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  • Jan 3, 2008, 10:39 PM
    Simple Asian
    Lol... have you ever meet the parents that the dad is a pilot gunner in marien and the mom is marien retired?? And they both met and married in the marien ?

    Lol... that was crazy.. T_T >.. hahaha

    They like... " you no that we still have something left behind from the marien , i would love to show you that if you messed with my daughter "...

    I was like " no sir ...no sir... i'll treat her goood.".. they were like " how good " T_T man that was horrible T_T
  • Jan 4, 2008, 10:03 AM
    schwartzyms
    That stinks
  • Jan 4, 2008, 10:04 AM
    schwartzyms
    Must of stinked*
  • Jan 4, 2008, 11:03 AM
    Wondergirl
    Must have stunk**

    (irregular verb)
  • Jan 4, 2008, 11:21 AM
    schwartzyms
    Well, so we went out last night to the bowling alley and then walked to the mall and walked around inside the mall and then we came back to my house and watched 2 movies in my room and she was laying her head on my shoulder and it felt really comforting and we had a lot of fun. But I missed like 30 chances to kiss her cause I was to nervous.
  • Jan 4, 2008, 07:33 PM
    Simple Asian
    lol... well did you at least ? ^_^
  • Jan 4, 2008, 10:19 PM
    schwartzyms
    No, I'm so nervous to, I had chances tonight also but I'm so nervous over it. I hugged her a lot and we held hands for like an hour so she knows I care about her, I'm just really nervous
  • Jan 4, 2008, 11:44 PM
    Simple Asian
    Lol... well first kiss?. if then yeah... wait till you ready.. XD...
  • Jan 5, 2008, 12:06 AM
    oneguyinohio
    Don't worry so much about the kissing. You're thinking about it way too much... maybe she is liking the fact that you aren't trying to kiss her all the time... just have fun and what will happen, will happen. Stop trying to plan the moment.
  • Jan 5, 2008, 12:27 AM
    jrebel7
    Oneguy, this is great advice. Tried to rate answer but it said I had to spread the love around a bit first. LOL

    Fun time in your life Sch!! As I have said before, "Enjoy the journey!" You will know when the time is right. I know that sounds like a cliché but it is really how it is.
  • Jan 5, 2008, 07:48 AM
    schwartzyms
    OK, all of you give great advice!

    I do think about it a lot, probably a little to much(as Oneguy stated)

    And yes, it would be my first kiss
  • Jan 5, 2008, 08:17 AM
    talaniman
    It will happen don't worry, just like the first date, savior it.
  • Jan 6, 2008, 09:12 AM
    schwartzyms
    Thanks, she's coming by today for a couple hours... I want it to happen tonight, but if it doesn't it doesn't... theres always another time and another place
  • Jan 6, 2008, 06:31 PM
    schwartzyms
    So it didn't happen 2 days ago, and I had plenty of chances, but I didn't act on them.

    I can't wait for our next date because I'm definitely going to do it then.
  • Jan 6, 2008, 11:05 PM
    Simple Asian
    so you got your first kiss ? >>^^...
  • Jan 7, 2008, 03:18 PM
    schwartzyms
    No, I haven't yet. I feel so bad today, I have weight training after school on Mondays and Wednesdays and then I have a Math and Spanish tutor and today I had weight training. So after school I saw her in the hallway and I said hi and she said hey. But I had to leave right away and I couldn't stand around to tell her anything. So I just left for the weight room. I feel so bad because I know that all I needed was a minute to tell her that I couldn't talk, but I didn't have the time. And I texted her before the weight training to tell her that I'm sorry and she said Oh. Its OK. I understand. But I don't know if she really does understand?? I don't want to hurt her or make her mad.
  • Jan 7, 2008, 03:38 PM
    jrebel7
    Better text her again!! :) Sometimes, it takes a gal more than being told once. We tend to be skeptical. LOL
  • Jan 7, 2008, 03:41 PM
    schwartzyms
    I've told her that I'm sorry about 5 times already. I just don't know if she really isn't mad. We've only been together a week, its not like I know her emotions inside and out. I feel so bad because there was 10 minutes before they opened the weight rooms door. And for at least 6 of those 10 minutes I could have talked to her
  • Jan 7, 2008, 07:01 PM
    talaniman
    Easy playa, your thinking way too much, settle down and just be yourself. She will understand.
  • Jan 7, 2008, 07:04 PM
    schwartzyms
    Okay, thanks Tal
  • Jan 7, 2008, 11:05 PM
    oneguyinohio
    I'm starting to wonder about something you told me earlier in this thread...

    I only want to be in a relationship because its someone that you can trust with everything, tell anything to, spend time with, have fun around by being yourself and not having to fake anything, and its someone who likes you for who you are.

    Now you seem to be putting an awful lot of thought into the kissing and romantic end of things. You seem to be worried an awful lot about how to act, or what to say, when you initially said: "its someone who likes you for who you are." That sounds more like a very good friend---without the desires you're now adding on.

    What's the big rush to have all these experiences? Just to have them? For what purpose? What comes next? When it isn't all new anymore? I am really thinking that you are jumping in too quickly. Somebody is apt to get hurt in this situation since there is no real plan for where things can lead other than a lot of experimenting. Consider cooling your jets for awhile. Realistically, you are young. You can not support yourself, and you sure are not in a position to be thinking about a grown up long-term committed exclusive lifelong relationship.
  • Jan 8, 2008, 03:37 PM
    schwartzyms
    That is very true, I have been looking into a bit too much for me. I just want to experience it really bad, and I know it can wait, It had just gotten the best of me
  • Jan 8, 2008, 04:29 PM
    talaniman
    Call it what it is, Raging Hormones, typical at your age, the dreams, the feelings, the scent of her hair, the feel of her touch, we all go through it, male and female, just use your common sense, and don't get in trouble.
  • Jan 8, 2008, 05:58 PM
    schwartzyms
    I don't plan on getting into any trouble... But must of us say that and guess what? We get in trouble.

