'd like to point out, just because you are not happy doesn't mean you aren't OK. We have good days and bad days all the time.

Peace and kindness.

Heavens I wish there was enough women out there that hated me enough to have sex with me.

I always thought I should take them out to dinner and all that stuff, and now I find out all I have to do is make them so mad they will have sex with me so they can break up

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Originally Posted by Nestorian

Hmmm, yes it may seem that way, but as Yoda and Luke had to say,

LUKE:"I don't believe it!!"

YODA:"that is why you fail."

If you tell yourself, " I can't for get him, then you simply wont."

If you dont' do things that put you near him or remind you of him, eventually, as pain sakingly slow as it is some times, we start to move on. Find a differnt reason to be happy. Also, i'd like to point out, just because you are not happy doesn't mean you arn't ok. We have good days and bad days all the time.

Peace and kindness.

Just started to cry when reading your words.. Thank you

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Originally Posted by Klaipeda

just started to cry when reading your words..Thank you

I'm sorry, I didn't intend for you to cry, but I can understand how hard it is to face such things. Try not to forget you're not alone.

Oh, good idea, do you have any things you're stright up into, like hobbies, painting, drawing, writing, Exercising (usually best, endorphines and all.) Try to keep busy, and active.

Don't be worried about giving yourself a special time each day to let it out, like listen to sad songs and just cry. But, only for a short time. Like 10- 15 at the most. Ok.

Take care. Peace be with you.

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Originally Posted by artlady

It all depends on what you expect from the relationship.
If you want a one night stand and don't expect a call the next day than go for it.

Its ironic but men will try to get you in the sack in any way possible but when you do you are a *easy* woman.

You ask a guy what kind of a girl he wants to settle down with and rarely will you hear anyone say an *easy woman*.

Couldn't have said it better myself.

Easy women don't make good girlfriends, I've tried it.

lol of course I have to butt into this one...

it really depends on the people who are on a date... and is friendship the goal of a first date, or is a second date the goal?

As for the person you date and his expectations... if he expects sex on a first date then I'd be a little worried about his intentions if I wanted a second date... or scratch that, I don't think I'd want a second date...

And you should never under ANY cirrcumstances feel pressured to put out!

lol as for sex on a first date, well it can work out great and it can work out badly (for you that is) people differ is all. Lol my x boyfriend and I didn't even start with a date, but a one night stand... )

I read an interesting article in a Norwegian magazine the summer of 2007 on this subject though... sex on the first date:

something about the biological factors involved in sex, when two people sleep together they supposedly release a hormone called the bonding hormone lol which is suitable, can you guess what it does? (The article was some interview with a sexologist from england)

and that sex one the first date might make it harder for the people dating to get to know each other in the beginning because they might just end up between the sheets instead...

I don't know...

anyway.

If it doesn't feel right for you to have sex on a first date, then don't and you shouldn't give a darn about what the guy thinks. If he gets mad, then you know that sex was his primary goal and not to get to know you. And aren't you better of without him as a friend??

He's a waste of time hon.. or worse.. sex offender.. :)

Well.. a sexy woman certainly has more sex.. however.. she also might attract guys that only look for sex... while the more simple quieter gals attract guys who look for a relationship.. so it depends.. :) tu klaipediete? :)

He is a playa... and a bad one at that... since you told him you ain't going to give it up to him, he ain't interested and is continuing his search for a girl on the side... but maybe maybe leaving u hanging just in case you decide you want to give him what he wants...

Forget about him and find someone worthy...

Just remember one thing. Beauty fades, but dumb and boring lasts forever! ;)

Just be the best you can be, looks aren't really that important, all of us lose our looks as the years go by (unless you can afford a lot of plastic surgery).

Most guys, when they want to settle down, look for a women that is attractive but also smart, fun to be around, and a good person.

Like all the guys said, looks might get you in the door but personality keeps you in the house. Sorry KcTiger, I love it too much not to use it! :)

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Just remember one thing. Beauty fades, but dumb and boring lasts forever! ;)

Just be the best you can be, looks aren't really that important, all of us lose our looks as the years go by (unless you can afford alot of plastic surgery).

Most guys, when they want to settle down, look for a women that is attractive but also smart, fun to be around, and a good person.

Like all the guys said, looks might get you in the door but personality keeps you in the house. Sorry KcTiger, I love it too much not to use it! :)

You can steal my quotes anytime! ;)

The one thing that makes ANYONE sexy is confidence.

If you've got confidence, you're sexier than you know.

So--do sexy women get more dates? Sure! Because they're more confident about themselves, they have no problem ASKING for dates when they want them.

What I've noticed is that a lot of super sexy woman don't have significant others that's why their being so sexy... to attract a significant other. Most woman tend to dress a little more conservative once they get into a relatonship.

But again that's only what I've noticed.