Rewindtime,

Thanks for the reply, in all honesty, I had forgotten about this forum and forgot about this question I asked YEARS ago.

With that being said, I say get out of the relationship. The loneliness you feel will only get worse. He really does not care about you or his wife, he only cares about himself. Although at the time, I would have said he loves me, I love him, he loves his wife, but he's just stuck in the relationship. Now looking back, I say he is selfish because why would a person hurt a person he says he cares about? He hurt me and his wife because she eventually did find out and had proof of the relationship.

Although I don't have a boyfriend right now, I do have someone that cares about me and vice versa. I get to talk to him when I want and not worry about certain times of the day when we can speak. I'm dating and so much happier. I don't have to spend nights being lonely because I want to be with him.

I'll tell you it was HARD getting over it and I think about him from time to time. I even tried just being friends, he didn't want that and I eventually discovered he was not the person I thought he was. I had never experienced heartbreak like that before. I thought he was my soulmate, but now I know he's not because I would NEVER cheat on a person I was married to. I would leave the relationship if I truly loved someone else; and I wouldn't keep the one I claimed to love just waiting for me. I understand he got you a house, those are just things he got because he wanted to and I think a little bit of insurance that you'll stay. I'm sure he does have feelings for you, just as I'm sure my guy had feelings for me, but he is not the type of person I would want to spend the rest of my life with. I want a person that can make up his mind about what he wants and not hurt me.

I got a LOT of angry replies and Private Messages, but no one really knew what I was going through or how I felt.
My advice again is to break it off and NEVER speak to him again. It will be hard, but in the end will be worth it for your own sanity. I'm so upset I wasted so many YEARS, over 4 or them, "with" him. I know you are going to do what you want because I know I did, but in time I'm sure you'll come to your senses. I'm glad I did.

Some of us on here are so quick to judge, just remember you may be wearing that same hat one day, it takes two to tangle. I am not blaming one person over the other because we never now people reasons for doing the things they not supposed to do, but I do know we all have done wrong; we all have been in bad situations, I would just say get out and work on loving self. There are married men and women who play games with people by tell the other party they are not married or involved. I knew a man whose wife was over seas fighting the war, he showed no signs of being married, until 5 months later I was at his home and his wife showed up. I was beginning to have feelings for this man; he was the "perfect gentlemen," until then. We don't know how it all begun. I know a lot of people are not so honest and have serious issues and tend to soak others into there web of lies.