To go with what you said talaniman he does know that I like him.to go with what you said silent breeze, at times I think he likes me too by the things he does to me and stuff like that and all my friends say awww and get them and stuff like that when I tell them and stuff.I'm never the one who approaches him,he's always the one to approach me.I think another reason why he hasn't done anything is because he's on punishment rite now and he doesn't know for how long because my friend asked him.and then his parents are really strict and won't really let him do anything but I don't know if that's because he's on punishment or if that's how it always is.but once he gets off punishment I'll c he would want to do anything

Of course that means he likes you!! you should ask him though because some guys are werid although he most likely likes you you could slip a note in his locker saying how you feel or go to him face to face or ask your friends to ask him if you go for a note in locker make sure you put that its from you

Girl I think he likes you, but I'm not giving you the thumbs up because I've been in a similar situation. I used to like a guy in my school, he was always the one to come up to me, he was always joking around and fooling around with me and trying to get my attention and acting differently with me. I really started to fall for him, then all of a sudden he stopped doing the things I love and started doing them to my best friend (yeah, ouch!) maybe he is a player, and maybe I ran out of time... I know I am special and if he was too hasty to wait for me then I don't think he deserves me. We are now on a friendly bases, he still kids with me, and lately he's been telling me he wants to take me out and we set a date and all but it was all just kidding around. The date was last Thursday, he didn't show up of course he doesn't know where I live (he doesn't even have my number!) and today I was like: thanks for taking me LOL and we fooled around and stuff then he was like I wanted to take you and I was like I got dressed and waited for the phone to ring but it just wouldn't... etc. All OBVIOUSLY fooling around, there was no doubt we meant any of the words we were saying, we were laughing so hard.

Sometimes it helps to hear similar stories from other people. The reason I wrote all this is that I wanted you to see my situation and try to see the similarities between them.
Maybe he thought I didn't care, maybe he gave up trying to show me he cares, maybe its my fault... I don't know, I still haven't figured it out... BUT he can also be a player, which he probably is, a player I fell (falling) for.

So, in the back of your mind you must remember things might not work out all right, just so you don't get shocked like I did. Getting heartbroken and knowing why is easier than getting heartbroken not knowing the reason for all the pain...

But to be honest, I don't think he's like the guy I know, the thing that shows is that he treats you differently, and it shows and he's not trying to hide it.
I say go for it, what's the worse that can happen? But make sure you tell him that you Don't want to jeapordise the relationship you two already have, you just wanted to know so you'd be on the same page. That you don't want this to change the lovely relationship between you. Make sure he gets that message.
Goodluck girl, I hope your story turns out better than mine...

Thanks silent breeze for letting me c your perpective... it really helped :) so thanks.I think I will go for it once I find out when he's off punishment because I won't know how far our relationship is going to go if I don't try right?I honestly think I have a chance w him because out of all the guys I've liked and tried 2 pursue something with,this one is turing out to be the most optimistic so far and it has the potential and he's not like all the other guys I've liked and all my good friends think I have a chance and that he likes me too,so we'll c. I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you with your similar experience,hopefully things will get better for you too

This morning I was talking to my friends and I happened to look over and I saw him looking at me,that's actually saw him and so I looked and then looked away and kept talking to my friends.then my friend was talking to him during 1st block and she was looking at his camera and was like you don't have ant pictures of my boo on there n he was like who and she said my name and was like I'll take a pic and he was like no I'm going to take it.what does that mean,if anything.so today during last block I was in the hall I was walking 2 go to the bathroom and he just happened to be in the hallway and so I called his name and he turned around and waited for me ,then we hugged and started walking down the hall.I talked and walked w him till we got 2 his locker and then I left and went to the bathroo.when I came out the bathroom he was still in the hall and he was talking 2 my friend and so talked to her for a min and then walked back up the hall w him.as we were walking he kept pushing me into the halls and so I was pushing him back and then he was asking me what class I was going to and I was like chorus and he was like o so you have penny and I was playing around and was like nooo I have so and so n then I did something else and he was like what are you making fun of me and I was like nooo and I like put my hand on his shoulder or something and was like I would never make fun of you or something and then I tried to turn to go into my class but every time I went to go in one direction he would go in the same direction and so we kept doing that for awhile and then I was like my teacher is probably like wth is she doing and then he let me by and then he left.then I got in the room and my friend were like I saw that and I was all like what.so does any of that mean anything?

