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  • Jul 10, 2010, 09:33 AM
    Mikelreal
    Am I too desperate?
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    Never felt this way before... Their is this girl we 've been friends for like 2yrs... Ok, I don't like long posts,so I will try and make mine as short as possible..

    I asked her out like 4 months ago,and she said she wasn't ready for any relationship.. so I kind of stopped calling her for a while,next she started complaining blablabla... so I started calling. On her birthday,she insisted I take her out which I did,then she said somethins she noticed about me,e.g am too she and jealous,and wants me to change.
    Ok,her best friend gave me a cal,and told me how she keeps talking about me etc... I so much LOVE her,so I decided to let her know how I feel,and what am going throug..
    Well,she said she will think about,that she doesn't want anything to affect her education.. etc.
    After a week,I got no reply or text,so I decided to text her,told her about what she is doing to me.. only for her to reply saying I should stop being "Desperate" and let her think..
    I just want to know if telling someone how you feel repeatedly iz "desperate". I already told her I will never bug her again.
  • Jul 10, 2010, 10:52 AM
    positiveparent

    Then stick to what you say about never bugging her again, let her do the running.

    It appears she thinks you're too desperate so back off and leave her to come to you.
  • Jul 10, 2010, 12:11 PM
    CarrotTalker

    She sounds like she likes the attention but doesn't want to go out with you. Or she simply is too mixed up in her own head. Or likes another guy more than you.

    Personally, I'd cut my losses and not waste any more time.
  • Jul 10, 2010, 12:38 PM
    Devorameira

    I think it is pretty desperate when you keep telling her, especially when you haven't actually formed a romantic relationship with the girl yet.

    Slow down and take things slowly. Girls don't find whining or desperation too attractive in a guy,
  • Jul 10, 2010, 02:07 PM
    Mikelreal
    Comment on Devorameira's post
    Yeah you re right,but I wasn't like,calling her everyday or you know.. whining¿¿¿¿, here was someone that,if don't call her for a week,she gets angry. Suddenly am now too desperate.. now I know better. Thanks. :)
  • Jul 10, 2010, 02:37 PM
    talaniman

    You mean you couldn't just take her first rejection, and left her alone? My gosh, let her get mad, and go about your own business, FINALLY! I would have had 10 dates with someone else by now. Why haven't you??
  • Jul 10, 2010, 03:29 PM
    Alty

    I thought you learned to stay from her 4 months ago. Guess not.

    The advice I'm going to give you is to read all the advice given to you in your first thread (which has been merged with this one) and this time, instead of pretending to follow NC, actually do it.

    How many times do you have to stick your hand in the fire before you realize it hurts?
  • Jul 11, 2010, 12:42 AM
    Mikelreal
    Comment on talaniman's post
    Lol! Tanx
  • Jul 11, 2010, 12:44 AM
    Mikelreal
    Comment on Altenweg's post
    Hmm, yeah I get your point. @talaniman just got me lol

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