Ask Me Help Desk - Lied about my age.

I'm not understanding your fear. You said he gets mad easy. Are you afraid of him?
Tell him "I told you was 16 when we met, I'm sorry but I'm 15. I hope you're not too upset" What is the worse he can do? If he is that much of a puritan you're going to have a rough time with him. You've only been dating 3 months.

No one knows how I feel

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Originally Posted by lara pain

The thing about my bf tho is he get angry easly and would not understand why I lied :(

This is a big red flag. If you have only known him for three months and you are already afraid of his temper, then you need to walk away before something makes him angry enough to physically hurt you. Lying about your age could be that 'thing'.

If you aren't afraid of his temper, then you need to be honest with him about your age especially if sexual contact has been mentioned or initiated.

Has he met your family and friends?

Are your parents okay with you dating a 17 year old? Or have you lied to them about his age?

Frankly, as a mother, I think you need to let this male find someone else. You haven't known him very long and you already extremely intense about this relationship.

I think your feelings are way too intense for a 3 month relationship.
When does this guy turn 18?

You had just turned 15 when you started dating him. At your age, the law protects children, because they lack enough maturity and life experience to make adult decisions. It's as simple as that.

You are pretending to be older than you are, which puts your boyfriend at a distinct disadvantage. Most adults of children your age, would agree that the motives of a 17 year old boy are different, than say, a just turned 15 year old boy.

In other words, even when ages are close together, there is still a difference in development.

That you lied about your age to make yourself more appealing to this boy in order to establish a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, was sneaky and dishonest. You probably knew that there would be rejection if you told the truth. That he said 'honesty' would be a reason to not date you, or rather dishonesty, well- you've given him reason to end the relationship right there.

That he has traits unbecoming to any person- i.e. anger- puts you again in a position where you are in over your head, because you have NO experience in judging a relationship where anger exists. His anger, is significant.

Whether you tell him your age, hope he forgives you, and decides to carry on the relationship anyway, you are still too young. You do however, have it within your own power to end an unbalanced, likely unsafe (the anger in him) relationship, before it goes any further.

Try to think what is in your best interests here. You can carry on, and say nothing. You can tell him the truth and face his reaction/rejection/anger, or you can decide for yourself that you realize you are simply too young to be wading into dangerous waters. I'm talking sexual, particularly. Are you even thinking about that? He will expect more, and it sounds like you would do anything to keep him. That might be one of the things he would expect- sooner rather than later. 'Proof' that you are mature enough for a relationship, or 'proof' that you love him.

Get out while you can, and just end it. You don't owe him any explanation, other than you are not ready to be in a relationship. Period. And THAT, is the truth.