You can not and should not try to tell her , who she can or can not be friends with, that is none of your business, she can, and should have friends outside of you.

Some may be players, some may have hit on her before, if she turned them down, then that is her, that is also none of your business, if it is in the past.

I have no idea, who my wife dated before we got together, I never asked, nor do I want to know. I do not even know all of her friends, I trust her, and that is all that matters.

These are all your problems, and you are trying to blame or use her as an excuse. She is the one more perfect, and it is a surprise she will even stay with you.

Get a ''gold fish or a puppy''! She is a human being, and of course she will be different then you. But your demands from her is too high and it looks you just like her but don't love her, bcos you don't even respect her by calling her damaged goods. That's a first sign, if there is no respect then there is no love, only infatuations.

You called her 'damaged goods', get out ! How did I miss that you jerk. No woman, no matter what she has been through should be called 'damaged goods". You cant belittle a woman like that.

Keep living and learning kid, probably the hard way. You may be too young to understand that life is too short to engage in your superior BS!!

You barely can control your own BS, let alone the BS of another. Stay off her social media, and then you won't have to freak yourself out trying to run her business, and can get your own. In truth, she is no more damaged or naive than you are.

You will learn that someday.

My opinion... I think neither of you are ready to be in a serious relationship... or at least not with each other. She enjoys the attention of other guys to the point of sexting and flirting with them, even when she knows how much it bothers you. You may want it to not bother you but it does, and it will continue to.

You are not able to get passed her past, and are obsessed with getting her to tell you that she knows when she is being hit on. What would it change if she agreed with you? Are you hoping that if she somehow comes to realize it she will no longer encourage it?

You repeatedly say how much you trust her; that you know she won't cheat, but I think you keep saying it in hopes that you may start to believe it.

She hasn't changed her behavior, and isn't likely to, even after you've talked to her. So now you either accept her for how she is, or you decide if you would be better off moving on so that you can find someone more compatible .