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this morning i was talkin to my friends n i happened to look over n i saw him lookin at me,thats actually saw him n so i looked n then looked away n kept talking to my friends.then my friend was talkin 2 him during 1st block n she was lookin at his camera n was like u dont have ant pictures of my boo on there n he was like who n she said my name n was like i'll take a pic n he was like no im gonna take it.what does that mean,if anything.so 2day during last block i was in the hall i was walkin 2 go to the bathroom n he just happened to be in the hallway n so i called his name n he turned around n waited for me ,then we hugged n started walkin down the hall.i talked n walked w him till we got 2 his locker n then i left n went to the bathroo.when i came out the bathroom he was still in the hall n he was talkin 2 my friend n so talked 2 her for a min n then walked back up the hall w him.as we were walking he kept pushing me into the halls n so i was pushing him back n then he was askin me what class i was goin to n i was like chorus n he was like o so u have penny n i was playin around n was like nooo i have so n so n then i did somethin else n he was like what are u makin fun of me n i was like nooo n i like put my hand on his shoulder or somethin n was like i would never make fun of u or somethin n then i tried to turn to go into my class but everytime i went to go in one direction he would go in the same direction n so we kept doin that for awhile n then i was like my teacher is prolly like wth is she doin n then he let me by n then he left.then i got in the room n my friend were like i saw that n i was all like what.so does any of that mean anything?

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About the camera thing I don't think he means much by it. Walking in the hall and goofing off is really nice but I have some questions; I didn't catch the last part... you two were messing around, when he was like are you making fun of me, was he serious, kidding, or seriously kidding... and while saying no ill never make fun of you, were you serious or kidding or in between, last but not least, his eye contact, when jumping in front of you, was he looking into your eyes searching, was he looking down kind of wondering what to do next (not by how to block your way but something deeper) or were you JUST goofing ? I don't think just goofing around... please make it clear, I'm waiting :D
Goodluck

It seemed like he was kidding because he didn't sound serious and I was being serious when I told him that I wouldn't make fun of him.while we walking beside each other we didn't have eye contact because we were beside each other but while he blocking me when did have eye contact.

While blocking you... you didn't have eye contact? If you did was he looking into your eyes searching, or was he looking down? The reason I'm stressing is that eye contact is important. Good thing you said it kind of seriously. I think you two are good together and I guess your friends think so too. If a close friend of your was the one to comment ask her what she meant if you are really interested. If not go back to your original plan and wait till he gets off punishment. But enjoy the time you two are spending together now and don't get too caught up with what might happen later, take everything as it comes. Any questions?

I meant to say when he was blocking me we did have eye contact.thanks, yea all my good friends, the ones who know I like him and everything like that,say we look cute together and all this stuff. Yea it was a close friend of mine who was like I saw that when I came in the room,because apparently they had saw through the door.

Then girl I guess you have got a great guy for you! I truly hope your story turns out better than mine! I honestly wish you the best of luck. How long is his punishment going to continue?

Awww thanks! :) I hope things turn out good for you too! I don't know how long his punishment is,I guess I can always ask,because me and one my bestfriends want to go iceskating and she wants to bring her boyfriend and I think it would be fun to bring him

Sure! I say go for it. Set a date and tomorrow ask him if he can come along, all in the say ways we have talked about earlier. Goodluck, keep posting!

It was supposed to snow and unlike all the rest of the countys we had to go school and then we had to end up going home early because of the roads. So the school was pretty much desserted. And so we had to stay until 11:30 so we only 2 blocks. I was walking to class and my two friends were standing in the hall and so we stopped in the middle of the hall and then we looked to the right and he was down the hall and then one of them was like someone down the hall is looking at u,and she was talking about him, but I kind of figured he was,because you know how you get that feeling when someone is staring at u. then during 1st block I went to go re-take a test and he ended up coming down there 2 talk to the teacher.n so I get up and he puts his hands out for me to hug him and so I hug him and then he teased me about the way I hug.. sayin that wasn't a hug and he was like you have to squeeze tight and so then I hugged him again and it was one of those hugs where you rock back and forth,and this time it was a tighter kind of hug because he squez(sp?) me and I held onto to him tighter than I usually do and so we were closer together when he hugged me then we have before, then like 30 minutes later I was wandering the halls again w my friend and he was in the hall too and so we stopped and he had his camera in his hand and he took a picture of me and then we kept going in our opposite directions. So I guess my question would be ,is all this a good sign?

