An 18 year old male or female?

I don't see a problem with a 20 year age difference, but when it's a child and an adult, then it's a problem.

If he was 28 and you 48, that would make a bit more sense. At 18 he hasn't experienced life, but a 38 year old surely has.

I would walk away from this, wait until he's older, and if you still feel strongly about each other then, go for it. Let him experience a bit of the world.

He'll find someone his own age and you will be really heartbroken.
I wish you would find someone your age.

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Originally Posted by jbarnes2191

i believe in live and let live we can't help who our heart falls for or who we share chemistry with. if you and him are ok with this and the many judgemental people you will run into so be it you only live once.life is to short for regrets and what ifs.

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Sorry, but it is very rare that such a relationship is built on anything more than lust. The main issue is that its exploitative.

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Originally Posted by jbarnes2191

there isnt one its ok for an old man to date a young girl but not the other way around. its the old double standard again.

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I don't know about the others but I would react similarly if the sexes were reversed.

What I said was,

"If you were a 39 year old man, asking if it was okay to date an 18 year old girl, what would you think the reaction would be. What would you think if somebody asked you that question?"

And the point being that there was no double standard here; it matters not what the sex is, but a 39 year old man OR woman, dating an 18 year old GIRL or BOY, is inappropriate in my opinion.

And you never did answer how this all came about. Are you a teacher? How did you manage to get involved with 'dating' an 18 year old in the first place.

Is this relationship actually happening, on the ouside? Do his parents know? (I presume he still lives at home with his parents).

You aren't asking if you should date an 18 year old, so I presume that you already are. And if you are OK with it, and you go to movies, out for dinner, and all the otherwise normal everyday things couples do, then why are you asking the question in the first place.

We met through friends and we chat online. I am from england, so its legal here. I am a single mum and have 2 teenagers 13 and 15. My 18 boyfriend has just turned 19 and he says age is no barrier and its not for me either. We get on well and he makes me feel wanted, something I haven't felt in a long time. The sex is good, the best I have ever had in age.
But I will take it one day at a time. Call me what you want, don't really care.
Not met his parents yet, its not gone that far in the relationship where we want to meet parents.
He is his own free spirit and he and I have chose to get close, which we both love.
Many regards to you all xx

You have four teenagers. What you do is your business. I think it's sick.

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Originally Posted by ellie321

we met through friends and we chat online. I am from england, so its legal here. I am a single mum and have 2 teenagers 13 and 15. My 18 boyfriend has just turned 19 and he says age is no barrier and its not for me either. we get on well and he makes me feel wanted, something i haven't felt in a long time. the sex is good, the best i have ever had in age.
but i will take it one day at a time. call me what you want, don't really care.
not met his parents yet, its not gone that far in the relationship where we want to meet parents.
He is his own free spirit and he and i have chose to get close, which we both love.
many regards to you all xx

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As long as you are happy and you realize that people, meaning family and friends along with co-workers might talk behind your back. You have made it really clear that you don't care what people call you.

I have to ask though, why did you ask us if it is wrong?

To me, you DO care, or else why go on a website and ask.

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Originally Posted by ellie321

I am a single mum and have 2 teenagers 13 and 15.

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You have two teens not much younger than your boyfriend. Are you concerned about what they are thinking?

Is part of your reason for asking if it is 'wrong' to date him due to mixed feelings about what if it were one of your children wanting to date someone your age?

I wish you the best of luck and happiness.

This is great, your kids and your boyfriend can hang out together, seeing as they're very close in age. Ya, that was sarcasm.

You have a child that's not even 4 years younger than this child you're having sex with.

I have to ask, how would you feel if your 15 year old dated a woman over 20 years older than him? You okay with it?

Its not illegal if that what your asking but its gross

Lmao! I was got "picked up on" on Friday. I work at a bank and I was helping out this young man with his account problems. When ever he comes in I thought he was flirting with me but just wasn't sure (yes I am that out of touch!) So he comes in and says he has to update his address and info too.. he writes it all down and after I enter it he tells me to keep it.. I laugh nervously and told him I was going to be 40 next year and that he was only a year older than my son (my son will be 21 at the end of the year).. he did the up and down check out of me and said that I was in his words "hella sexy and attractive" mind you, I can't stand slang ! Lol so that goes to show you our age gap.. I thanked him and had to walk him to the door (it was the end of the day at the bank and the doors were closed).. when I opened the door he touched my hand and said "call me".. weird I felt this intense electricity go through me when did that.

So today I sign on to Facebook and I have a message.. no I did not give him my info he said he did a search for me (I have a unique name).. I politely let him down, thanked him for the major ego boost and declined. He said age was just a number.. I told him if I was 10 years younger I would go for it but I'm not..

If you want to debate opinions, start your own thread, or take it to the member discussion forum, and its wise not to put too much personal info on an Internet site.