Sorry, I didn't mean to seem attacking. Had the case been that you did want a chance with him while he was engaged, I'm sure you must understand why my answer was so passionate.

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Originally Posted by jaime90

Sorry, I didn't mean to seem attacking. Had the case been that you did want a chance with him while he was engaged, I'm sure you must understand why my answer was so passionate.

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Thank you for the advice I understand :)

This may seem like a strange question, but how exactly did you find out that he is 'engaged'?

I notice that it seems to be taken for granted that his 'engagement' is real, but could the information be out of date or from someone (not necessarily your friend, but the person who told your friend) trying to cause problems? Do you have any other sources that back up the friend's information?

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Originally Posted by gia23

That would be hard since we do a lot of business on his club.. i can't ignore a person who is always there... would it be a good idea to put him on his spot in our next encounter? or ask him what his intention?.. he doesn't know that i know that he his in fact engage?

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As hard as it might be, I wouldn't do that.

Try to put on your best business personna, and think of only business. If he approaches you, say that this isn't the place to discuss this, give me a call later.

If he calls, then ask him outright, if he's engaged or not. That was a good point, that somebody in the background may just be trying to stir the pot so to speak. Let him tell you.

If he is engaged, then let that be known that's the end of it. To get involved with an engaged man is nothing but trouble, and automatically puts you in second and hidden place.

If he's not engaged, then ask him out, and see where it goes. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

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Originally Posted by Cat1864

This may seem like a strange question, but how exactly did you find out that he is 'engaged'?

I notice that it seems to be taken for granted that his 'engagement' is real, but could the information be out of date or from someone (not necessarily your friend, but the person who told your friend) trying to cause problems? Do you have any other sources that back up the friend's information?

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Mmm I never thought of that! But yes I will find out heading there tomorrow. So we will see :) thank you again