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  • May 5, 2009, 10:26 AM
    Justwantfair

    I will challenge you heads up... be ready to be beat by a girl. :D

    Do you play online?

    This really is a great site.

    That is how my partner got me, he made me a poker player. :D
  • May 5, 2009, 11:10 AM
    colonel7

    I do play online. But mostly live games I live outside buffalo ny. Niagara falls has 3 casinos 10 minutes from my house. But I do play on poker stars.
  • May 5, 2009, 11:33 AM
    Justwantfair

    I play on Poker Stars, we have a local poker charitable that runs poker tournaments, cash and sit n go's. The casinos in our area offer some limited high stakes tables, but otherwise it is just table games like Three Card and Let it Ride.

    I love to play, it's a great release and I think it's a great thing for single women because there are so many single men playing ;). Not the greatest pick up place for single men since there aren't nearly enough poker females, at least around here there aren't.
  • May 5, 2009, 11:33 AM
    liz28

    I love Poker! Once a month my friend has a card game and I only play poker or spades. Once in a while I play Remy.
  • May 5, 2009, 11:55 AM
    shazamataz

    Texas hold'em :cool:
  • May 5, 2009, 12:06 PM
    liz28
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by shazamataz View Post
    Texas hold'em :cool:

    Yes, this game is fun just watch out for the drunk people.
  • May 5, 2009, 12:53 PM
    colonel7

    Yeah this area has many choices on where to play. I prefer the casino it has a sperate room. It's some of the best players in the world. Tho I did just win a charitable poker tournament for roswell cancer institute. You had to be sponserd to be in the tourny an that was 5000 dollars. Butva couple doctors did it for me an I gave half of my winnings back. The total amount I donated was 7500 dollars. Ur right there are way to many woman that do play because of drunk men. I gave up drinking 4 months ago an feel so much better for doing it. Yet I do need to quit smoking cigs. Ughh so tuff
  • May 5, 2009, 01:00 PM
    Justwantfair

    Congrats on your win. The closest we have is Heartland that was here a two - three weekends ago.

    We have been down to play in a 2008 WSOP Event. No actual celebrity poker players around here, but we have some great poker players in the area. We have some underground games, but literally you can play all week, everyday. I like it better than the casino rooms.

    We go about twice a year and stay at the Venetian and play over at TI, I like their poker room and the Venetian's best. I don't play for drunk men, but I know that around here there are only about 5-6 quality female players. Not many can hang with the boys, with the exception of pure luck.

    Did you see the new Wolverine? Negreanu makes a cameo, as nothing other than a poker player in it. We thought that was cute... he is one of my favorite, along with Ivey.
  • May 5, 2009, 01:19 PM
    colonel7

    I've played against daniel many, many times, he's from toronto ca, an that's 45 mis from any of the places I play at.. by the way thank you for the congrats.. I tried to give it all to them but the institute wouldn't let me.. roswell is the leading cancer research center in the world.. I would do anything for that place.. they saved my dad once, (from prostate cancer) now there going to do it again, he has lyphoma, an the cancer is in his bones, an left shoulder.. that's what made my break up a little tougher to deal with..

    Ahh the drunks, love to play against them, as I call them is dead money.. I just sit an wait for them to play so bad that I end up with there money.. example today, I walked out up 350 dollars because the 3 drunk guys just kept playing dumber and dumber every hand.. your right the only time I lost a hand to the was pure luck.. the guy needed runner runner against my set to take down the pot, that's OK only cost me 125, that's when I left.. heartland poker, ill watch that every once an awhile on TV.. next week I am playing in turning stone wpt event, not sure if it's a televised event.. but if it is I will def let everybody know :)
  • May 5, 2009, 01:26 PM
    Justwantfair

    That is wonderful about Roswell, sounds like a quality charity. Although I am surprised they can limit your donation.

    We play and profit often, but not nearly enough to stop working and just play. I deal out here once in awhile also. I love to play, the game is always a challenge and every changing.

    Poker is pretty serious around here, there is rarely enough drunk men at the table to take advantage of, although you can still love dumb luck.

