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An update:

We spent a total of 7 hours in a car together because he was nice and drove me to visit my friend on his way home for the weekend and the trip there we were mostly listening to music and joking around and I met his family briefly before my friend picked me up. Didn't hear from him the whole weekend but I assumed that's because he wanted to let me enjoy time with my friends.

However on car ride back, we both got into deep conversations about situations with old ex friends and then ex partners. He finally opened up about his ex to me and I did the same. How did I feel about that? I felt like I was 'getting closer' to him and how he's a great friend and I even mentioned that to him and he agreed and said how he wished we met earlier.

However in talking about his ex I know she still has an emotional hold over him. I think although he says he's moving on, he's not over the relationship fully and even disclosed he would be upset if she were with a guy and she would flip if he started seeing people but he said he's ready to... hah not quite sure about that.

After the car ride we came back and I noticed that he started joking around with me a lot more. Like teasing me and throwing snow balls at me... and then we went to grab dinner together... and I'm happy to say I'm content where we are at... no rush.

:)

No need to rush. Just build on this connection.

Let things flow naturally.

Sounds good so far, just enjoy getting to know each other but don't get carried away that's all, as there truly is no rush!

don't mean to carry this on... but another situation has arose! Mans opinion valued! ****

sooooo after becoming super close to him these last 2 months. We have so far established that we like each other (drunk exchange) and have only kissed on 2 occasions (I was drunk once, he was drunk once).

HOWEVER my roommate finally approached him when we were out drinking and he admitted how much he cared for me but doesn't want anything serious and said how he just got out of a relationship blah blah blah and that he doesn't want to hurt me and be a . That night, we got into a fight (non related) for the first time and he told me: YOU REMIND ME OF MY EX. To which I stormed outside to isolate myself. When I came back inside. He told me that he just wanted to forget about what happened and move on and that he wasn't mad. We basically kissed and made up... without the kiss.. and I slept over his room that night.

sinceeeee that night... he has 1) called me more frequently ( I'm talking atleasttt 3x a day) 2) sees me more frequently at unnecessary times ( for ex, he wanted me to wake him up in his room one morning... um he has an alarm clock lol) 3) we spend so much more 1 on 1 time than ever... but nothing physical EVER happens.

so is it true actions speak louder than words? Or is this really going nowhere and he just wants to be close friends?

we go to dinner, the movies together etc etc... never a kiss goodbye. But he's with me more than anyone else? But never makes any advances at me. I don't know what to think.

and is his past relationship a real excuse to why he isn't ready or just bull?

SOOOO CONFUSEDDDDD. He's such a good guy. Id hate to just settle for friendship.

Maybe its you trying to force things and he is trying to take it slow.

After just two months, that physical stuff only complicates things, and makes feelings so intense, that we think lust is love.

You better slowdown, and pay attention, because he has enough experience to be cautious, and let things develop, at a more reasonable pace.

If you feel like your wasting your time, either you're impatient, or you're selfish. Which is it? What's the hurry?

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Sounds good so far, just enjoy getting to know each other but don't get carried away thats all, as there truly is no rush!

What part of don't get carried away are you confused about??