I think these are pretty good signs. Him taking a picture of you is really good, means he wanted to make sure you are okay with it before. But a question, is there a possibility one of your friends asked him why he didn't take a picture of you?
Him hugging you and insisting on you hugging him stronger I think that is also good. I think any other guy wouldn't really think much of the hug, you know, he'd hug you, whatever. But he cared and wanted you to hug him the way he is hugging you, all to further lay down the boundaries between you two. Another question, does he hug any of your other friends? How does he hug them, same way or a quick rush of hello?
P.S. “Squeeze”
He/I squeezed me/him
Is squeezing me
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Well remember on one of my last posts I said that one of my bestfriends was looking at his camera and said " u don't have any pictures of my boo on here." and he said "who?" and then she said my name, and was like "i'll take it." and then he said " no i will." but that's not the same thing as her asking him why he didn't take a picture of me.when all this took place, I wasn't in the same place as them. Yea he hugs some of my friends, but no not in that same way,it is more of a way to say hello. Thanks for clarifying how to spell sqeeze lol. So you think him wanting to hug me tighter was a way of telling me he wanted to get closer or something,I don't know.

Today I was in the lunch line with my best friend and she saw him coming out the lunch line and she told him to come here.he did,and he hugged me first, it was a kind of long hug too,then he hugged my friend.then I stole one of his fries and then they started talking about wrestling.then before last block I was talking to that same person and then someone called my name so I went over there and then I went back and she was talking to him.then he hugged both of us at the same time.then me and him both started walking and he had his arm around me so that it was hangin on my shoulder and then my other best friend was walking the other way and she gave me that look like "awwww thats cute..get em!" then he put it down,then my friend comes up and walks w us, and he said something about her and then he touced her on the shoulder,but he had to reach behind me to do it because I was in the middle and so it was kind of a smooth move because then he put his arm around my shoulder again.and so then we kept walking down the hall until I had to go up the stairs so then I said bye.I mean I think all these are really good signs that he likes me.what do you think of the matter?

First I want to say Im sorry for the late reply but I have my finals now and Im really struggling and there is no time to sign in. I finally found a second and quickly decided to log in and see what happened with you. I think these are great signs, I really liked the smooth move he did, pretending he wanted to touch your best friend so he could put his arm around you again ;) So I say its all good.
Keep posting! Ill reply as soon as I possibly can

No its OK I understand... school is a # one priority... I hope you did good on your finals :). I was thinking about seeing if he would want to watch the superball with me.. whether it been just us or like a group of us... that is if he's of punishment... I hope so... because its been awhile.do you think that would be a good idea or no?

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no its ok i understand...school is a # one priority... i hope u did good on ur finals :). i was thinking about seeing if he would want to watch the superball with me ..whether it been just us or like a group of us...that is if hes of punishment...i hope so...cuz its been awhile.do u think that would be a good idea or no?

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Instead of giving you a yes/no, Im going to tell you to ask yourself two questions, from that you'll know the answer.

1- Can you NOT ask him and NOT regret it later?

2- Worse case sinario, do you want to be the person saying: "I took the risk, it didnt turn out the way I planned but at least I knew" or "There was a guy I liked, period.

Hope I helped.

Yea your questions helped me.my answer to the first question was no and my answer to the 2nd one was I'd rather be the person who took the risk instead of doing nothing.so I'm guess I got my answer,I guess that means I should ask him? Today my best friend asked him if he was off punishment and he told her that yea he was off punishment and that he can hang out but that he didn't have his phone back yet. And then she told me and I was like that's good and I said that he probably knows its me since he knows that your my best friend and she said of course he knows its you n that she had a good feeling about us.and then at the end of the day I was going into class and he called my name as I was about to go in the room and so I turned around and I hugged him and then we started walking and he had his arm around my shoulder again and I had my arm around me and he asked me how I was doing and stuff.and then we stopped and my best friend was talking to some of our friends and she like smiled at me and winked because she had saw us.

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ok so the guy who ive been crushing on n whos always pickin on me n flirtin w me now knows that i like him. when my friend asked him who he liked "he said no one" n then she told him that i liked him but even tho he knows that i like he still flirts with me n then the other day he comes up 2 me n hugs me n says somethin like "u never talk 2 me anymore..ur like avoiding me or somethin."i mean i guess u could say that was kinda tru,but that was because i didnt kno how 2 act around him.so what should i do?