    We have a yearly poker league that we play in also. That is where the drunk players are, group of 16 and my partner and I are the only non-drinkers really in the league.
  • May 5, 2009, 06:33 PM
    colonel7

    Yeah I'm in a 350 player league. It cost 200 to buy in then every week you play an cost $25 a week. Then at the end of every weekly tourny the winner of that week gets 1500 plus a points rating. An at the end of the year there's a final. An you get chips based on your ranking. Right now I'm ranked 2nd. An our end of the year tourny starts tomorrow night. I will start will 120,000 an the lowest will start with 1500. So it pays to be ranked high.
    Roswell told me that I was to generous an said to keep the money.
  • May 6, 2009, 05:30 AM
    colonel7
    Well I'm awake an feeling happy today!! No depressed thoughts. Again I can't thank you guys enough! I feel like the sun is shining just on me today. I'm going to live every second to it's fullest. Today of to niagara falls to do some hiken around it. If you want I'm taking a bunch of pictures an going to post then on Facebook. So if you have an account look for me. An join my friends list.
  • May 6, 2009, 10:38 AM
    colonel7
    She yelled an threatned to call the cops!
    Threads merged and edited.

    Yesterday I receieved a text from my ex saying " listen. I said leave me alone, leave my friends alone, if to don't , I will get a restraining order against you, or an order of protection." umm I haven't talked to her since last week Thursday when she said don't contact me anymore. An I Haven't. She also went on my Facebook an deleted some pictures. She also deleted my Facebook account but the reinstated it. I'm tryn not to think of her an I'm doing good. I'm happy I'm not with her anymore. But why is she doing what she's doing?
  • May 6, 2009, 10:41 AM
    mudweiser

    She sounds pyscho.

    1-Change all your passwords and secret questions/answers

    2- Keep not talking to her

    3- If your not doing anything wrong then this is just crazy talk.. don't even respond to it.

    Eck- be happy your out of that mess. She sounds cooky.

    Sarah
  • May 6, 2009, 10:46 AM
    liz28
    Well leave her alone and don't contact her or her friends. She might have saw you drive past her house a few nights ago.

    Move on and change your number.
  • May 6, 2009, 10:48 AM
    HistorianChick

    Yup. Change your passwords and number.

    You haven't contacted her, don't contact her. She sounds nuts.

    First thing is to change passwords - every account, email, Facebook, myspace, etc.

    This stinks. Sorry man.
  • May 6, 2009, 10:48 AM
    mudweiser

    Yep. I agree with you Liz.

    Change your number!

    Sarah
  • May 6, 2009, 11:10 AM
    I wish

    Sorry to hear about this. But it's time for you to block her out of your life. Block her on Facebook, IM, change phone number.

    Sounds like she's baiting you. Don't contact her back.
  • May 6, 2009, 11:24 AM
    liz28

    If anyone should be calling the cops is you because she invading your privacy by going into your Facebook account.

    Stay away because she is bitter now and bitter people tend to act very childish.

    I missed that part Colonel regarding what she did to your Facebook account. And you can contact Facebook adminstrators to make them aware of your privacy being invaded to. But change everything now.
  • May 6, 2009, 11:35 AM
    nikosmom

    So where does the part about "she yelled and threatened to call the cops" come in?
  • May 6, 2009, 01:58 PM
    roxypox

    Yeah, it really does sound like she is baiting you, and she is acting childishly. As for going into your Facebook account, and deleting photos and the account itself... she was WAY way over the line!

    Like the others have said:

    1. change all passwords/security questions/answers on accounts such as email, Facebook etc.

    2. change your number. (You might also want to tell the people you give the new number to that they are not to pass it on to other people; they should ask you for your permission first.)

