You can't force someone to be your friend if they don't want to. The two of you are still letting emotions get the best of you.

The reason people told you to go no contact is because you guys are still deeply affected by the breakup. Until you have recovered and can think more objective, it's not time to try to be friends again.

Your all right, I have been letting my emotions get the best of me. I guess I thought by going on some dates, making out with other girls... that maybe just maybe it would make me forget her. But it hit me that I wished it was her, I guess in all honesty I have been playing games not to win her back because I'm to old for that craziness. See NC has worked in all the ways I've heard I mean I have confidence in myself again, I have caught some beautiful ladies eye. I mean I could move on at anytime but like we all find or found out it has to be oUR decision. I've learned a lot since I started my first blog, mainly that I have friends who have been or are in the same situation. But even more important that even though we may never see each other on the street or have lunch we all have a story. I know I haven't been the easiest person, I guess none of us are( trial and error). Just wanted to say thanks to all.