Ask Me Help Desk - I cant date but I have a boyfriend, what should I do?

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Originally Posted by Alty

They play with stuffed animals in the school yard, push each other on the swing, trade an apple for an orange at lunch, and call each other to say "Wizards of Waverly Place" is on TV, are you watching?

I can't even imagine. My 14 year old doesn't date! My 10 year old still thinks boys are great friends, but anything more is icky. She constantly tells me that she wants kids, but won't get married because kissing is gross, and so are boyfriends. I know that will change, but it shouldn't change at 10!

Right now my 10 year olds main goal is becoming a vet. That's what she wants, and has wanted for more than half her life. That may change too, but she's smart, focused, and has a goal. Boys aren't one of her goals. They're fine, and she'll likely find them more of a goal when she's a teen, but right now, it's school, studying, and friends. All is as it should be when you're 10.

After reading this, I'm eternally thankful that no matter how messed up I am, I apparently did something right when I raised my kids. Something very right!

Now I have to get back to hugging my kids. My 14 year old son is wondering why I'm smothering him with hugs. I'll explain it to him later. :)

You know something, I think your right! Thank yo for explaining this to me and p.s. I've always wanted to become a vet to!

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Originally Posted by teacherjenn4

I am totally agreeing with both of you. This little girl is the age I teach. I know exactly what happens. She won't pay attention in class. Her homework will be of poor quality and she'll be on the computer and texting instead of studying. The C's will become D's all because of a stupid idea that she wants to date! I could scream! Well, I just did and I hope her mom heard me. Mom of this little girl, why is she on the Internet speaking with strangers instead of you?

You are toatally right to! I don't even know what I'm thinking about wanting to date! Boys have coodies! I guess I just wanted to grow up faster!

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Originally Posted by maddiecake

yup and i forgot to say, i am in 5th grade sorry

Why would you go on a date with a boy when you are not allowed? If your parents find out, you will lose their trust. Is that what you want to happen? And, you need to get very high grades if you want to be a vet, so pay attention in class. No more sneaking around with a boy!

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Originally Posted by Alty

I'm screaming too.

I have a ten year old. She's not allowed on the computer unless I'm okay it. She doesn't have a cell phone even though most of her classmates (over 90%) do. She's not allowed to play outside until her homework is done and checked, and she has two parents that care about her.

This makes me want to reach through the computer and strangle someone. Not the poster. She's 10. She's a kid. But where the heck is the mother, the father, and what about the teacher? Let's face it, this is only going on in school, because she can't go on a date, she can only have a boyfriend during recess at school. This has to be stopped!

Why are kids in such a hurry to be adults, to date, to have sex, to have babies? Geeze!

You have around 16 years of your life to be a kid, 18 if you're lucky! The rest of your life is spent being an adult, being responsible, working, providing, caring for kids, and being what you need to be, doing what you need to do. The only time you have any freedom is when you're a kid. Why are you throwing that away by playing adult games?

Be a kid when you're a kid! Stop trying to grow up so fast. Trust me, being a grown up isn't that much fun. Being a kid? I'd do that again in a heartbeat. Don't blow it! Be a kid!

OMG I am so stupid trying to date! Your so right I should be me! The only thing I was thinking of was trying to be the real adult but for now on, I'm going to be me!

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Originally Posted by teacherjenn4

And yes, where is the teacher in all of this? We know our own students. We hear gossip. Hopefully, the teacher will intervene soon.

I also meant to say if you're a mom, my mom is just like yours because I can't have a phone until I'm in 7th grade and my teacher knows this and she thinks its stupid well she said ''kids'' and my mom knows now and she says no kissing and I also have a wonderful mom and dad but my mom just lost her job so that's the only thing on my mind right now

All of this is fine, but what about telling your Mom that you have a boyfriend? Wasn't that the question?

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

All of this is fine, but what about telling your Mom that you have a boyfriend? Wasn't that the question?

