Ask Me Help Desk - How to ask a girl out on a date in 6th grade

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Originally Posted by epicnovel67

Guys listen I only want an answer to my question.. I'm 11 ill be 12 in 2 weeks... I grew up with out my dad for the last 3 years... I smoke weed I do stuff just to piss people off, but after I met her all that changed I haven't really felt the urge to smoke again I'm working at respecting people again... it might just sound like some kindergarten crush and what not, but this girl means every thing to me.. my little brother and her are the only reasons I haven't committed suicide yet.. just to tell you that maybe you guys will understand more.

Look at my last post it should it explain some things

Save me the sob story, that doesn't help answer your question. If you think you need a girl to make you stop doing drugs, you need more help than we can offer you. No one but you can make you stop destructive behavior. If you depend on someone else to do it for you, you're in for a lifetime of hurt.

I'm sorry that you lost your dad, I'm sorry that you seem to care so little about yourself at the age of 11 that you ruin your body by doing drugs, and consider suicide.

That has nothing to do with your question. If you want us to stick to answering the question, which we've done, but you haven't accepted, than stick to answers that aren't meant to get sympathy.

She's your girlfriend. Having a girlfriend means you're in a relationship, so asking her on a date isn't hard at all. That's what girlfriends and boyfriends do, they date. So just ask her what she's doing this weekend, and if she wants to see a movie, or go grab a bite to eat. If she really is your girlfriend, asking her on a date is not hard. That's the part of all of this that's baffling, and shows your age.

Good luck.

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Originally Posted by Alty

Save me the sob story, that doesn't help answer your question. If you think you need a girl to make you stop doing drugs, you need more help than we can offer you. No one but you can make you stop destructive behavior. If you depend on someone else to do it for you, you're in for a lifetime of hurt.

I'm sorry that you lost your dad, I'm sorry that you seem to care so little about yourself at the age of 11 that you ruin your body by doing drugs, and consider suicide.

That has nothing to do with your question. If you want us to stick to answering the question, which we've done, but you haven't accepted, than stick to answers that aren't meant to get sympathy.

She's your girlfriend. Having a girlfriend means you're in a relationship, so asking her on a date isn't hard at all. That's what girlfriends and boyfriends do, they date. So just ask her what she's doing this weekend, and if she wants to see a movie, or go grab a bite to eat. If she really is your girlfriend, asking her on a date is not hard. That's the part of all of this that's baffling, and shows your age.

Good luck.

It's not that I need a girl to make me stop doing drugs it's happiness that I need and that's all the feeling that I know some one cares about me, but thanks any way, could have went to a friend and got a better answer though this whole thing I'd just like life... Useless and please don't respond to this anymore it was pointless

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Originally Posted by epicnovel67

It's not that I need a girl to make me stop doing drugs it's happiness that I need and that's all the feeling that I know some one cares about me, but thanks any way, could have went to a friend and got a better answer though this whole thing I'd just like life... Useless and please don't respond to this anymore it was pointless

You still don't get it. If she's your girlfriend than you're dating, so asking her to go out isn't brain surgery, because you should already be doing that, which is why you're girlfriend and boyfriend. So is she or isn't she your girlfriend? Doesn't sound like she is.

Don't tell me not to respond, you don't own this site, and you don't get to decide who replies or when the replies stop. That's another part of growing up, learning that the world doesn't revolve around you and what you want.

Ya, go ask your friends, I'm sure that a bunch of 11 and 12 year olds will have much better advice than people that have actually been there and done that. Oh, that's sarcasm by the way.

Good luck. If you actually want advice, and are willing to listen, come back. But don't waste our time asking questions when you're not willing to hear the truth.

You are still a kid - go play sports do something physical. Stop thinking about girls so much at your age. Those days will come soon enough, right now keep your mind on school studies and your friends. Good luck!

Please stop talking about suicide, my nephew did this and he was a few years older than you. It is NOT funny, and not cool so don't even use those words. If you feel that way, I seriously believe you'd better discuss this with your school counselor tomorrow when you get to school.

Also, doing things to 'piss people off' is so childish which brings me back to the fact that you are only 11 years old - - stay off the computer and get in to sports or something. Get a hobby. Don't sit and think about girls. Sometimes dating is more stressful then one can imagine and you do not sound mentally mature enough or stable by the postings you've made to even think about dating. When I was eleven, I was kept very busy.

Good Luck.

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Originally Posted by epicnovel67

Guys listen I only want an answer to my question.. I'm 11 ill be 12 in 2 weeks... I grew up with out my dad for the last 3 years... I smoke weed I do stuff just to piss people off, but after I met her all that changed I haven't really felt the urge to smoke again I'm working at respecting people again... it might just sound like some kindergarten crush and what not, but this girl means every thing to me.. my little brother and her are the only reasons I haven't committed suicide yet.. just to tell you that maybe you guys will understand more.

First, we provide solutions here, not just answers to a specific question. Especially when that question reveals a deeper problem.

Second, what the above tells me is that there is something missing in your life and you are desperately looking for something to fill that gap. You changed, not because of this girl, but because you think this alleged relationship brings more meaning to your life. But then what is going to happen when she breaks up with you. And she will. When she goes to high school next year (if not sooner, middle school relationships have a life spam measured in weeks) she will meet someone more mature and gravitate to them. How will that affect your psyche?

You need professional help. PLEASE talk to a counselor at school. Print out this thread and show it to someone. You need to find out how to deal with a missing father, uncaring mother and the other issues that you are using drugs and other things to fill in your life.