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I think that you should keep flirting with him.. Nothing is ever going to happen if you keep avoiding him.. You never know you guys could be purfect for each other.. I am 22 years old but I still get shy arounnd a guy if I really like him.. Just keep going after him don't give up!

OK so I was on myspace today and I got a message from my crushes brother and I don't know what 2 think it,it kind of there me off .hes 19 n in a whole different state but
Here's what it said


Hey what's up my name cj and I'm s' older brother and I came down to watch his state game and I saw you and I was like who's that I wanted to talk to you but you was with you friends so I was like never mind you wouldn't believe what I wnet through to find out who you are I'm not a stalker or anything trust me I just wanted to get to know you if that's all right with you I'm sorry if I come off wrong to you . But I really would like to get to know you as a person so if your willing to take time out of you life to get to know me that would mean a lot. My little brother is sw he;s how I found out who you are I hope you don't mind. P.S think you could send me a friend request??

Does this make it sound like he wants to be my friend or what?my best friend thinks that I should tell my crush about the message and see what he says... what do you think?I need help... idk what to do...

I think telling your crush may be a good idea. But you have to be very careful; you don't want to cause problems between the two brothers. And you shouldn't make it sound like you are interested in the matter, like you want to meet the guy or something, make it sound like you are curious if he knew or not. Just open up the subject casually, go like, what's your brother's name, or which state is he in or anything. And then when he answers you can go like, "well to be completely honest he sent me a message on myspace and he was like I want to meet you and that he went through a lot to know who I was...." Btw, there was a part I didn't really catch, in the message he left you on myspace, did he mean he got who you were from his little brother, which is your crush? Or from who?
I think you should be honest, honesty can be truly helpful. Just don't give him the wrong impression like you want to meet him or something, go like he sent me this, see how he reacts and stuff, and for the meantime do not add his bro on your friend list and do not reply to him. What if your crush tells you to stay away from his bro and you're like I can't cause I already added him or something. And please be careful not to cause any problems between the two brothers as I said before.
Best of luck girl and keep posting!

Yea he found out who I was from his little brother or so he says which just happens to be my crush. But then I asked my friend if she knew him and she said that was a little weird because she's never heard of him and she said she knows there this kid who goes to school near ours and that they call each other brothers but they aren't really and the guy who sent me a message is in a whole different state,so its starting to get sketchy.

So today I asked one of my good friends if she knew if my crush had a brother named cj and she said yea. And I was like OK because he sent me a message and I told her what it said and she said yea he does that. So should I think nothing of it and just forget about and not tell my crush or tell him but not make a big deal about it and also what's a good way to ask him if he wants to hang out sun, and like maybe watch the superbowl?

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so today i asked one of my good friends if she knew if my crush had a brother named cj n she said yea. n i was like ok because he sent me a msg n i told her what it said n she said yea he does that. so should i think nothin of it n just forget about n not tell my crush or tell him but not make a big deal about it and also whats a good way to ask him if he wants to hang out sun, n like maybe watch the superbowl?

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Since you’re friend knows him and told you he does these things, just forget about it and don’t reply him as if you never read it. But just so you don’t fall into a drama TV series, tell your crush about the message. Tell him you decided to completely ignore it and you don’t care at all about it but you just thought he ought to know cause you don’t want to have any secrets from each other.
I think if you are too shy to ask him straight out, you can slip a note into his locker, it’ll be cute. Go like, “Hey you, I’ve really been wanting to watch the superball and I thought maybe we could grab some (popcorn, ice-cream, whatever) and watch it together, it may be fun. Waiting for a reply, ___ "
And if you feel like you want to tell him straight out you can use the same. You don’t have to use this but at least you have an idea. You can ask him out while you are talking, go like, “By the way, how about we hang out on Sunday and watch the superball together, it might be fun.”
Good luck!

Both of those sound like good ideas.my best friend kept telling me to go ask him because it wouldve been the perfect timing.n so then she went and talked to him and told him that he needed to talk to him because I had something I wanted to ask him but was too scared too so now he knows I wann ask him soemthin but he doesn't know what and I think I changed my mind though,I think I'm going to ask him if he would like to the movies Sunday before the superbowl starts because if I ask him 2 watch the superbowl,we're not going to have a place to watch it at and plus I doubt my mom would let me invite anyone over.. especially not a boy.. since I kind of got in trouble today.