Yeah I told her and she said no kissing so I am totally fine now but its just that I'm totally over my boy stage for now

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Originally Posted by maddiecake

i also meant to say if your a mom, my mom is just like yours because i can't have a phone til im in 7th grade and my teacher knows this and she thinks its stupid well she said ''kids'' and my mom knows now and she says no kissing and i also have a wonderful mom and dad but my mom just lost her job so thats the only thing on my mind right now

Yes, I am a mom at home and at work to 30 kids a year. You need to talk to your parents. And my own kids got a cell phone when they got their driver license. That was age 17. If you continue to do things behind your parents' backs , you will not get a cell phone or anything you want. I'm sorry your mom lost her job. You are 10, so help her around the house with some of your free time. She will appreciate it.

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Originally Posted by teacherjenn4

Yes, I am a mom at home and at work to 30 kids a year. You need to talk to your parents. And my own kids got a cell phone when they got their driver license. That was age 17. If you continue to do things behind your parents' backs , you will not get a cell phone or anything you want. I'm sorry your mom lost her job. You are 10, so help her around the house with some of your free time. She will appreciate it.

I totally understand! And that was the only thing I kept behind her back but its okay now. And thanks for saying that! I will definitely help around the house!

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Originally Posted by maddiecake

i totally understand! and that was the only thing i kept behind her back but its okay now. and thanks for saying that! i will definately help around the house!

I hope this is for real - I just find this complete about face to be a little disconcerting.

I think OP says what she thinks people want to hear, but I have no idea why - we're strangers.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

I hope this is for real - I just find this complete about face to be a little disconcerting.

I think OP says what she thinks people want to hear, but I have no idea why - we're strangers.

I know your just a stranger but everyone still has knowledge!

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

I hope this is for real - I just find this complete about face to be a little disconcerting.

I think OP says what she thinks people want to hear, but I have no idea why - we're strangers.

My exact thoughts!

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Originally Posted by teacherjenn4

My exact thoughts!

Right?!

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Originally Posted by maddiecake

right?!?

We want to know how come you suddenly are behaving yourself. Did you get in trouble?

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Originally Posted by teacherjenn4

We want to know how come you suddenly are behaving yourself. Did you get in trouble?

No its just that I understand what you guys are saying now and I don't like getting in trouble.

p.s. and I'm normally the goodygoody out of my friends!

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Originally Posted by maddiecake

no its just that i understand what you guys are saying now and i dont like getting in trouble.

Once again, I've read your other "answers" on the adult boards, everything from pregnancy advice to marriage advice to "dog" advice. Yes, you are definitely 10.

I'm getting off this thread - I just find it impossible to believe that you took the time and trouble to open a thread about how to ask your Mom for a padded bra and then this thread about a boyfriend behind your mother's back and advice from total strangers changed your life - just impossible to believe.

Would be good if it were true - but I think you just another child (not even old enough to post on the teen board), looking for attention.

I have a 10 year old. I would never allow my 10 year old to participate on a site like this. Where are your parents? Why are they allowing you to post here, especially on the pregnancy forum, when you have absolutely no clue about pregnancy, which was very evident in your answer, or posting about marriage advice? Why would you even think you'd be qualified to give advice about marriage or pregnancy? You're 10!

Personally I think you're trolling the site. I would suggest that you get off the computer, start listening to your parents, and do something constructive with your time. Answering questions on an adult site is not something you should be doing, and it's not something you're qualified to do.

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Originally Posted by Alty

You're 10? Go play with your barbies and leave the boys alone. This makes me want to puke.

I have a 10 year old. She's not ready to date any more than you are!

What is it with kids today? Is it because of TV shows, movies? Is it the hormones in foods?

You're a child! Be a child! Stop trying to be an adult! Tell your mom that you're in over your head, that you're dating, and your so called friends are blackmailing you so that she doesn't find out.

Oi!

When mom finds out she'll put an end to this idiocy, and that idiocy includes a ten year old dating! You get new friends, because those you have aren't friends at all. You concentrate on your school work, and you worry about dating when you're 16, or older!

Geesh!

I'm going to go hug my daughter now, because thankfully she's a 10 year old with some sense!

Totally agree with you.