    Anyone know how to make a relationship less expensive?

    I had $80 before we started going out, and after 3 dates I have $20 left.
  • Jan 8, 2008, 06:32 PM
    talaniman
    Rent movies, and play games, walk and talk.
  • Jan 9, 2008, 06:44 PM
    schwartzyms
    Good suggestions

    Thanks tal
  • Jan 10, 2008, 08:00 PM
    schwartzyms
    So, we kissed tonight, it was only a 1 second peck...

    And her mom wants me to have dinner with them tomorrow night
  • Jan 10, 2008, 08:21 PM
    oneguyinohio
    Go to the park, hike, hike, hike... read a book, watch TV, go to church together maybe? do a hobby together, push her on a swing, ride a bike, play board games, cards, wash a car together, make a pizza at home... help her do a chore at home?

    Money can't buy love... lesson#1...

    When I was your age, I put off asking anyone out because I thought I needed to have a car and money... Now that I'm my age (40+), I still tend to use the same excuse of maybe when I have more $, though I know it won't matter with the right person.
  • Jan 10, 2008, 08:33 PM
    jrebel7
    Hey Sch, sounds great! "Congratulations"! If the mom is wanting to have you over for dinner, that is a plus. She must be happy you and her daughter are seeing each other. You have taken it slow and that is great. It has been a pleasure seeing how this has unfolded in your life. Thanks for sharing! Best to you! :)
  • Jan 12, 2008, 02:48 PM
    schwartzyms
    I could go to church with her, but I'm jewish so It would be kind of awkward. Haha.

    We went to the park last night and had a lot of fun. We lied there looking at the stars and kissed a couple times, fun night.

    Thanks for all of the suggestions!!
  • Jan 12, 2008, 03:34 PM
    jrebel7
    Going to church with her sounds nice. It is always good to learn about what a friend believes in their faith walk and why.

    Enjoy and just stay respectful of her and of yourself. Sounds to me like you do think things through. I am happy for you.
  • Jan 14, 2008, 03:08 PM
    schwartzyms
    Sounds like a good idea
  • Jan 16, 2008, 05:53 PM
    schwartzyms
    Ok ummmm...

    I know I'm only 15 and I can't possibly be in love with a girl that I've been dating for almost 3 weeks, but how can I express my feelings to her? It's like I really want to say "I love you", but then, wouldn't I just be lying? I'm really confused...
  • Jan 16, 2008, 06:25 PM
    Clough
    You wouldn't be lying by telling her that you love her. It would just be that you would be telling her that you love her, based upon your understanding of what love is for you at this point in your life. You will understand and grow in the understanding as to what true love is about as you get older and have more experiences in life.
  • Jan 16, 2008, 08:29 PM
    schwartzyms
    Very true, thanks for the advice Clough. I'll definitely take that into consideration.
  • Jan 18, 2008, 09:10 PM
    schwartzyms
    When would be a good time to tell her how I feel, I know that I liker her and that she likes me, but I feel more than that. How would I be able to express it?
  • Jan 18, 2008, 10:55 PM
    oneguyinohio
    Find your own way. Do what you feel is right in your heart.

    You don't always have to get your answers from other people. Let your authentic self do the actions. Otherwise, you are just a mirror of others.

    Do you want this girl to like you, or the thoughts of others?
  • Jan 19, 2008, 12:17 AM
    jrebel7
    Just a thought: There is a difference in loving someone and being "In Love" with someone. You can love on many levels with out the other person feeling things are moving too fast. A person may be "In Love" but this is such a deeper kind of love, one might take their time before sharing with the person those feelings. Intense feelings shared too soon can be a little intimidating to a young girl. One might share at some point, "I really do like you. I even feel at times I am beginning to love you."
    Schw, I am in no way saying this is what to say!! Just remembering back some years!! LOL :)

    Oneguy has given you some really great advice in saying to find your own way.
    Each of us has to and each of us makes good choices along the way and mistakes along the way and learn from them. As long as you are being sincere in what you say and how you say it, the girl will generally accept what you say but might not be able to voice the same at that given moment so if that happens, don't be disheartened or feel embarrassed. Putting your feelings out there is a scary thing. One might let things proceed at a safe pace until one feels a comfort in their heart to share.

    I know it helps to have some feed back from others but you do need to learn to listen to your heart to know when timing is right for each step. You waited to kiss her until you felt it was right and it turned out great.

    One thing I have learned in life is that if I feel an urgency to say something or do something, that is generally the time I wait. When I have peace to say or do something, then I feel comfortable in doing so.

    Sharing here and asking these questions is a good and positive thing. You do probably need to begin depending on the direction you feel from our heart more each day and feel less dependent on this safety zone on the forum but any of us out here are happy to answer or discuss issues with you. As Oneguy said, "Let your authentic self do the actions." Great advice.
  • Jan 19, 2008, 07:32 AM
    schwartzyms
    That was great advice, thanks a lot! This is a very confusing subject for me and probably many others. I'm grateful for your advice.
  • Jan 22, 2008, 06:31 PM
    schwartzyms
    So I told her how I felt and she told me the same, but for some reason it feels weird to say it. Of course this girl is great and I would love to be with her for a while, but for some reason it feels weird to say "love" at times. I'm guessing I'm just not used to it, but I don't know if that's entirely true.

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