So today I asked him if he wanted to hang out Sunday and he said he had church and I was like what about after and he said he'd ask.n then I was like how am I going to kno(cuz he cnt text back) n he was like well I have your number so I can call you n I was like OK n I then I said call my house phone because my cell doesn't have many minutes left and so then he said he didn't have that # n that id need to give it to him and then he went to the bathroom and then he came back and then I gave him the #. So does this make it date? I'm thinking about going to a movie because there's this movie coming out today that I really want to c.how am I supposed to act though because I'm afraid that I'll get nervous or something. What am I supposed to do if he does something during the movie like using the old strech then arm around the shoulder move or like tries to hold my hand or something,how am I supposed to respond? Help me...

I say you bat those eyelashes and keep smiling.
I think this kid might just like you, and if not, it's fun having a guy treat you with a present :]
Just don't sit by the phone and don't be too anxious, play it cool and smile when he talks to you; guys looove when you smile.

So we ended up not hanging out yesterday :(.at school day when I was going into math class he was standing in front of the door and he wouldn't let me by and was like where are you going and I hugged him and then he was like " u kno i didnt get ur text til this mornin" or something like that.n then I asked him if he did the history hw and then I started to ask him about this weekend but the bell was about to ring.then during class when he got up to hand in his test he walked past my desk and like grabbed my side or something like that and I smiled when he did that,but I don't know if he saw it.should I ask him 2 hang out again ,but this time so its not last minute?

Yesterday at the end of class,I was walking in the hall and he was in front me and I called his name and he turned around and stopped and then he put his arm around my shoulder and then I put my arm around his waist as usual. And I asked him if he got my text and I asked him what he was doing this weekend and then he told me he got grounded because our math teacher called his parents and told them he had a f in class and so he got grounded and had to quit the wrestling team.is this just bad luck n should I give up or should I patiently wait for him to not be grounded,but who knows how long that's going to be since he was on punishment for so long for that one time. I mean he's such a sweet guy but he stays in trouble with his parents,they're really strict,especially towards him and not his older sister.then today in math when I was talking to my friend and I was walking back to my seat he came in and we went in for a hug and then I leaned back and told my friend what I had said before he came in and then we went back into our hug and it was a really nice hug.. he kept rubbing his hands up and down my back,I guess you know what I mean.is that normal for a guy to do?I mean I like it when he hugs me and stuff.its times like that... that I don't want to stop liking him because we can't hang out because he keeps getting in trouble with his parents.. . help me.. what should I do

I think you like those hugs so much, your ignoring the obvious. He stays in trouble with his parents a lot. He is failing in his school work. These are red flags!! It means there is something wrong with this "sweet guy"". Start paying attention, to more than his hand around your shoulder, and how good it feels!!

So what are you trying to say?that I should stop looking at how much I like him and how he mite like me and start thinking about how much he gets into trouble with his parents and pay more attention to how he is doing in school and try to help him in math?I mean we are in the same class.

Yes! What I was trying to say is, he may not be as sweet a guy as you may think, and keep your eyes open, and don't be blinded by love so much. You are in a good position to see why he is flunking math, so you know if he knows the material, or is not turning in his home work. Tutoring is good help to give, doing his homework would be absolute proof he is a lazy user. Do you see the difference??

I mean I can attest to the fact that no one in my class never really does the hw.. myself included.as far as him knowing the material.. I don't know if he does or not,but sometimes the material can be hard at first.what did you mean when you said "doing his hw would be absolute proof he is a lazy user." did you mean if I was the one who ended up doing his homework for him, instead of tutoring him?

Yes, but not saying that's the case, just making an observation.

Yea I don't think he would do that.love fest is coming up on valentines day... its this thing we have at my school where you can send your friends songs and candy and stuff and I was thinking about sending him something.. would that be appropriate or not?I'm also singing with two of my friends,so we will be singing to people all day who got songs sent to them,I was thinking about singing in class to him but I don't know if I should...

I think its okay to do what's appropriate. Singing to him in class... may be a little much. Just curious, how you would describe where this thing, you two have, is at right now, just for clarity.

Yea I don't think I'm going to sing to him,but I will send him something,but I don't know what yet. To be completely honest I have no idea how to describe where we are at rite now

Until you can, don't step in to deep. If he cared that, much he would be making it more apparent how he feels, with words and actions. Sorry he has not so far. Just a word of caution. Given what you has written, frankly I don't trust him, but you are there, I'm not. Be honest with yourself, don't you have some doubts about his motives?