    3. Don't answer any mails/txts

    4. move on and stay away from her,
  • May 6, 2009, 04:29 PM
    colonel7

    OK well I had a interesting day... she went on my page an did all that stuff. NO LIE, she went to the police station an said that I was calling her an all LIES.. I talked to the cop an explained that I haven't talked to her since the breakup, I told him he could look through the phone, I have the iPhone, it saves everything like a computer, an told him that she logged onto my account an changed stuff around, he asked me if I would like to put a restraing order on her.. I declined because I didn't start this mess.. I did change all my passwords an deleted anything with her in it... well I just got an email from Facebook an they tracked down the exact place an computer where it was hacked into.. yup HERS ay work, I just foewarded it to the detective, he just called me back, an said I did nothing wrong he just had to call me because she was at the police station... ughhh what a nut job..,. I was blind last week but I will never say another word again to her... the det. Also said that after he hung up the phone with me she still tried to press charges, he told her that he couldn't an actually could arrest her for invasion of privacy? Computer harassment.. I just want nothing to do with that sort of situation ever again.. an my lawyer friend found out her an that DA where dating for 3 weeks, an when he found all this out, he immediately had dumped her KARMA!!
  • May 6, 2009, 04:37 PM
    I wish

    I laughed when you told us that the DA dumped her. Karma is right!

    I'm sorry to hear that you had to deal with the cops. I'm glad that they were very understanding and all the facts we sorted out.

    Changing your passwords is the first step, but you also got to block her from all your accounts so that she can't find or stalk you. I would take it a step further, if you have common friends, you should block and delete them for the time being.

    Change your phone number and block her from your email list as well.

    If she starts bothering you at your house, then you might want to consider a restraining order. It won't be difficult for you to get one since you already have a police record of her actions now.
  • May 6, 2009, 04:39 PM
    Fuzzball_Kara

    Wow, that's psychotic! I'm glad you're happier without her. I bet being single for now is looking pretty sweet at the moment.
  • May 6, 2009, 04:42 PM
    liz28

    Karma always work things out but whatever you do don't start back talking to her.

    Her marbles are loose and you don't need her. Stay strong!
  • May 6, 2009, 04:57 PM
    BlackVY

    Haha... damn... Can you say DRAMA QUEEN??

    Man, I think she likes the attention and they fact that she can tell people you are chasing after her and the more desperate she makes you out to be, the better she thinks she is and she thinks other people will be more attracted to her.

    Be thankful she is out of your life and stay well away from her. It's a good lesson to learn... stay away from nutjobs... :)
  • May 6, 2009, 05:01 PM
    colonel7

    Oh. I have taken all measures of blocking her and her friends. It really was a total learning experience. Karma always wins in the end. I do have the det. Number an they where def nice an helpful. I'm telling you the best part is when the cop told her she could be charged. I heard her in the back ground going "for what , I didn't do anything wrong " an the cop saying oh yes you did.
  • May 6, 2009, 08:09 PM
    colonel7

    An your right she's an attention hound. She used to be a model an did pagents, she was 2nd in nys miss New York. That should have been my first red flag, man I've got the best friends ever.
  • May 7, 2009, 08:15 PM
    colonel7

    Hey OK I blocked her. But today on Facebook I got a request from a beautiful girl, which I think it might be fake an my ex, there are some signs pointing in that direction, when I read her Facebook there was a guy on there that had sent her a message saying he knew she ( my ex) was a lier, an called her some names. He was first I was second. An I seen that another friend of mine who had dated her along time ago is on there. Well I emailed a few people about this an told them my hunch. There are also a lot of people that she used to work with. I just don't want any trouble, it seems (if it's her, an I have no proof it is) that she is looking to find out what I'm doing. What do I do, I blocked her from seeing my page so I think it's her
  • May 7, 2009, 08:17 PM
    BlackVY

    Yeah, it seems to make sense to me

    This girl is turning out to be quite a stalker. Be very careful.

    Go with your gut and be very weary of anything that doesn't seem right. Good luck
  • May 7, 2009, 09:22 PM
    colonel7

    Thx. I'm keeping that so called girl on my page. The first thing I did was email one of her exs an explained the situation to him. He ask why he was getting dragged into it. I told him I have no clue. But it seems fishy. Second I asked her a few basic questions. Haven't gotten a replie. But I guarntee I will tomorrow between the hours of 9-4. I will repost!
  • May 7, 2009, 10:09 PM
    liz28

    Let it go! Stop contacting her exes and don't add the phoney friend to your account.

    Right now your going down to her level playing these childish games. How do you expect to move forward while your moving backwards? This plan your putting in motion can backfire because right now your playing with fire.

