Ask Me Help Desk - What to do with my girlfriend??

I'd be curious to see the answer to that one as well.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

She has distanced herself from you, you said so yourself. She is not as ga ga over you and maybe she is tired of lying to her parents. Encourage her to either be honest with her parents or stop dating you. That would be the mature way to do this.
Then you two can see each other the honest way.

I took your advice thanks... she did it cause like she doesn't want us to make a mistake in having sex so were like broken up but friends with benefits type thing

What kind of benefits? What's the point if you are still seeing each other without her parent's knowledge?

How old is she?

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

How old is she?

17... ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm I can't really answer that I have no clue... well she has told her parents we both really like each other but that's about it... she says she will tell them everything when she feels they are ready for it... its like another blog about her parents

You have been dating this girl for a year and you don't know how old she is?

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

You have been dating this girl for a year and you don't know how old she is?

No she is 17... idk what the benefits are

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Originally Posted by ballar2795

she doesnt want us to make a mistake in having sex so were like broken up but friends with benefits type thing

This statement makes no sense... Friends with benefits means it's a friend that you have sex with.

I believe in a cycle Of five loves. First there is fear, then lies, then hate, then pain, then help. In my eyes, love is worth. No matter what, in the end it is worth it. So this cycle doesn't stop once you fall in it, and I think you and your girlfriend are in it. You fear losing her, you could have possibly lied to yourself saying it will get better (just a suggestion) then hate when you get into arguments and are lonely, the pain is striking you because she isn't with you now you're on this website searching for help. Sometimes in love you must be the one to prove them, even though your partner isn't showing affection. I need you to promise me ( a completely hopeless romanctic stanger) you won't let you and your girlfriends love die. You must both find worth because my friend you are in love. God or what ever religion you believe, who ever is up there, has blessed each of you with each other. To fall in love and to prove the world wrong that you won't be like the rest of the population,to let love die, and trie to move on. That you can find love at such a young age and make it last. Love is a fire, it can burn for years. Only doubts and fears ruin love. So my friend, I say to you, go show her worth, make her find worth, and both concure the world with love. It can't die trust me. Love can always find it's way.

With all do respect Genis, these are two 17 year olds who are sneaking around. This girl does not have her parents permission to date this boy and now he is upset that she is pulling away. We are not talking to adults in this situation. I'm not even sure how old she is, He says 17, then he says he's not sure.
He needs to have her be up front with her parents if he wants to continue to see her and if she wants him to back off, he needs to do so.

This is not a game. If she is not showing the same intensity for the relationship as you, you need to maybe realize she may not be the one for you. Allow her to be herself.

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Originally Posted by Genis

I believe in a cycle Of five loves. First there is fear, then lies, then hate, then pain, then help. In my eyes, love is worth. No matter what, in the end it is worth it. So this cycle doesn't stop once you fall in it, and I think you and your girlfriend are in it. You fear losing her, you could have possibly lied to yourself saying it will get better (just a suggestion) then hate when you get into arguments and are lonely, the pain is striking you becuase she isn't with you now you're on this website searching for help. Sometimes in love you must be the one to prove them, even though your partner isn't showing affection. I need you to promise me ( a completly hopeless romanctic stanger) you won't let you and your girlfriends love die. You must both find worth becuase my friend you are in love. God or what ever religion you believe, who ever is up there, has blessed each of you with each other. To fall in love and to prove the world wrong that you won't be like the rest of the population,to let love die, and trie to move on. That you can find love at such a young age and make it last. Love is a fire, it can burn for years. Only doubts and fears ruin love. So my friend, I say to you, go show her worth, make her find worth, and both concure the world with love. It can't die trust me. Love can always find it's way.

Genisis you are a stud!. thanks for all of that :)... and the past couple of days have been eye openeing to me we are together she is crazy for me again! We both have fixed this and promised that no matter what this love won't die

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

With all do respect Genis, these are two 17 year olds who are sneaking around. This girl does not have her parents permission to date this boy and now he is upset that she is pulling away. We are not talking to adults in this situation. I'm not even sure how old she is, He says 17, then he says he's not sure.
He needs to have her be up front with her parents if he wants to continue to see her and if she wants him to back off, he needs to do so.

This is not a game. If she is not showing the same intensity for the relationship as you, you need to maybe realize she may not be the one for you. Allow her to be herself.

Lady I said it she is 17 I know when her birthday is February first 1995. If you haven't noticed latly teenagers sneak behind their parents

Sneaking does not make it right, and if you are encouraging her to sneak, you are not good for her and I Hope she wises up

You didn't want advice you wanted someone to tell you want to hear.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

You didn't want advice you wanted someone to tell you want to hear.

Too true. It's obvious you only came here to find someone to agree with you.

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Originally Posted by ballar2795

genisis you are a stud!!!!!...thanks for all of that :)...and the past couple of days have been eye openeing to me we are together she is crazy for me again! we both have fixed this and promised thano matter what this love wontdie

I am glad I could help!