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Why are you here?
You wanted an answer but you seem to have already made your mind.
So you can continue to lie to yourself if you want.
You know why he gives you money for your studies?this makes him feel like what he does to you is not that bad cause in a certain way he pays for it .
I'm sure when he sleeps with you he goes back home with some gifts for the children.
Gifts for everybody so he will not feel guilty!
People do what they want to do. If this man wanted to leave his wife for you, he would.
You are being cast in the role of a home-wrecker, an adulterer, the "other woman," and a cheater. Is that the way that you want to be thought of?
It takes two to tango; you're just as responsible for this situation as he. You could stop it if you wanted to. But, you don't want to.
People do what they want to do.
I can't because I know that he won't. We have only been seeing each other for 7 months. I don't even think that I have a right to do that. He probably thinks that because of the age difference I will not stay with him forever. I don't remember if I mentioned that I am 23 and he is 43. I really don't feel like I have a right to ask him thatQuote:
Originally Posted by Romefalls19
I am here because it is not like that you make up your mind and that is it. No, you have second thoughts and doubts, you question your choice if you don't feel right. I do all the way along.Quote:
Originally Posted by mistyjane
I really don't think it is the reason why he helps me financially. He is just that type of person who helps people. He even helped his work colleague when he was buying an apartment and was short of some money. Of course he returned the money to him but later. He helps people at work even when he does not have to and have to sacrifice his own time.Quote:
Originally Posted by mistyjane
When we are in a situation that is wrong,hurtful and we are unhappy with where we are and who we are allowing ourselves to be,we make up our minds to change our lives.
Then we stick to our decision.
It may not be an easy thing to do,but it's for the best in the long run.
So why are you allowing your feelings to make you cross the lines of good behavior??Quote:
I am here because it is not like that you make up your mind and that is it. No, you have second thoughts and doubts, you question your choice if you don't feel right. I do all the way along.
The worst thing to do is get involved with a married man. One, because if he ends up falling in love with you and leaves his family, you will always be the bad guy, the one who "stole my man and the father of her children" if they have any. You will never have the memories this family has built from the ground up. You will ALWAYS be the second choice. My own experience recently, I have been divorced for many years, a married man I worked with from another office site, started to call many times a day, and would speak to me not anyone else. He made his way to my place of work to meet me , even though I would tell him "what for, you're married" and continued calling so much the other staff members were saying things like, why does he call, he's going to hurt you, and mind you there was nothing happening yet. So he comes from another town to see me one day, the drive is between 1 1/2 to 2 hours away, one-way. The day he was alone with me he kept touching my face, my hands, arms and said he had thought about sex but know I had a boundary I would not cross. We mostly talked, when he would leave he would hold me like he never wanted to let me go. These visits repeated themselves. Never sex. He would say things that I felt were telling me I meant a lot more to him. Then all of a sudden, he lost interest, after 5 weeks of not seeing him, he had taken the wife on vacation, I got him to answer the phone and he decided to come see me, he acted like he always did. Then when he was gone he started to treat me like I was a pest. Like he never knew me and I have never heard from him since, its been about 2 or 3 months, yet I was ALWAYS there for him when he needed me.. So my advice to you is to turn your back and walk away from him like HE never existed. Do IT!! You'll get over it before you know it and you'll feel so much better about yourself.
I think he does like you n so what if he's married he finds in you what she doesn't give him good luck with that if you love him stay with him nobody is meant to stay together one day he might leave her. But look at it this way you have the fun part of him while she's stuck with all the dirty work cleaning washing cothes and being a boared house wife best of luck and so what if your his sex toy everybody is a sex toy when it comes to sex.
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