Oh!

Well I need to take a good look at that too because her ex is still haunting her which makes me feel uncomfortable and very cautious. She tells me that she is completely over him but he still keeps contacting her. She keeps telling him not to contact her but he is not listening.

I told her that I do not want to enter into a relationship with her if there is still baggage. She agreed with me. Hence why we are both taking very slow.

I respect your decision, but from my experience the reason why you are doing from 1 to 9 is because you find a "replacement".
I'm just warning you. Would you be completely healed if there was no girl at all involved in your life?

Yes because most those steps occurred before I met this girl.

Well then enjoy yourself :D.

Well, I have come to a cross road. One decision will take me into one direction and the other in another direction. Which do I choose?

Here are the 2 possible outcomes:

Outcome 1: Stay single. Continue living the single life and meeting new people. Enjoy the last years of college and continue focusing on school. Enjoy the freedom and being able to do what I want when I want.


Outcome 2: Start another relationship with a girl who is beautiful, smart, very compatible, honest, can make me feel great, etc... Enjoy having a partner to share life moments with. Learn from them and vice-verca. Still have the option to experience college life, meet new people, and still have a partner by my side.


Both have drawbacks too and I think we all know them well. Right now we are still dating but from what I can see, she is ready for a relationship.

But I have another question:


She keeps asking me why I chose her. She tells me that I am so nice and she keeps trying to find something wrong with me but can't. From what I can gather her ex's where not the most nice people to her. I am not acting any different either. I am being myself and that is the person she is seeing.

How do I intepret this? What do I make of this?

Outcome 1