    Be on and do better things with your time. No more dragging people into this drama. I know you can find other things to do with your time?
  • May 8, 2009, 05:12 AM
    colonel7

    Oh I know. I'm just warning those people what was going on. So they don't make the same mistakes that I did. The one guy I emailed wasn't an ex he was just a guy she was talking to while me an her where dating. I just don't want anybody to fall into the trap
  • May 8, 2009, 05:29 AM
    HistorianChick

    But, see, you contacting her friends on Facebook - even with the best of intentions - may be what she was talking about when she said, "Leave me alone, leave my friends alone, or I'll get a restraining order."

    You've got to move past this. Don't look at her Facebook page, your mutual friends, or their status updates. Don't message them and tell them to avoid her - they'll learn. It's not your job to protect them.

    Please, for your own safety, just let it be.

    I know it hurts, but let it be.
  • May 8, 2009, 05:50 AM
    mudweiser
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by colonel7 View Post
    Thx. I'm keeping that so called girl on my page. The first thing I did was email one of her exs an explained the situation to him. He ask why he was getting dragged into it. I told him I have no clue. But it seems fishy. Second I asked her a few basic questions. Haven't gotten a replie. But I guarntee I will tommorow between the hours of 9-4. I will repost!!

    Your making too much of this. At least the other ex is smart enough to know to stay out of it-- learn from him.

    Block her, delete her. Leave it at that. If you have mutual friends with her fight the urge to talk about her, find out about her, look for pictures... she's no longer your problem.

    You don't like the drama that comes with her then don't go looking for it either.

    Just a thought..

    Sarah
  • May 8, 2009, 06:25 AM
    liz28
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by colonel7 View Post
    Oh I know. I'm just warning those people what was going on. So they don't make the same mistakes that I did. The one guy I emailed wasn't an ex he was just a guy she was talking to while me an her where dating. I just don't want anybody to fall into the trap

    I know you're a good guy but this girl already got the cops involved and tried her hardest to get you arrested.

    What will happen if she goes back and say you are harassing her friends because you want her back? Then she have the proof? It will look bad on you and they might not believe that you was doing it to warn them about her.

    Let them find out by themselves that she is up to no good. Don't fall into this trap.

    Move on, let go, and be free. I don't want you to get into any legal problems behind this.
  • May 8, 2009, 06:53 AM
    I wish

    Remember what we said about baiting?

    Anything you say to your mutual friends, she will consider it harassment. She's just waiting for you to do something that can qualify as proof to bring to the cops, regardless of your intentions.
  • May 8, 2009, 07:04 AM
    colonel7
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by HistorianChick View Post
    But, see, you contacting her friends on facebook - even with the best of intentions - may be what she was talking about when she said, "Leave me alone, leave my friends alone, or I'll get a restraining order."

    You've got to move past this. Don't look at her facebook page, your mutual friends, or their status updates. Don't message them and tell them to avoid her - they'll learn. It's not your job to protect them.

    Please, for your own safety, just let it be.

    I know it hurts, but let it be.


    It's not her page. It's a fake page the she set up. An the guy I emailed was not a friend. He wrote my ex an email an called her a bunch of names. I was telling him that I suspected something was up
  • May 8, 2009, 07:11 AM
    mudweiser
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by colonel7 View Post
    It's not her page. It's a fake page the she set up. An the guy I emailed was not a friend. He wrote my ex an email an called her a bunch of names. I was telling him that I suspected something was up

    Really what he does.. it's his own problem. I don't see why you had to email him.

    Your making it harder on yourself to get that girl out of your life.

    Sarah
  • May 8, 2009, 07:12 AM
    colonel7

    I owe I understand. He already deleted himself from this fake page. I'm not stooping to her, I'm protecting myself. When I contacted Facebook they said if you get an strange request accept them, an they will investigateto find out where the ipl address is coMing from. This is actually to protect me, an the email to that guy was to warn him that the cops where already involved. An I have also forwarded the police this link. Trust me I have a lawyer that has my best interst, he is the lawyer for the teamsters. Like I said before if it's her she is screwing herself more. This will be harassment on her.

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